Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

Thank you @dilly123 there were times I didn't think I'd ever feel even a bit happy ever again, but every day is a little bit better, then the next day I could sink, but it is easier to pick myself up each time ❤️❤️

On the subject of dating apps... Ive been doing some window shopping to cheer myself up and for an ego boost, don't go on POF omg the men on there are old and do not leave you alone! I had like 60 messages within 20 mins of putting my profile on, I've got tinder now, they can't message you until you both match. It's quite fun, me and my friend had a giggle last night as she was making all my swiping decisions 🙈😂

Ooooooooo, I may just have a little window shop myself later.

@herewegoagainseries7 go for it!! You would be surprised at the matches I've had! Some of them quite a bit younger and really fit 😱 hahaha massive huge bloody ego boost. 👌🏼💪🏼😂

Hope everyone is doing ok?

Week seems to be dragging especially the evenings.. dreading the weekend when I would usually be seeing him .. not in the mood to go out with friends so planning on oven priding the oven 🙈😂..

Go through spats of sadness & anger, moments when I look back through rose tinted specs & wish he'd say he misses me & then his bad points crop up & I think no I deserve better & it will get easier.. just want the day to come when it no longer hurts!

On the upside I've lost 6lb since Saturday 🤣

Sending you all strength

Hey @dilly123 same. All sorts of emotions. Crying when I think about the fun times then getting a reality check and realising there weren't actually that many fun times. Anger, so much anger. I want to scream at him and let him know how much he's breaking me at the moment but then he'd just love that.

I'm trying to keep myself occupied. Bumble has been a help. Be even more of a help if someone would message me back 😂.

Friday and Saturday night will be horrible as that's when I'd see him. Netflix will have to help me I guess.

Chin up everyone. We can do this!

@herewegoagainseries7

Been fighting the urge to message him so really needed to hear "we can do this "
Thank you

@dilly123 Trust me, I've written about 6 texts to him and deleted them all. He's got me to a point where I can hardly function and for a few days he's even affected my job but I'll be damned if I let him know that.
The future IS bright. We just can't see it yet!

For someone who's so busy & stressed with work he has no time to even talk he's been online on WhatsApp almost constantly for the past 2 hours but can't message me to ask how I am!
Have deleted his number, all photos & references to him/us on social media.. I know it's a bit of a Kardashian thing to do 🤣 but it will help me move on!

God I hate men 🤬

I've done the same. Deleted photos etc etc. Blocked on all social media. My only problem is I keep bumping into him in town. Today I saw him and didn't shake afterwards.

Keep going. Keep remembering that you are worth so much more and by ditching these men emotionally, we're making space for the next round which will be better.

I'm about to end a relationship I think with my hot and cold man. I feel so rubbish I love him so much but I just can't do it anymore it's making me ill. It's been full of mixed messages full on loved up and fabulous for a while then suddenly the shutters come down and it's cold as ice. We've just had an awesome weekend together then out of nowhere he's gone cold again just when it was going along nicely for months. I'm in a bit of a state atm. Looking at my phone willing him message me. So sad, crying buckets for what could've been. Feel such a fool as I'm not a young teen. I know in my head it's time to let it go. I've tried so hard to make it work lost myself in the process. So bloody hard not to message..... keep telling myself it's for the best. I'm worth more.

@Olikingcharles your relationship sounds exactly like mine. In the end, after a beautiful weekend, he went nuts. Told me I'd be easy to move on from, amongst other really vile stuff.
These guys have no understanding of how they mess with our heads.
I've struggled all week not to message him until now, when I just did. I told him he'd really killed my self esteem and confidence, which is true.
I know he'll be nothing but defensive back and I'll cry and feel shit. I guess it's part of the process.
You're really not alone.

@Olikingcharles

Really feel for you, my situation was very similar, everything was brilliant until about 3 weeks ago when he became so cold & distant. I still think of the times he was lovely & talked of future plans & it makes me wonder how someone can change so quickly & blow hot & cold.. is it they are scared of their own feelings so put up a barrier or were the nice times all an act?!

I'm mid forties & still don't understand men & relationships.. but definitely will not be putting myself through it again! Single life from now on!

Ladies just reading through your messages.

My heart is with you all, from someone who has been there not so long ago. But 4 weeks NC now and I can see the relationship for what it was.

It took some time, days of crying. Couldn't believe what had happened. What did I do wrong, why could he see. How could he go from loving me to not casing at all. Not even checking up on me.

It took time to delete the messages.

But now, whilst I still have those moments. I can see it wasn't as good as I thought it was. I see all the awful things he did and how he made me feel during those low times.

Best thing I did, write a text out but in my notes telling him exactly what I thought of him. Every detail of what he had done, how he made me feel. Don't send it.

I would read it over and over and on Sunday just gone I finally deleted it. I didn't need to see it anymore.

I guess it's finished. No-one's told me, but after an "it feels different" conv initiated by me on tues; saw him briefly yest "I'll call you tomw" (nothing) so I rang and got swiped to ansaph, I suppose that means that it's over. Despite no rows, no bad times, perfect w/e last w/e. But gone. Worried abt commitment came out in the talk. But after 10 months and as a mum with no family, I need to know where I stand.

So I'm telling myself it was better to force his hand and make him decide in or out. But I so wish I hadn't.

Urgh... feeling so crap today. It's my birthday and I was dreading it. I had a date organised and he's cancelled. A really crap excuse too. I just feel dented left right and centre. I really thought that going on a date might be enough to pull me out of this downer.
Me and Netflix tonight. Again.

Sending you all some weekend strength...

Had work today so I couldn't dwell too much but now I'm home sat in my Pyjamas it has hit me again... determined to fight the tears though.. I will not give in

Ffs just looked on pof (not for a date) but to see if he's back on there & he is bloody online now!! Absolutely devastated... what a complete c@nt

Looks like I’m joining you all too
As of Today😞😔

Trying to hide my upset from the kids & nobody to talk to because my friends & family will be thinking we Told you so!! This is the 3rd time in 6 years he has broken my heart .. what the hell have I done to deserve this

So I'm going to look for the saddest film on Netflix and cry so much that I can't cry anymore. I'm so bored of crying. My face has aged in the space of 2 weeks. Enough!!!
When does it stop hurting??

@herewegoagainseries7

I wish I knew!!

Well fuck him.... fake pof profile is now a real profile... let's see how he likes it!

My ex is trying again with his wife (ps I didn't know he was married). Also had a women contact me saying she was with him the time I was.

Still hurts

Reading these posts gives me a little comfort knowing I'm not going insane. Was married for just over 18 months when I caught him kissing another woman.. said it was because things hadn't been good between us...tried to work it out but he left.. despite my pathetic begging for him to stay...fast forward 6 months and me doing plenty of stalking before finally pulling myself together and starting to try and get my life back...he returns!! Says he's sorry etc etc we' are all good for a few months..not perfect obviously..lots of trust issues...but then this weekend he almost repeats the same scenario except this time I wasn't there to witness it...I believed he was suffering from food poisoning and that was the reason I hadn't heard from him all weekend despite numerous calls from me (he isn't back living with me yet) so went round to see if his car was there...no! Came home absolutely devastated fearing the worst.. anyway long story short finally confronted him to be told exactly the same as before ..things weren' working out etc it was exactly the same scenario as before almost word for word!! Now I just feel like I have had the rug pulled from under me again. I promised myself he wouldn't make me feel like this again..but a few nice words and good sex and here I am again ..at my age I should know better! But what hurts the most is his lack of understanding of how much I worried about him all weekend and his ability to just shut off his supposed love for me.