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Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

999 replies

TooOldForThis67 · 22/02/2019 08:59

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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OP posts:
Marlboroandmalbec34 · 23/02/2019 22:21

Heeheee focus go girl 😉

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 23/02/2019 22:22

Off shopping on Monday lifegoes thanks

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 22:26

Right, I need some advice here. Am I being paranoid.

Rem the ex and now I'm texting his friend, who hit on me randomly. I spoke to him last night about a few things and he didn't seem to know who my ex was.

Rem today he got jealous like my ex did about my Male friends.

Well, he's just text tonight as he's out. Asking how my night is and who I've been texting? So I said why? Then he joked and said I'm pure evil

"Pure evil" was the exact words my ex said when we broke up as I found out his lies.

Is that me being paranoid here?

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 22:27

@Marlboroandmalbec34 look at Ann summers website for the type I mean 😉

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 23/02/2019 22:34

Oh lifegoes I am sorry but it doesn’t sound good to me. I might be projecting as my ex is a twat but could they be in cahoots?? Even if not they seem to be on the same wavelength and do you really want this in a new relationship?
Thanks for th Ann summers tip

Auba14 · 23/02/2019 22:36

lifegoes I don't know if you're being paranoid but it just sounds like another idiot you should steer clear of. Again, red flags all over the place, if this is the best men out there that you're going to meet, I'll eat my hat!

Get back on the dating apps and find yourself someone without all this drama!

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 22:41

@Marlboroandmalbec34 that's what I'm worried about am I just projecting him on to this guy.

But my gut has screamed something isn't right since I realised they were friends. The way he's questioning me about what I'm doing, who I'm talking to. The terminology he uses is the same.

If I wasn't texting him, and it was just on social media I'd actually say it was my ex behind a fake profile. That's the honest truth.

@Auba14 I agree, I've still got one or two that I'm talking to from the apps but went a bit quiet on them. Need to start it up again.

How do I get out of it? Do I just block, do I just say I'm not interested.
I want to play this so it doesn't come back as an issue if it is my ex behind it. But at the same time if I'm wrong, I don't want to look stupid.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 23/02/2019 22:43

life he sounds like a nob. I'd say you're not interested and then block. What right has he even got to ask who you're texting? Nope. I'd get out now.

user1466783975 · 23/02/2019 22:45

lifegoes this all sounds very strange. Do you get good vibes off him?

oh bloody hell,can anyone tell me about acorns(it was in an old thread),are they small all the time or just when not hard/ erect??!

ItsAMiracle2015 · 23/02/2019 22:46

user acorns? I missed that thread but I'm intrigued....

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 22:51

@ItsAMiracle2015 that's so true and going in a huff because I was with Male friends today and questioning why I've changed my profile picture.

@user1466783975 I did. We really clicked, and got on well. Then I found out he was friends with my ex. The past 24 hours he's been my ex exactly the same.

I'm out ha, god I'm so pleased I have you lot this time around.

Acorns ?

user1466783975 · 23/02/2019 22:53

I've tried to google it but it didn't come up. acorn shape dicks

When we were on the sofa and he was very attentative towards me and my needs,i had a feel down there and couldn't find it. was stroking his balls but couldn't find anything else. Sorry for too much info. Maybe he just wasn't hard? Not sure what to think

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 22:54

@user1466783975 😳😳😳😳

Nothing at all?

ItsAMiracle2015 · 23/02/2019 22:55

life how old is he? Maybe he spoke to your ex? Either way I'd be out. Being that possessive and controlling this early on is never going to end well, and if he's doing it because of your ex then even more reason to get out. Definitely the right call.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 23/02/2019 22:56

user you couldn't find it??

user1466783975 · 23/02/2019 22:59

not really,maybe a small couple of inches but balls were there too.was all soft. I didn't look down and he did ask if i'd like to go to the bedroom,though I declined as want to wait. He is 61? But very sexual. Do some men have tiny penis's?

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 23:01

@ItsAMiracle2015 35 so no need really. Same age as my ex. I did wonder if he spoke to my ex so I dropped in convo last night about my ex. And told him a few things about him. How he was etc. Didn't mention any names and he didn't seem to give anything away that he would know.

Then I thought, my ex isn't going to tell anyone really.

But either way, I'm out the door. I'm just going to ignore him and let him drift off with his mate in tow

WarIsPeace · 23/02/2019 23:02

Ergh flaky flaky flaky. Flakier than a head full of dandruff. Tonight was another nothing due to the iron having a tremendous hangover. Have given civil but frosty response and back to more revenge swiping...

user1466783975 · 23/02/2019 23:03

ahh lifegoes,its shit when you like someone but you're doing the right thing x

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 23:04

Oh @user1466783975 does it get more shrivelled up as they get older 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know.

Maybe you need to see it hard.

user1466783975 · 23/02/2019 23:04

oh,it doesn't matter if he has,foreplay was great. Will move on from that topic!

user1466783975 · 23/02/2019 23:05

shrivelled lol!

lifegoes · 23/02/2019 23:05

@WarIsPeace revenge swiping is my new favourite thing.

What happened tonight though?

@user1466783975 same happened with my ex, really liked him so I tolerated things I shouldn't have. Denied the red flags.

Not this time, learnt my lesson and I have you all to keep me straight.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 23/02/2019 23:06

I've had a fair few small penises but can't say I've ever felt down there and not really been able to find anything? I had a Google and essentially it's slang for a man with a penis of less than 1 inch not erect. Maybe just wait until you're ready for sex with him and take it from there?

Warls my biggest peev. Flaky people. Hate it.

ItsAMiracle2015 · 23/02/2019 23:07

Shrivelled 😂😂😂😂