Relationship ended.. anyone else?

[dilly123]

Relationship ended today.. I know I'll be ok because I've been through worse but today I'm just feeling sad & disappointed..

For anyone else in the same boat.. sending you & positive thoughts!

@RumbleDoll I'm pushing 50... we never learn!

Hugs @dilly123

@Getmyfrownupsidedown

I'm nearly 45 & make the same mistakes over & over again so don't feel bad

Have accepted it's too late for me now.. not worried about growing old alone

dilly and frown
I'm 62
and still not learning.
Make the same mistakes I may as well call them traditions

Got totally drunk today. Cant even see in a straight line....

@PorpentinaScamander

Keep thinking that's what I need,.. get totally out of it but in a good way & just have a laugh but just not in that place.. think it would make me more maudlin if that's possible

45 and my 3 yr relationship has just ended
I’m Heartbroken...But Know I’m to blame for a lot of it too...
Relationship started fairly soon after my last ended which had been a 20yr+ relationship with 2children ...
This man was wonderful for me and me for him ...but I think I haven’t matured properly emotionally in my last relationship(together from 17-42) you to have dealt with relating to a new and different person ...
I can’t see myself trusting my heart to anyone again tbh

Ended it on Wednesday myself, via text... still angry at him. But I have asked him not to contact me anymore, although deep down I would love to see him. Ended it due to him being rude (I think it was).
I know he will feel sad (as he said before he doesn’t want me to go) but that day he wasn’t getting the fact that I have my own opinion and can decide on my own. Hence his little comments, which are quite hurtful. They became personal hurting comments... I don’t want someone around me to bring me down.

@dilly123 I did cry a lot. But it helped. I haven't cried properly in weeks and I needed to. I feel sick now though. Whenever I drink wine I remember why I don't drink wine

@Wtf1973 Please don't blame yourself.

@Inexperiencedchick So true... and good for you to stand up for yourself. I wish we all could.

@PorpentinaScamander I hope you have a fresh head today!

I'm off out for a run to try and stop thinking about him.

Hope everyone is doing ok..

Feeling slightly stronger myself in the last couple of days.. more of his faults & times he showed himself to be really thoughtless & uncommitted are popping into my mind.. basically loosing the rose tinted spectacles I think. Which I know is a step forward.. been spending far too many days comfort eating than sticking to SlimmingWorld but back on it with the enthusiasm, commitment & self love it requires.

Tough couple of weeks coming up though the anniversary of my daughters death & her birthday all within 10 days in May always seems to make me withdraw from life a little but I know he wouldn't have been any comfort because he was absolutely shit at anything like that!

Saw a quote on Facebook that really rang true for me & I suspect for some of you too..

"I didn't really notice you picking me up on my faults because I was too busy ignoring yours"

Love & hugs all

Glad to hear it @dilly123

I've gone a few steps backwards in terms of how I'm feeling. I've stayed strong and have not contacted him, but the urge to has got worse over the past two days. I know he is no good for me, but I want him. How twisted is that.

Big hugs fro the coming month

On the face of it I'm getting stronger. But inside I'm still broken. I keep checking his relationship status on Facebook and logging onto our Netflix/now TV accounts to see if he's watched anything. He hasn't for a few days. Now I'm overthinking and wondering why.

And yes I know I know. Stop looking. But I cant help it.

@PorpentinaScamander
I'm doing the same thing. I just can't bring myself to go full no contact and have been monitoring his social media and netflix activity. I'm constantly overthinking and can't get him out of my head space. He's all I think about and it's affecting everything else in my life.

... forgot to say... I'm not getting stronger

Finding difficult to cope today, anyone else?

@Inexperiencedchick I'm just back from meeting a therapist, got another three to meet to see if any of them 'fit'. So, safe to say, I'm also finding it difficult to cope today too

Hi Getmyfrownupsidedown hope it will work for you with a therapy.
Sending you some strength 🌹

I thought I will manage it, but somehow today I’m tearful... Missing him to bits, but also remember his disrespectful words...
I hope it will all pass.

@Inexperiencedchick Me too! Thank you.

I was tearful on Sunday, then broke NC, then broke - hence the therapist.

Big hugs and strength to you

He messaged me at 1.40am. Only I don't know what it said because he deleted it again before I saw it. Don't know what to make of that!

@PorpentinaScamander
The wise owl would tell you not to think too much about it. Maybe he wants to talk, maybe he doesn't.

Unless he sends a clear message, don't spend any more time thinking about it or you'll just twist yourself up in knots.

... but I unfortunately we are human, heartbroken and hanging on to love and our happily ever after... if you're anything like me you'll be romanticising of getting back together.

The wise owl will say, stay strong and don't react. Carry on with self love.

Big hugs

He said he wants to see me later but can't promise anything. Ive told him I'll think about it

@PorpentinaScamander
Do you want to see him? Are you strong enough to see him?

I'm rooting for your happily ever after, but make sure you know what you want and don't settle for anything less - good luck!

I want to see him more than anything but don't know if I'm strong enough. He told me he still loves me. I'm going to have to think long and hard about it

@PorpentinaScamander
If he loves you, he'll respect the boundaries you set.

If you're not strong enough to hear anything other than he wants to make it work... then it maybe not the best to see him.

I say that as if I'm a wise old owl, I know I wouldn't follow my own advice. So just know that you have us on here whatever happens :)

Thank you.