Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

[TooOldForThis67]

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I'm so fecking mad atm! The arrangement was that I'd meet my mates for a quick drink and then go to MrBE's. So, I got home and msg to say I was back and what was he up to. Nothing. Sent another msg. Nothing. Tried to ring. No ansa. So, 45 mins and nothing. He knew the arrangment so why isn't he sitting on his fecking phone waiting.
AIBU?

@ItsAMiracle2015 I just use my phone 🤦🏻‍♀️ is always my fav and 🤔

@falaff that's down to him. You don't say you want to see one again, text then change your mind.

It's time for wine, cheesecake and revenge swiping on OLD

@TooOldForThis67 that's out of order. Unless he's died, I'd expect a full apology with massive grovelling and a full explanation.

lifegoes ahhh didn't think my phone emojis would work 👍. Again with my excessive emoji use 😂😂.

TooOld I would lose my shit. Like properly lose it.

Lol, lifegoes - exactly! He's just been online but hasn't read my msgs! I have got a bottle of wine here so will probably drink that and/or join my mates later.

tooold put him in the bin. There's no excuse for that. Move on. But I'm an odd one when it comes to men - zero emotion. Someone will be along with more sensible advice x

Apparently he's stabbed his finger and is up the hospital . But I believe him knowing what he does and the fact that it would be hard to pretend if I saw him again.

I still feel like he could've messaged (with his other hand) to tell you. But then I'm also quite brutal.

@ItsAMiracle2015 well at least we'll be clear now if you are being sarcastic or not 😉😂

@TooOldForThis67 ohhhhh do he's not dead then!! this is my pet hate. It's one thing that annoys me when dating - ignorance

Whatever you do, don't drink the wine and drunk text him. Drink the wine and go out with friends.

I agree with both comedy and Miracle, tooold.

He has another hand, and another 9 digits on his hands. he knows he should meet you, he's been on his phone since. No excuse. If he'd been stabbed in his eyes I might say ok. Not the finger!

sidge using your criteria I really want a FWB. I want the occasional date, I want to get amusing messages checking in and I want the sex. I don’t want a full relationship, don’t want to plan a future, don’t want to merge lives and don’t have time with having 2 toddlers. Scared I will over invest and get the feels though

Just out of curiousity, at what point do you start merging lives, planning futures etc in a relationship? Even seeing those words makes me want to run away 🙈😂

Sorry tooold I would be fuming you could have stayed out with your friends!

Marlb - Exactly, otherwise I'd do it.

No idea itsamiracle but I am 8 Months out of a 13 year relationship and never plan to “merge” again 😂 I love been master of my own ship!

tooold are your friends still out? Get back to them, have a drink and revenge flirt with someone at the bar 😁

TooOld There are far too many red flags with this man, you don't seem to be getting anything from Mr BE other than doubting yourself and twisting yourself into circles for this man, and it appears he doesn't feel the same. Did you get the reassurances you needed after the whole sexual kink thing he mentioned?

I'd get back out of the house with your friends and enjoy what's left of tonight, don't let this man bring you down!!

Can I ask your thoughts on tights??? 😂
So on Tuesday I am at work and have a lunch date with Mr Giant. Later that day I have a sex date with Mr Big straight from work. I have a lovely work dress I would like to wear, it is conservative but sexy and usually I would wear with black tights. Would that be a turn off ( not for lunch date but for sex date) should I wear stocking and then feel a bit exposed at work? 😂

tooold I completely agree with auba x

@Marlboroandmalbec34 can you not wear tights for work and then change to stockings or take them off?

lifegoes sure I could but Mr Big is only a potential FWB would stockings be too try hard? But I want to be a bit sexy you know?
I have a tattoo on my ankle that I hate and wear ankle boots so bare (pale) legs is a no go 😁

@Marlboroandmalbec34 def not try to hard. For all he knows that's what you wear to work. 😉

Thanks lifegoes that’s the fun thing. My job sounds uber important but I usually wear jeans but the thing with interviewing potential FWBs is I want to be seen as glam 😂 I wonder if hold ups might be a middle ground between “yes this is me” and “dressed for sex”

Toilet up date lol he's in the toilet I'm in heaven 😍😍😍 Mr Grey No2

@Marlboroandmalbec34 well I have a few pairs of crotchless tights. So they look like hold-ups and have easy access to. 😂

I'd go tights during the day and either hold-ups or stockings to swap into.