Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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@life yes, agree ish. But a little tease pic gets the attention and sparks the chat.
Dude on holiday has spare time , so should be available for chat

Tooold. I agree, and surburban is right. This is who I am, I am a very sexual person and I like to have that back. So me trying to hold back is going against who I am.

I like sending the look what you missing.

I've tested the water with a bath long leg shot. I've played safe and said is your view better than mine.

Yes something saucy is fine lifegoes - go for it.

And I've just realised Mr Sailor wouldn't be that sort of guy, which is probably shows we aren't suited!

And @notcool.. you do what you are comfortable with.

I was shocked how readily woman are to send filth. I know 'dick pics' get flack, but so many woman will send underwear, boobs , open legs ... no face , but filth very soon after chatting

Notcool you must do it. I would actually advise anyone to spend time when in the bath or maybe getting ready. Even have some alone "play" time. Take photos/videos. Store them. They come in so handy now and again 😉

I wouldn't say must

You clearly like it , and agree a leg shot etc is a perfect tease.
It's not for everyone

I've just had a photo message from a guy I'd stopped messaging over a week ago as he was sleazy & rude (not in a good way).

A few days ago he sent a message to say I was a time waster - because I said no to going to his the previous weekend for a shag.

I'd forgotten all about him.... Then tonight I get the pic message of what I presume is him having a bj....

what a tit

You know what I can't get used to with OLD. Is having to actually put myself out there, take the risks, step out my comfort zone and actually chase a man a bit.

I don't think I could handle the knock back. But fuck it. I only live once and plus I'm a bottle of wine down.

I'll update you IF he replies

Comedy I would reply back with, she needs teaching on her technique from what I can see. But enjoy

Wine and OLD , the perfect Friday combo !

Mix in some hottie and a late night , and it puts a smile on the face.

Damn , I almost miss it !

Being a good boy !

lifegoes I have a huge back catalogue of pics too 😂

Mr SA has invited me to his place tomorrow, I haven’t been there yet so will make a change, he obviously thinks we are spending the day in bed judging by the comments he keeps making, not sure how I feel about things as they seems to be swaying towards FWB rather than a relationship. I shall see how things go tomorrow, will try and find out what he actually wants, if it’s just FWB then it will probably be the last time we see each other.

@batshit.. don't we all love ;)

Batshit always keep them. Ha ha. I've seen myself send pictures from two years ago and be all "I'm doing this right now, you?"

Always keep a catalogue 😉

You have a nice woman now surburban no need to miss it.

You know what I mean. And it's the thrill of the chase. Again terrible, but it really is.

And as long as the pics aren't that old. I was victim a couple of times to very old pics and dates carrying a bit of extra weight in reality.

So explain to me the chase, how does it work from your side surburban

lifegoes I’ve sent ‘I’m just wasting a towel’ type photos with a bit of leg but not an out and out Sexting photo.

surburban you are letting your misogyny show...

Just the swiping, the match , the first chats and see how it goes.
Probably doing that with a few at the same time of an evening...

Chat is flirty , innuendo, seeing how it goes. If I felt I wanted to chase , suggest WhatsApp.
A little of that and then suggest a date, drinks in London. For me , I would probably have decided if she was someone to date , or someone to ONS if possible ( as in i already knew she didn't tick my must have boxes )
If thought just ONS potential, I'd ramp up the innuendo / sexual chat to see how far is possible, that can make the date much simpler if both want a ONS.

That in a nutshell. Rinse and repeat daily, weekly , monthly....

Just trying to add a different view to the thread

What, the view from the type of man we are all trying to avoid while dating? 😂 FWIW don’t bother giving your ‘view’ on any of my posts. The only male views I’m interested in are the ones coming from decent men with manners.

Love I hope tomorrow steers in the direction you’re looking for.

Life I don’t see why you should hold back from sending risque photos if it’s something that’s important to you. Especially if you can’t be identified in them. Have fun!

To be fair, life I was actually thinking that when I saw it

Notcool that's still a good photo though

Surburban how do you know from texting only? I'm interested from a mans point of view. I know from myside

MIA it's gone. Let's see if I get a reply 👀

Comedy great minds. did you say anything back?

Well I had some key things...

Attraction - date v shag , two different things
Age, job , kids , wants kids , location etc etc.

To date / long term is one set and needs all ticked, to have drinks and flirt no always the case.

And MIA , I am actually a decent man with manners .
Just in the world of dating it's a different game.

Your view if dating and mine , are just a little different

Surburban do you think most men think like that?
I ask that, as I think this guy in my book was relationship. But sending the pictures might put me in ONS category.