Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Could you not kind of.....lag his pelvic bones? With that pipe lagging you can get from B&Q? I think it's quite reasonably priced....

(Sorry, drunk. Turning the laptop off 3...2....1.....)

So date with Mr Artist was fun in parts. But no spark. And then he totally abandoned me to get a lift home with someone he knew from the pub we were in!!

This dating to keep my options open and show me there is more than Mr S out there really isn’t going very well. We have a cinema date on Saturday. No other irons in the fire :(

@Lovemusic33 this happened to me last week and low and behold later that day he messaged so yes I think he's been looking for you!

@warriorprincessandwidowed so sorry for your loss I can't even begin to imagine how hard things are for you - take care of yourself xx

So sorry for your loss warrior
Happy belated birthday crack
I've decided to give fab a whirl, it's a bit crazy isn't it!

Thanks Focus I am secretly hoping he will message me although it was only ever a FWB there was something about him I really liked. He’s often on POF and occasionally sends me a message (before he went away) but I’m not active on their at the moment.

Mr SA didn’t message me last night which is unlike him, I messaged him in the morning but didn’t get much back, we are meant to be seeing each other tomorrow and I have rearranged child care so I can see him so he better turn up, I think tomorrow could be make of break.

So sorry for your loss Warrior. I'm glad we've made you laugh

shit bony would put me off - I like men to be solid 😂 Belated happy birthday crack

I think tonight's date with Mr Sailor is off - I asked yesterday evening what time I should get to his house and he's said 7.30. There is no way I can get home, get ready and get there by 7.30. I'd have about 20 minutes between getting in and leaving again. I've suggested later, and that I'll get a cab, but he keeps insisting he'll pick me up from the station. It's a bus then a train journey to get over there, would take about 45 minutes - no way can I do that for 7 30! Am irrationally pissed off because he doesn't seem to realise what he's asking me to do (basically get home then leave straight away) and is wittering on about that time giving him plenty of time to get ready and do a bit of housework 😕

I'm away for the weekend (family) and not even packed, and have to leave at 8.30 tomorrow morning. Feeling exasperated 😂

Rant over!!

To add - he didn't reply to my 'what time?' message until this morning so I saw it on the train to work ...

Batshit - what are you going to do?

@BatshitCrazyWoman just message and say you can't make 7:30 and then tell him the time you can make it - don't stress yourself about it. I'm sure he'll wait.

@BatshitCrazyWoman have you explained it to him that way? If he's saying it gives him plenty of time for housework etc I think I'd be blunt and say something like 'well good for you, but it doesn't give me very much time at all. I'll be ready for XX time, if you still want to collect me from the station that would be lovely but if not I'm happy to get a cab over' and if he's still being weird, bin him off as he obviously expects you to be able to perform time travel which is an unrealistic expectation

@BatshitCrazyWoman I'm right in thinking this is make or break re DTD so you want to see him so you know - drop an innuendo in that you need to make sure your ready for the night 😉😉😉

God yes Notcool that was really rude of him!!

I sent him a voice message as I was walking into my office at 7.15 this morning, saying really 8 at the earliest, and that I'd have hoped we could have sorted this out yesterday evening (when he read my 'what time' message) as working out train and bus times wasn't going to happen while I was at work (manic day today so am not sure of when I can look and message him). I said should we leave it tonight as it was going to be really rushed and I had to get hone and pack for my early start tomorrow.

He's not listened to it.

(I randomly have 5 minutes now while I'm in the same building as my phone so am able to quickly come on MN)

wishywashy6 I know you're right, I had stretch marks before I had children and didn't care then so I need to be like that now.

warriorprincess I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how awful it is for you and your children.

@StealthNinjaMum haha I'm not sure I can share on here 🙈 let's just say i had an adventurous youth

Sorry for your loss warrior xx

warrior I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope our exploits are fun for you to read and this is a very warm and welcoming thread I think.
I have a date today so will be getting nervous soon. I don't know if there will be any spark but I'm looking forward to it anyway, and hope that if there is, he at least snogs me. He's too tall for me to do the lunging

@lifegoes If you do send a photo, make sure you cut your head off 😂

the 37's IME are often nice looking but juggling young children

That is definitely true. I ended up with a 38 year old with little kids (mine are and adult and a preteen). But I’m ok with that.

I was initially a bit worried about my body and dating. But not any more. I have lost weight and gotten thinnner since meeting MrSlightlyGinger (which is what I called him, descriptively). But I am still covered in stretch marks and both my boobs and stomach are irretrievably affected by two pregnancies. The weight loss etc was not for him, btw. It’s coincidental that the results of my ongoing post-crappy relationship let’s focus on making me happier about me thing started to show around the time I met him.

He does look much better naked than I do (he looks very good indeed naked - even taking into consideration how frankly silly looking all male bodies are once they’ve got their pants off 😆) but seems to be perfectly happy. In fact he seems to be under the impression that I look amazing. That must be the ‘love goggles’. 😂

@shitwithsugaron. Glad you’ve decided. Too bony is quite a thing. And your description of it is hilarious. As is the really boring sounding sex. And even more boring sounding conversation. I think you definitely need someone more interesting all round.

It doesn’t sound like he’s thinking about you at all @BatshitCrazyWoman. I would cancel if he’s not going to be reasonable.

Happy belated birthday @crackofdoom.

Abandoning you is shocking, @Notcoolmum. At least you can conclude that he’s not for you with that attitude and no spark.

I’m sorry for your loss too @warriorprincessandwidowed. I still follow this thread (despite an apparently successful OLD experience) because I’m totally rooting for everyone else. And everyone is funny about their irons. I’m glad the thread is helping you.

Could you not kind of.....lag his pelvic bones? With that pipe lagging you can get from B&Q? I think it's quite reasonably priced....

😂

I’d be worried that the extra padding might cause even greater lag in the performance. It won’t be an improvement if he’s still thrusting away next Tuesday.

I just got asked out in a date by a 75 year old at the gym, very flattered 🤣🤣🤣 (why do none of the buff young guys ask me out?).

tellittome I feel like I've read this before, have you posted somewhere else?

I think you have to do whatever you feel comfortable with. Some people would be happy at minimal communcation between dates! But others need that constant contact like you said to keep the interest going - have you spoken to him about it and asked how he feels when you go days without barely talking?

I find that each night on my commute home I call my now girlfriend (eeek it all feels so real saying that!) and we talk for half an hour and for the rest of the night I feel happy that we've had some time together. So when we eventually marry we are definitely inviting you lot for telling me to persevere! Honestly I've never met someone I fit together so well with and we don't have to compromise who we are for the other person - we've told our parents about each other (as neither of us has children to tell) so it just feels real now. I love reading everyone elses stories still, so keep them coming - I hope everyone can find happiness the way I have through the sites. Thank you Tinder!!

Haha.

It’s probably because they’re too busy gazing lovingly at themselves in the mirror.

MrSlightlyGinger told me that he saw a young guy at the gym recently who spent 30 minutes just looking at himself and flexing his muscles.