Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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I agree it's stranger than 'back in the day', Suburban, and I for one still don't feel particularly comfortable with multiple dating - except I know I don't want a 'proper' relationship, and I'm open about that with people I'm seeing. OLD is not an excuse to play games with people, or to be anything other than honest and kind with them even when things get tricky and you know it's not working. Unless the person gets arsey of course.

As for the way guys get discussed here - yup, not for the faint-hearted, but it's all anonymous I guess.

Well I've had a lovely conversation today with Mr TooFit whilst he's been away. Got a bit sexual, which I had to pull back on as I've not met him and he's away for a few weeks 😫😫😫.

Looks like the pic did the trick then lifegoes.

Sexual flirting is part of the flirt

shitwithsugaron the Mr Indie situation sounds hard-you need to decide what you want but sounds like you want something more or different than he has to offer. Don't settle

myold and everyone who said go no contact with Mr Two Years.. Thank you I need to here it but it is soooo hard

Fwb here soon for distraction - - happy nights to all!

It certainly did surburban but still I need to keep myself grounded.

So!
Met mr S (from fab- fb/fwb). We were supposed to meet on Friday but both got horny and met on Thursday instead had the most AMAZING time. He then came back yesterday and we went for dinner and drinks then back to the hotel and he stayed the night.
The sex was out of this world. He left this morning and has just messaged to ask if we can be exclusive....
I don't know what to reply, I don't want a relationship and he says he doesn't, but we could agree not to see anyone else... he also keeps messaging to say that he can't stop thinking about me.

I am not sure if he is playing a very 'good' game or what. He is an experienced 'fab' with a lot of verifications etc so this seems strange.

Does sound odd from an experienced fabber ( I was on there) .
I guess he might want you on tap. Saying he's exclusive but actually not.

That would be my guess. And in my experience, fab dudes will say absolutely anything...

@SurburbanTwist he even offered to change his fab account to a couples account I declined that offer.
He says I excite him and interest him more than anyone on fab has before. All very strange. I don't want commitment, just want a regular shag

I think he wants you on tap, too (another Fab veteran here). Fine if you want to, but not really the point of Fab ...

Relationships on fab do happen . Even if it's Fab couple ( as in just FBs)

But all seems a bit full on after 2 meets. If the sex is good, you have him hooked anyway. Lol

@30somethingandsingle Have you only met a couple of times? I'd be worried that he's lovebombing you from what you posted. Any other red/amber flags? Narcissists don't show their true colours until months later.

I do think Fab has more than the norm in regards to loons.
Not saying he is, but some of the forum shit on there is hysterical and worrying

You ladies will know more than I , but some of the dudes who think they deserve a fuck are mental. !

30something I’m guessing he wants to be exclusive as he wants you to himself and is worried you are seeing others. It’s not unusual for someone on FAB to want to be exclusive or be in a relationship, some men are on there because they are open to “just having sex” whilst waiting for relationship material. One guy I met a year or so ago was on a similar sight because he had given up looking for a relationship after many failed attempts, he was a lovely guy and obviously did want a relationship but was happy to have a hook up whilst waiting. I do think that some men just tell us what they think we want to hear so they can keep us coming back for more and this maybe the case.

Hope people having dates tonight have a great night. I’m sulking as Mr SA is working away all week, luckily it’s also my period week so he’s probably best out the way. He has messaged me a lot this evening saying what a great time he had and checking I’m ok (I had a bit of a sex injury and I have no idea how it happened as he’s so gentle) 🤣.

Oh god 30something that is all I want too!! It really shouldn’t be this hard!!!

On way home.
Just had dinner and a drink.
We met in a really busy place so was hard to talk much unless we went outside as and when.
Mr Russian said he was sorry for not coming my way but needed more notice or something.
Apparently his working hours change often and he can leave or start at different times.
Hmm still not quite sure what sort of place it is other than warehouse work.
Basically I didn't manage to have the chat with regarding where this is going.
He did say he will come to my area next weekend though..

Tinder has logged me out and won't let me log back in - is it trying to tell me something?!

We have met 3 times, been chatting a few weeks.
I think I am old and straight enough for him to not be so stupid as to think I can be won over by compliments and 'promises', I've made it perfectly clear that I have no interest in playing the field and I just want a regular fwb. He says that fab has been great and that he has had loads of hook ups on there and some regulars but never with the same sexual chemistry (I cannot deny this is true!) and he feels jealous at the thought of me with someone else....
This is the same guy that had a hookup with someone else last week and lied about where he was (I posted about it earlier) I was annoyed he lied when we were just generally chatting.
I think I am going to proceed with extreme caution but I worry he may have killed the sexual chemistry between us! If so... next!

As I said, I'm very dubious about fab 'truth' I say go forward with caution and see what happens.
He might be interesting.

In similar news I went to le boudoir a few weeks back. Worth a spin !

It's actually made me go on and look for another less complicated fwb!  why is finding someone who wants a shag once or twice a week with a bit of not so common fun so difficult?

@SurburbanTwist thanks, will have a look!

Depends where you are . It's central London.

And yes, fwbs always so hard to find a great one.

Unexpected twist for me.
I've sent Mr Classy a polite no thanks message yesterday after Friday afternoons meeting /interview

And yesterday I had a friendly text from my first ever iron Mr Sales who I first got back on the horse with around Xmas and saw a few times. Spent a few hours together last night and it was very nice indeed. He's definitely at high risk of catching feelings but we'll probably repeat it...
Not sure what's happening but something works and I slept well