Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

@mando64 that's just awful. I really do feel for you. Maybe one day his conscience will catch up with him and have to live with what he's done.

@bombaygin my ex went out of his way this weekend to tell me he'd slept with someone else. Today it just keep replaying in my mind. I'm trying to take out any emotion in what I'm seeing. It's just a physical act that doesn't last very long ( not in his case anyway 😂) and that's that. Again, he has to live with it. Compartmentalising is coming in handy at the moment. I know that now he's done this there is no going back. It hurts but I know my brain won't be stuck in this loop forever. Go and spoil yourself. Make yourself feel special. It works I promise.

@bombaygin you can do this. You really can move on. I've cocked up a few times over the past few weeks and text him, telling him how gutted I was etc etc and made a complete fool of myself. I guess it's part of the process.

When these guys are at their lowest ebb and just for 5 minutes, not thinking with their dicks, it'll kick them in the backside that they've hurt people. It's all fab at the moment for them but they'll have their moment.

I know I keep saying this but we will get through. We won't be heart broken for ever. Stay strong xx

Although I deleted all ex's numbers etc I messaged him on plenty of fish to say how I unhid my profile to see if he had re-joined & to actually find he was online less than a week was very hurtful.. as if he hadn't caused me enough hurt over the years & that he has no place on there pretending he is a nice normal guy who is looking for a relationship because he is not capable of that & needs therapy 1st!! He should think before he gets involved with another woman & her kids the upset he causes when he walks away. Like he has done 3 times to me.. this last time I intended for it to just be a bit of fun FWB he did the chasing he talked of the future not me I was fine as I was happy to be single he should have left well alone... I feel so much better for it & am determined not to shed another tear over him..

Chin up ladies we are strong 💪🏻

Me too, is it break up season, out of the blue, after a weekend away in Paris. We talked about getting a dog ffs...

@msbrightside after a weekend in Paris? Bloody hell. That's just awful. How do they deal with making such lovely memories and then crapping all over them?

I know for me it made me question everything about myself. Did I say something stupid? Did I do something stupid? And then I just though fck it. If he's that fickle then he can jog on. I'm not dead yet, plenty of time to find Mr Right....or nearly Right anyway.

I've just organised a night out with as many female friends I can find. There's strength in numbers. Should I bump into him in town then I know my friends will have my back and no doubt demolish him verbally! Now is the time for friends and loved ones and as hard as it may feel, it's time to love yourself lots x

These men are just cowards..
We are the winners because we are better people & will one day be happy again.

I live in a tiny village where everyone knows us & our business (luckily he moved to another village a few months ago) but it's hard for me to get out there & face people again. I feel so stupid for being in this position for the 3rd time (school run is tough) but I'm holding my head high plastering on the make up & a smile.

Hope everyone has a positive day.. let's all look to the future

I'm so glad to hear how strong you all are.

I'm astounded at how many bloody idiot men there are about! I mean like wtf? And it's not like we are teenagers is it?? I mean come on!!!

I text him today only because we had agreed to be friends. It's his birthday so I thought I would try and be the better person and break the silence just for the sake of no hard feelings. I didn't want to give him any ammunition about me being bitter etc.

So I've said "Happy Birthday" and he's replied "ta"....so I guess that's that.

I've just had a call from school to offer me an interview tomorrow for the dinner lady job. I'm bricking it as I haven't worked since my daughter was born. This will be a HUGE step for me if I get it. I'm dying to tell him but I can't. I guess that means I'm missing him

@bombaygin

Good luck for your interview... work has really helped me take my mind off things so fingers crossed for you xx

Very good luck @bombaygin !! Let us know how it goes. X

Me..after 15 years together, since i was 17. Feel so lost.

Not a good day for me today...
feeling so sad & rejected.

Off round a friends with a bottle or 2 of wine no danger of any drunken messages though as I've deleted all contact details

Hope everyone else is ok

@bombaygin

How did the interview go?! X

@dilly123

It went great thank you for asking
Hopefully I will know by end of the week she said. They have more to see but I got the feeling they were quite impressed with me.

Everything crossed for you @bombaygin

Broke up with the guy I was seeing on Friday night last. He got drunk and called me an unpleasant name. I just stood up and left. Not having that.
I do miss the fun we had together but if there’s no respect there, forget it. He’s not in a good place for a relationship anyway
Bit sad but life is busy and I will get over it

How we all doing? Are we all feeling a little more positive? I'm still doing the ups and downs but it's now more up than down now.
I've worked out the best coping strategy.... every time I take a crap, I imagine him! And then I flush him away 😂. I think by the end of the week I might just be detoxed completely.
to you all x

Friend passed my number on to a work colleague after showing him some pics of me (bit of a cheeky thing to do without permission but I know she means well)... anyway we whatsapped a bit last night & today he's asked me out for a drink.. he's a good looking guy & im flattered but I know I'm not ready (not sure I'll ever be tbh) ... he's understanding & asked if we can chat more & see how I feel in a few weeks.

Just don't think I ever want to make myself vulnerable to getting hurt again

I got the job! Lol

My daughter is so pleased that mummy will be a dinner lady at her school lol. I even get a pink tabbard and a whistle 😂

Funny feeling though. So much positive and happy front but still crying at night and thinking how much I miss him and what I did that was so wrong. None of it makes sense.

Hope everyone else is getting there and staying strong

Congratulations @bombaygin !! That's awesome news!! The future IS bright!!

Well done @bombaygin

I'm sure having something else to focus on will help you xx

Well done @bombaygin. Small steps...it will take time...but you are obviously moving in the right direction.🍾🍾