Stag dos...

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So I’m having a debate with DH about stag dos- thankfully his is well in the past!

However he was tasked with arranging stag dos for his friends and he went over board with arranging strippers- not just the standard club, but boats, airport transfers etc etc to include them! When I expressed my unhappiness over this - that I found it excessive and that a club is ‘acceptable’ to me, however trying to incorporate them in to every part of the trip seems obsessive and disrespectful to me and the other partners!

His reply is that it’s totally normal to have as many strippers as poss and that I’m deluded if I think stag do’s happen without strippers and that I’m unreasonable to basically have tried to get him to change the itintery to just include a club!

So help clear it up for me please! Am I a phsyco controlling bunny boiler or a woman who just doesn’t see the need for the men to have a stripper with them at every point of the day!? 🙈

Not normal at all. Pretty disgusting really.

He's been ridiculous. One thing is going to a strip club, but surely it's meant to be a lads trip. Having them for the whole time is going to cause issues. Do the other wives / gf know?

Yes how bizarre indeed. I should have been concentrating more on how it all worked.
Nomorekale, I shared my view point on a subject. I have zero interest in appearing liberated or “awesome” to a bunch of strangers . Nothing more than airing my opinion which in hind sight , I REALLY regret and vow never again to do on here .
Having read some of the other conversations about similar subjects , this is not the place to have a different outlook .

I don't get the last night of freedom stuff, not least because married men still go on stag dos anyway... but no, not all men do this and I'd have serious doubts if my DH wanted to attend this kind of stag as a guest, let alone organised it.... my DH went to Lords for the day and a few bars in the evening - nothing requiring naked women to have fun.

For what it's worth, I think the naked butler thing is also grim!

@Roroba all the posts were CLEARLY marked for @adrienneJ, but you reacted so badly because your clearly not comfortable with your choice. You need to defend so much!! Are you coerced into your attitude?

I’ve reacted badly?? In what way?
I’m genuinely struggling to understand why you think I would purposely reply to comments not directed at me. I can’t think of how it would benefit me . Or am I missing something else?

And no I am not coerced.

I’ve just seen I have done it again ... sorry.
Ok I’m out .👍

And no I am not coerced.

You genuinely seem far to defensive of your beliefs, assuming people that are clearly not directing comments at you are. It's just worrying.