Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I wrote him off as incompatible because he's erm less blessed and he'd been flaky just when I was very grumpy. But, we like each other and he's easy to be with. Nice reassuring dad bod, don't feel fat with him (iykwim) and he fancies me a lot which is very nice for me. There's a bit of something.

Do you fancy him War?

Yes I do I suppose . He's no stunner, pretty much the same age and definitely looks like a pleasant normal human but he looks like a fanciable celeb and we def clicked /charmed each other when we first met. I think we wouldn't look odd together iykwim. Like two solid 6.5s

And he is a very lovely kisser. Very.
After a very long time with someone who wasn't, that is v v nice. I'm very comfortable with him physically I think. He's very safe.

warispeace this sounds very nice. Do you think you could catch feelings?

Any advice on how NOT to catch feelings. Obvs I had no resolve and invited mr S back in. I feel so comfortable with him. Feelings are growing. But he’s been clear he’s not ready. I need to protect myself.

WarIsPeace easy to be with and safe is all good. But is there a spark or he is just a comfortable option?

Last night with Mr TooYoung was good. But I have failed at nc with Mr Two Years. I must get a grip and just stop!!!

notcoolmum it's good he is being honest about things but hard of you are get the feelings and he is holding back. Sorry I can't remember if you said are you exclusive? If not then seeing others too might help?(to keep the feelings in control)

There is a lot of value in a lovely kisser WarIs

Notcool difficult not to catch feelings without having something you really dislike about them I find. Does he have any annoying habits? One bloke I was seeing kept sniffing even when he didn’t have a cold. In my loved up haze it didn’t bother me but I know in a few years it’s the sort of thing I would have cheerfully murdered him for.

You can do it Pony make today your new day one of NC.

MIA your sniffer totally made me laugh!!

Thanks for the support on the nc.. New day one in progress!!

Oh yes a lovely kisser is a definite plus ... and stop putting yourself down War - you're the prize remember!!

warls kissing is really important, I don’t think I could be with a bad kisses, kissing is a huge turn in so it needs to be good.

I agree, kissing is very important.

@WarIsPeace I think I feel similar to you with Mr S. he's not amazing looking, but he fancies the pants off me and I do fancy him. I feel very (too, probably) comfortable with him.

Looks are not everything, of course you need to be attracted to them in some way. Mr SA not exactly good looking but he does it for me, the kissing is good, sex is good and conversation is good. I would like for him to fancy me more in a non sexual way (I like a man to tell me how amazing my personality is and how pretty I am). If someone fancies the pants off of you it’s a good feeling, boosts the ego and confidence.

When do you tell someone you really like them? I’m always scared to tell someone how I feel because I’m scared of them disappearing or not feeling the same way, I think sometimes I come across as being a bit cold hearted and a hard faced bitch because I’m useless at saying how I feel. Yesterday was awkward talking about “what we are”, I probably said the wrong thing as I was trying to play it cool and I think he was possibly doing the same.

lovemusic i feel the same about telling how you feel. It feels like I have less control once I say so it is a self protection factor but can come across as cold. Hope things can work out with MrSA.. Good that he is up for having those conversations

ponyprincess not just comfortable no, there's a mutual attraction. Current plan, go with the flow and see.

shitwith The date was lovely. They always are. I enjoy every minute I spend with him. Any update on Mr Rugby? Have you sorted out Mr Indie yet. Did you read my DM btw?

lovemusic I’m the same. I practice what I want to say in my head. But the. The words don’t come out. It is best to know though.

warispeace good kissing is very important. I could kiss Mr S all day.

And warispeace you have described how I feel about Mr S. although I like to think he’s a 6 and I’m a 7. 😂😂

Question for fab users...
I joined last night, I have so many messages but I cannot keep up to who I liked/ replied to as you cannot see the full exchange- how do you keep track??

Marlborough you can look at 'sent messages' which helps a bit. I made a spreadsheet with username, name, age and anything else.
But in the end I splashed out and bought membership. The £5 bit is not exact true. Minimum you can pay is £12.50 for 120(?) days. It has made messaging much easier.

Sorry that last post was for Marlboroandmalbec34 blame autocorrect!

spreadsheet. I am in awe.