What to do when another woman is making a play for your DP?

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My DP has acquired a female fan. She has always been overly friendly with him but appears to be ramping things up.

She has asked him to help her assemble a bed and he has agreed to help her. Apparently she then said to him that it’s great to have a friend with benefits (meaning his furniture assembly skills).

I’ve just told him to be careful and have an excuse ready in case she makes a move. He doesn’t seem bothered but I’ve been thinking about this tonight and I’m not sure how comfortable I am with him helping her out.

Tell me I’m being silly and should just get a handle on my jealousy.

His colleague has now asked him to move another bed 20 miles away to another family member. My DP is not happy about this at all

Sorry but hahhahhahahahaha.

Are you going to go with him op? Is the second job straight after? Or a different day? I just wondered if she/he was looking for an excuse to keep him out longer, under a pretence?
I’d go with just to be on the safe side and he should say no to the second job!

We are back! In the end, we just dropped the bed off.

Good for you! hope she appreciated it!!

She didn’t seem particularly grateful if I’m honest.

I wonder why lol.
I think your dp has made your points though. Hopefully she’ll back off.

I purposely haven't read the other posts but I would say, 'nothing at all'. This isn't for you to fend off, it's for your partner to do that. You will just look like a madly, jealous woman.

The most I think you should do is say to your partner that you won't be made a fool of and that you have zero tolerance for nonsense - and that you would expect him to say the same to you were the situation reversed.

You don't own him - he owns him - and he is the one to decide who gets him. Let him demonstrate his loyalty and expect nothing less.

Good result! Hopefully she has learnt that dh is not her personal handyman!

Can’t believe she expected him to transport another bed 20 miles! What a cheek!

No I don’t suppose she is. She didn’t expect you to turn up!

She sounds like a right cheeky cow 😂 I sooo hope your dh doesn't drop the other bed off! I'd tell her to hire a van man!

Didn't see your updates either OP. Feeling his bum? And he didn't stop her? He will do this again, it feels too nice to have his ego stroked. Urgh.

Have you met her before?

She wouldn't have like the reminder that he's not single and not at her beck and call.

Initially I thought she was using pretexts to schoomze your partner, now it seems like either a convenient (to her) combo of getting tasks done and schmoozing, of she's not truly interested in schmoozing him/going after him and is just flirting and playing damsel in distress to get stuff done when she wants it.

She'd certainly Becky anyway.

Still hmm about the bum groping, just flirtation taken too far with alcohol or actually interested.

She may just be a damsel in distress,queen bee type who flirts and manipulatives across the board to get help when she needs it

*necky!

Any suggestions your partner should have backed away from her and seriously discouraged after the grope - hope he's wised up now.

*Anyway

Do you have Dc? Perhaps he could take them with him to help with his diy skills

How bizarre to have the gall to ask another woman's husband to help with a bed and make friends with benefits comments. I understand him telling you if he was going to refuse otherwise what are you supposed to say? ' sounds like you're in there?'

Of course he shouldn't go. He should volunteer one if his songle frriends instead.

This thread just popped up on my radar and my God if it doesn't make me think of a couple of colleagues at work

Female colleague I don't particularly like, who is always trying to neg me. Older than me by some way, but always implies we are the same age and then follows it up with, comments that imply the error is a easy mistake due to my looks.

A bit of a viper in general, over time I've noticed a nakedly needy attitude to men and sex that reminds me of the Harry Enfield Young Man Sketch

A man with a long term partner moved to our team a while ago there's been 2/3 work nights out since then due to different reasons and he won't come.

He said he can't trust his behaviour unless he's sober but I think part of it is, he's scared of finding himself alone with her and her trying something and her word against his.

A weird reversal of the familiar story.

But I've known her a lot longer than he has and he's right it's exactly what she'd do.

So he protects himself by not allowing himself to be in that position

Nothing she does at work would constitute sexual harassment but we both are "on to her" in terms of her behaviour in both this and other respects.