Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

Well I'm home
We both cried. He apologised. A lot. He told me he still loves me. He wants to "take it slow" see each other once a week he said. I suggested more often. No sex unless I want to. (He does). And see how it goes

He said he cant promise its forever but its not over.

@PorpentinaScamander
Is that enough for you? Are you happy with these arrangements?

Yes I am for now but he knows he needs to decide soonish what he wants long term. And hes promised to let me know how hes feeling and not bottle it up like he did before.
It might all still fall apart but at the moment it seems positive

Well, I've been having a lot of contact with my ex.
He's in hospital poorly so I've been to visit him. He was so ill but after I left he messaged to say he felt better and that was down to me being there not his medication.

We've been getting on so well. I don't know where it's going but I'm just enjoying it for what it is at the minute.

We've been laughing together and we haven't done that in a long time.

He texts me first to say good morning and every night to say good night.

I have moments where I think we'll be back together by the end of the year but then I think he's just enjoying being friends. I don't know but I feel happy for now.

Could be devastated within a couple of month if he meets someone else, who knows.

But it's a risk worth taking as far as I'm concerned.

Sorry to hear your ex is poorly ImpracticalJoke but I'm glad you are talking again. Fingers crossed for your happy ending.

We spent all day together yesterday as we both didn't have work. Didn't do so well at taking it slow and ended up in bed. But we also talked, laughed, cried some more and he made me lunch. Planned our first 'date' for Monday and another for next Friday.
So far so good.

@porpentinascamander @impracticaljoke
Glad to hear things are going well :)

How is everybody doing?

I'm still having lots of contact with my ex and not just normal contact, the physical kind too. It's probably not the right thing to do but it's fun, the kind of fun we haven't had since we were a lot younger.

We're spending time as a family too, it's good for the kids. They can see we are getting on well and are being friends.
Obviously they don't know how well we're getting on so there's no confusion. They don't know when we meet up on our own.

I don't know what will happen in the future. I'm just taking it one day at a time and telling myself what will be will be.

How is everyone getting on? Thought I might be joining you when the thread first started but we’re just about holding on. Would like to hear how you’re all doing.

This thread dropped off of my "threads I'm on" and I couldn't find it

How is everyone coping?

Things are still good here. We've seen each other every day. We never were good at taking it slow! Some days it's been as quick as arranging to go to the shop at the same time so we get 10 mins together. I'm learning to trust him again. Its hard though. He hurt me so much.

I split from my partner of 16 years almost a year ago, but he kept me on a string for almost 9 months of this, while he was happily dating too.
We spoke about possibly getting back together 5 months ago but he was talking to someone at the time.
So as it stands, we never got back together, he is now officially with her, he introduced our children to her after 2 months and asked me yesterday if he could take the kids on holiday with her and her kids. It's been about 4 months now and I feel suffocated with it, but I'm getting there slowly. I got the immesne feeling of being dropped as soon as "someone better" came along and I was left.

It's hard especially when you do think if the good times, but it wasn't all good and he called me some horrible names..fat slag and the rest. So I know it's absolutely for the best, I just can't wait to feel it.

Hi everyone,

So pleased for those giving things another go & those hanging in there..

Love to those still massively struggling.. personally don't feel like I've progressed too much still love & miss him but have accepted it was never going to work & never will.. (doesn't stop the hurt though) .. been researching lots of physical symptoms I've been experiencing for a few months & on top of the low mood no doubt triggered by the break up I'm wondering if it's peri menopause symptoms so got blood test next week & if hormone levels are low will try HRT.. hope they will give me back my mojo

Hello everyone.

Just wondered how you were all getting on and if anyone still checks in.

My ex and myself are not back together but we have been seeing each other in secret.

To be honest I think it could be helping. I mean I actually have a slight crush on someone at work.
That's progress to me lol.

Just going to take this year to have some freedom and let my hair down and then after Christmas I'm really going to start thinking about what I want in my future.

Hope you are all doing good!!

Feeling a bit rubbish today well last few days really... just missing him & wishing so much that things were different.. nowhere else in RL to speak about it so hope writing on here helps..

My ex-h is in route to hospital with 2nd wife as her waters have broken it's their 2nd child..(don't get me wrong it's all amicable & im very happy for him) but just feel a bit like life's unfair.. in the 11 years since we parted he has found happiness & a complete new life.. where as I've been hurt over & over again & am currently living this really shitty lonely life where my heart aches for this 1 man & has done for 6 years!! Man whatever I've done in this or a previous life I'm definitely being punished.. we have been apart for 6 months now.. no contact whatsoever but I'm still so sad & hurt.. I can't move on & don't think I ever will... just want to know why I'm not enough for him.. 😢😢😢

Ex h & ex partner 2 different people by the way... (incase you're confused) 🤣

canthearthroughmyglasses That sounds just like my STBXH. I stayed with him for 16 years and had four children! I have only twigged in the last couple of years thanks to reading on Mumsnet. So don't feel a fool. You are probably an honest and trustworthy person like me, so it just wouldn't occur to you that another person would treat someone like that.

I have a terrible sinking feeling in my stomach today. I felt happy this morning. But now I feel so anxious and sad. I am filled with jealousy because I know I was quickly replaced. Even though I know he will still be depressed and she will have the same problems with him. I hate to think of him and another woman. I am going to start dating to help me stop thinking about him. I have had a lovely day at the Tate and am going to a Meet-up tonight. But I still feel terrible. Still think about it even though I am busy. Need a cigarette

Soooo....this guy I had a slight crush on at work has a crush on me and we ended up hooking up on our staff night out. Now my ex has decided he wants to get back together.

I'm so confused. I'm starting to do so well and I do really like this other guy.

Bloody sick of men