Well here I am on mumsnet, I'm a guy as my name might suggest. I've spent time trying to find a place a man can find a compassionate ear but it's actually very difficult. So if anyone can suggest a forum then I'd be very grateful. But as I'm here and struggling I'll just write a small bit about a very hard two years I've been through. Before I do I will accept and acknowledge that my situation is nothing compared to many others, but I really am finding things difficult.
I married an amazing woman in August 2016. She actually proposed to me and I accepted with the biggest smile. However in February 2017 she told me out of the blue that it's over, I moved out and eventually found a nice place to rent. Over the next year or so she kept calling me, coming round for coffee, we'd go out for a meal or a drink, we'd go for walks in the summer through the fields and along the waterside. She would even spend the night at my place quite often. Throughout all this time I would tell her how much I loved her and that I would love for us to fix any if the issues that she thought we had in our relationship. She never actually told me of any, in fact she would say how wonderful I am and how I shouldn't change as I'm such a lovely man. But she would make it clear that we were not together and that I should move on.
Its worth mentioning that she does suffer with mental health issues and is menopausal. And by her admission the menopause is causing her all kinds of issues. She keeps coming on and of of hrt. She also went through a lot of CBT sessions and she asked me to go with her on every one, although I sat in the waiting room.
Then without any reason I knew of at the time she stopped all contact for two weeks. I then get a text saying we need to talk. She came round and told me that she had been seeing someone for a few months but it was over now. It was in her words a big mistake but nothing more than a bit of excitement.
Come to September this year, I had joined a dating site. I wasn't ready as I was still so in love with her. But I was so depressed and struggling to find a reason to carry on, so I guess as a distraction I thought It might help. I know it was the wrong thing to do but I didn't know what else to do.
Out of the blue I get a call from her. She's crying uncontrollably and basically wanted us to get back together. Saying that she didn't want to lose me, and she would understand if i said no after all the heartache she had put me through.
All my dreams come true that day. After a couple of months we all went for a meal, and she got down on one knee in front of everyone and offered me my wedding band back and asked if we could renew our vows. I moved back into the house. Gave up my flat, we had an amazing Christmas and spoke about the future and even booked a holiday
I'm now looking for a place to live again. Four weeks ago she said she no longer sees a future. I'm in pieces :(