Stag dos...

[Slp86]

So I’m having a debate with DH about stag dos- thankfully his is well in the past!

However he was tasked with arranging stag dos for his friends and he went over board with arranging strippers- not just the standard club, but boats, airport transfers etc etc to include them! When I expressed my unhappiness over this - that I found it excessive and that a club is ‘acceptable’ to me, however trying to incorporate them in to every part of the trip seems obsessive and disrespectful to me and the other partners!

His reply is that it’s totally normal to have as many strippers as poss and that I’m deluded if I think stag do’s happen without strippers and that I’m unreasonable to basically have tried to get him to change the itintery to just include a club!

So help clear it up for me please! Am I a phsyco controlling bunny boiler or a woman who just doesn’t see the need for the men to have a stripper with them at every point of the day!? 🙈

I'm not sure if you're joking, if you are serious then he sounds deranged.

I have known of some really wild stag dos.
None like this, that is fuckin grotesque.

If a woman is going to be with them constantly, right from the airport transfers onwards, doesn't that make her an escort rather than a stripper?

Different women apparently- it’s one of these company’s you can book where they have limo pick up with stripper then a boat cruise with strippers on etc
No literally every moment of the day but more than the standard strip club entry that comes as standard when booking the package!

Bloody hell thats massively OTT and SS others say they are surely escorts?

Out of interest is he talking different ones for different events or the same group for the whole weekend?

Stag (and hen) dos have gone way over the top! This is ridiculous!

Cross post - but still so over the top it's vile! Can they not enjoy themselves at all unless surrounded by naked women?

If this is serious then come on, what the hell are you married to .... its just grim.

It’s the same group for the 3days- that’s very much my point to him that they should just enjoy the time away no need for strippers so much! But apparently I’m trying to ruin it for the stag and make him look like a shit friend etc ive explained that just the club should suffice and as he’s arranging it it makes him look obsessed with strippers and disrespectful to me. Which is where the whole I’m deluded part comes in that I’m trying to make it about me and I’m deluded if I think that there would ever be a stag without strippers etc etc

That’s just disgusting. Where the fuck do these men come from?

But you're not saying no strippers!

I'm sorry it's just horrible, really awful!

Any regrets on marrying this neanderthal ?

My husband’s stag do didn’t have strippers. Neither did his best friend’s.

When he’s been on a stag do with strip clubs on the itinerary he’s gone back to the hotel. Not at my insistence either, just because he’s not vile.

Don’t let your husband tell you all men are like him. They aren’t.

I’ve seen these do’s as I came across a Facebook page for a similar set up in Prague. These aren’t just strippers, it’s all out rubbing in your face, legs akimbo, blokes naked, women naked, all waltzing around in one massive orgy with anything goes.

It’s basically a big orgy full of sex acts he has booked, anything goes. They aren’t just strippers.

I've no doubt that what @Sorrywhattt has said is right! This is another level to strippers!

My DH has been on and organsided a fair few stag doo’s. The first one he went on when I was with him he refused to go for breakfast before the flight as they had organised 2 strippers.

The others he has been on, he has organised, and both he and the stag’s have all been very vocal in not having strippers. They have very much been seen as a lads trip away.

I find it disgusting that some men see stag doos as an excuse to find any and every opportunity to have or go to strippers.

They're prostitutes. Poor them. Imagine that this was your job. Yuck.
For the op, this is not normal male behaviour. Those poor girls.

What a knob he sounds. I wonder what the stag's future wife will think of all this, and the wives or girlfriends of the other guys that are going.

Not normal at all! When my dh went on regular stag nights there might have been one stripper for the groom or a trip to a strip club that not everyone bothered with. No private dances, just being in the 'audience'. That's it. Now they're older, and the occasional stag is more likely to be surfing or motorbikes or something like that.

Please don’t let him manipulate you into thinking this is even remotely normal. Sounds like Wolf of Wall Street stuff! It sounds grotesque, is he having a mid life crisis?

And there is no way I’d let my dh go on a stag with full time strippers! Having said that he wouldn’t want to go!

It is normal. Sorry but it is really, really common.
My BIL is a sales manager for a well know stag and hen company and he talks about this quite a lot.
They are not prostitutes. They are strippers. Often topless waitresses as well or topless entertainers on party buses etc.
I don't agree with it but its the same as having a private stripper at someone's house for example.

None of my male friends had strippers at their stag does. They all think it is disrespectful to their other halves and find the idea of strippers really uncomfortable.

Your DH sounds very OTT with this. Do you worry that he might be looking for some fun on the stag and is trying to normalise this to you so he can then normalise sleeping with an escort to you as well?

OP has he booked through a company? They often ask stag groups if they would like strippers on transfers etc as part of their upsell process, often pitched at the organiser as a way to get everyone in the mood and to kick-start the weekend

My DH was once on a stag in an East European country and there were 2 strippers in the limo. Can you imagine being in such close proximity to a load of gross men? Anyway, one if the girls started hyperventilating and fainted. She did come round but was crying and they had to call an ambulance. It was horrible, yet some of them still went on to the strip club later. In some countries, you can have no idea as to the backgrounds of these girls, whether they are trafficked etc. Your ‘D’ H needs to watch some documentaries or read up in this. Hopefully, then he might begin to understand the vile industry his money is supporting.

Oh god this is disgusting. I'd leave my DH if he insisted on following through with something like this.

@nomorekale that's so sad.