Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

Oh God , the start of another long lonely weekend

Mine ended today. Massive shock and I'm so broken and hurting. I know I'll get through it because I have before but I never thought he'd do this to me

@PorpentinaScamander you're right, you can get through this. It doesn't feel like it right now but you'll be ok.  I find checking in here helps lots. You're not on your own.

@dilly123 I think Netflix is my savour. That and the spa at the local leisure centre. I never thought I'd look forward to Mondays!
Hi m going to force myself to make something from a cookery book. I have hundreds but never use them! It's all about occupying your brain x

herewegoagain thank you.

Hugs bombay. I haven't stopped crying. Luckily (?) My DC are older, and dp wasn't their dad. It means I can cry and they just hug me and bring me drinks. They are amazing.

Hi @PorpentinaScamander

Sending you a big hug

My DC are 9 and 12 and they aren't his either. They didn't even know I was seeing him as it was all secret. I have a long history of depression so I've always taught them that when mum cries constantly it's just like an illness, like a tummy upset, and it will pass.

It's so tough. You are in my thoughts. Nothing worse than heartbreak.
I just hope these men are also feeling bad in some way but they don't show it do they!

Keep being strong

Mine are 12 and 14 so a bit older and like you I have depression. Only been on the meds 3 weeks this time.
He lived with us. We had a future planned. He always talked about when we get married. We were trying for a baby.

He said he still loves me. He cried when he ended it. I hate to think he's hurting too but part of me hopes he is.

Hi everyone,
Feeling sad here too sounds strange but I can feel exactly what my face looks like to everyone & my whole body language come to that but I can't shift the feeling or even pretend I'm ok! There's no joy in anything at the moment. My DC's are 15 & 7, I feel guilty for being so miserable around them but I can't help it. I'm aching for him to message me & say he misses me.

I long for the day when I wake up & don't feel this way, I'm trying to occupy myself but have zero motivation to do anything other than sit around thinking with this ugly miserable face on..

Sorry I've no motivational words today but sending hugs xx

I'm just angry. Last week he tried to win me back saying he understands, sees all the flaws in his behaviour that led to this...

Last night, I was a stupid cow, childish and pathetic and he was breaking up with me

@bombaygin
Thank you & yes we will get there.. just wish I could fast forward a few weeks like on TV shows. Only finding comfort in crisps & biscuits today which is not good

I know how you're all feeling. My relationship ended the day after he said he wanted to live with me. He's been hot and cold for a while. I'm so heartbroken ..messaged him a few times but he's blanked me. My self esteem is zero and just wish I knew what was going on with him . It's horrible.

...and it's been almost a month

Hugs and flowers to everyone.
I've barely eaten today. I feel too sick
I've spent the afternoon with my nieces and nephew. They are small and cute. But I'm going to have to go home tomorrow and its going to kill me.
I really want to message him and tell him how much I need him but it's not fair on him. I'm trying to be strong.

It's the worst feeling. I've gone from being happy and confident and feeling so much in love for the last two years, looking forward to spending the rest of my life with him.... to feeling empty numb and desperate.

I’m four months in. Dumped me by text after 16 months. One message at 4.30 to say how much he loved me then one at 4.33 to say he couldn’t do it anymore. I was broken afterwards. I’ve had 17 weeks of NC and it does help. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, I can see it but it still seems a bit far away. Massive love to all of you xx

They don't realise what it does to our self worth and esteem. I just don't understand what goes on in men's heads. To be able to say they love us and then suddenly give us silent treatment with no explanations or closure

Oh @bombaygin

I'm so sorry another human being has made you feel like this & if you are in need of AD's then please go see your GP.. it's not a sign of weakness in fact quite the opposite.

Tonight I've actually started a little turn around, I've in the past always used food as a comfort & have always battled with my weight but lost 5 stone in the past couple of years ironically in my mind it was to make him like me again after our 2nd relationship. When we got together last time my weight loss & continuing effort keeping it off caused arguments he said I was obsessed & moaned if I didn't want a take away, he said I was mentally ill... I have binged on crap for 2 days & I refuse to let him control my emotions to such an extent, I need to get a grip of myself, I will not slip back into old habits.. tomorrow my thoughts & my food will be healthy.

The way these men have treated us says so much more about them than it does about us.. I will stop thinking I'm not worthy of him because I am worthy of so much more.. He can just get the fuck out of my head & go fuck himself.... For someone who has so many character floors he will never find someone who will love & support him like I would have.

Love & strength xx

@bombaygin use whatever you need to survive. These men can really need with your head and you don't need that xx

@Dilly it's so good to hear you have found some fortitude, strength to turn things around!

I really want to text him. We are stuck living together due to lease & funds but he's staying with his mum/brother as much as possible.

I felt so relieved earlier like it was such a weight off my mind... All the freedom... But now I just want to share crappy jokes and pointless things just to feel some connection there. I can't believe he'd want to throw away 8 years of our lives like this. Our poor DD caught in the middle. I'd do anything to make it work but it's like talking to a brick wall.

Have found it hard today. Have been busy but still came back to an empty house .. keep thinking of him out there with someone else . I know I can't have him back but it doesn't stop the Hurt...l don't want to end up in the dark place I was last time .and it does feel different...but thoughts creep in .. .

Morning everyone,
As promised I have continued to block negative thoughts from my mind this morning.. up early & keeping busy!! Last night I made a list of all his character & physical faults (almost posted it ) & it helped me greatly.. I was definitely hanging on to something I'd spent 6 years chasing & the reality is it wasn't all that great!! He is not all that great so fuck him & good luck finding someone else who put up with his shit!!!

Ladies we are the dogs bollocks & don't forget that!!

dilly well done. Sounds positive!

Sadly I don't think I'll ever meet anyone like him. And he'll meet someone who can give him what he wants. Or at least doesn't have children which is the reason he gave.

Ah well. Life goes on!