Dating thread 149 - we live a life of oh wells not what if's

[lifegoes]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

It's not the verification as such, it's just that by reading it I can see he had sex last night and blatantly lied to me about what his plans were. It's the lying that annoys me... but should I be annoyed, afterall he is just a fb/fwb...

30somethingandsingle it depends on the arrangement you have with each other.
If you're not exclusive and he's a fb/fwb then you have to accept he will be sleeping with other women. And it's probably easier to tell you a lie than say "I'm meeting another fwb".

But I agree, I would find it hard to read about what he has been doing.

@30somethingandsingle I really don't see how you can be annoyed if it's a FB situation. I know you are saying it's because he lied about his plans but it's really none of your business . This is why I couldn't do it as I'd get emotionally involved even in that situation.

I've been contacted by a very fit looking guy on Fab. He has quite a few verifications and they are all very good.

But I think he would end up being a one time only rather than the fwb I'm looking for. Tempted to try though!

@Chocolate123 I think that's what I needed to hear. Right I'm over it and Friday is still on.

It does make me feel better that he spent yesterday trying to persuade me to meet him last night, so at least I was first choice

Are verifications actual reviews?! Not sure I could handle that!!!!

And you choose to publish them? So 30something your guy knew you’d see it? Surely best to be honest in that situation? I think I’m too fragile/prudish for this.

Aw shitwith it sounds like the honeymoon is over and you have to make the horrible decision about whether Mr Indie is someone you want to get more serious with. I’m sorry things aren’t as good as they were. You were very excited about last weekend.

No new irons for me. Still irritated about being ghosted by Mr Teacher. It’s just so bloody rude!! And afaik I still have a date lined up with Mr Artist tomorrow but the chat isn’t flowing.

Well...after swearing off OLD I went back on about a week ago. I got chatting with a guy who seemed nice on Tinder then after a fair few messages over a couple of days he just stopped messaging so I unmatched with him. I have then matched with other men on both Tinder and Bumble but no messages, even when I have messaged first on Bumble and even a couple of unmatches before we'd even messaged!

I just find OLD full of time wasters and it always makes me feel more crap about myself than just being single :(

I have also 'exhausted' all options within an 30 mile radius of me on both apps! Match.com was expensive and a bit of a slow turn around but at least people weren't time wasters as they had paid to use the site.

@Notcoolmum yes pretty much! If they are posted publicly you can read what they got up to (depending on how much they write) I quite like looking at them and then looking at the photos of other women to see what kind of woman they have been with before

shitwithsugaron I've replied! I thought it would be rude not to

30something mind blown 🤯 trip advisor for sex. Who knew?!

@Notcoolmum I just spat my coffee out!!

Morning all,
Despite not swiping on any apps for a week, I've left my profile up, and it seems to be attracting admirers! (thanks again everyone that helped me out!)

my irons so far : -

Mrs TW, who I snogged (heaven.. ), we sexted, she ghosted, got back into contact, and we're meeting tonight for a drink and a chat.

Mrs HC, who I chat with daily, and am meeting on the 16th during the day.

Mrs GD, who I've had few chats with, but she want to meet, so have arranged something for either the 15th or 16th evening.

Mrs YI, who is busy this week, and then away for a week, but is interested in meeting.

I have rules 3 & 4 firmly in mind, but am remaining hopeful!

trip advisor for sex yes! Some of the reviews are er....interesting.

Anyone know if women get reviews as well?

Mr Fit on Fab has replied that he's interesting in meeting me. And wants a regular fwb not a one off.

Brilliant notcool
Man4 - Look at you! Keep us updated please.
Myold - FWB is like casual dating I suppose?

@ATR707 welcome. I'm in a similar boat. I have posted on these threads but I don't have much to say so am lurking rather than updating.

I am on Match and loads of guys are looking at my profile and favouriting me. The majority are either too young or live so far away I won't consider it. I have struck up conversations with a couple and they 'rejected' me. A few guys have messaged me and I've messaged back to say there's no point as they're just too far away and I've ended up having lovely conversations where they've said that the local women don't seem interested in them and I've agreed that's my problem too!

I have agreed to meet up with three. One invited me to dinner but I offered to go to the town he works for lunch and he hasn't replied in three days so I guess he didn't want that. Another has invited me to dinner and I am going to suggest lunch and name a few days to pin him down. A third demanded my phone number and went a bit mental when I refused to give it to him. About ten pleading messages in minutes. He has a fake name and big city so is untraceable. I won't be responding to him again but have bought a second phone now. It was only £14.99 from Tesco. Only problem is I can't work out how to get the battery in the phone!

shitwithsugaron that's useful to know. At least I can hide reviews, if I get any.

TooOldForThis67 "FWB is like casual dating I suppose?" That's what I'm looking for. Going out/staying in as and when it suits both parties. But without the commitment of a serious relationship because I don't have the time or the mental energy to be thinking about including another person in my life and plans. If that makes sense?

@shitwithsugaron I have never been reviewed yet, So they don't go up straight away? I wonder if it's one he only just approved hence the date?
Who knows, I'm not going to ask him as it's none of my business.
He's all over me like a rash this morning, but complicated but I don't want to be in the house this evening, tempted to go and meet him for a drink again.

@shitwithsugaron omg dying here!! So funny.
The woman who left him a verification also left another guy a verification on the same day, with exactly the same wording
Anyhoo, I've tried 'dating' and it's not for me right now, I purposely set out to find a fb/fwb so hopefully we can have some fun.
He already asked if we can be more than fb's and asked if he can stay the whole night on fri...he's giving very mixed messages but I actually think he wants some company to do 'friend' stuff but is also sex mad (I think a lot of the women on fab are dtd and then leave kinda women).