Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Feeling a bit fluttery in my tummy - seeing Mr Sailor in a couple of hours. It's not like me to be nervous

Hello. Posted on the thread ages ago after some non-starters on Bumble. Someone (I think it was apparentlyacatch ) suggested I tried Tinder. I was a bit nervous as I thought it was just for hookups but decided to give it a go and met a great guy. We seemed to get on really well and chatted every day often for a few hours at a time but only managed to meet once in about a month due to work/childcare but we were planning future meet-ups. He told me he was off the apps and I was feeling really good about it all. Then he vanished with no trace!

I’ve realised I’ve fallen fowl of rules 3 and 4. Sadly all the lovely stuff he told me must’ve been lies. So... I’m back on the apps. No luck yet but keeping hopeful.

God I never realised it would be this hard!

So tonight I am meeting that couple from Fab and I'm beginning to feel a little nervous. The guy has left me some voice messages and he sounds like a smoker, which is a red flag for me. I will report back.

Mr Much Younger has texted me asking if I am free on Sunday to meet up. I am going on holiday next week with some friends and he mentioned when he saw me on Thursday that he would like to see me before I go away, so it sounds like he is quite keen. I am trying hard not to fall for him, but we had such a lovely evening on Thursday (and had a proper kiss!) that it is difficult not to. He is very thoughtful and we have quite a bit in common, and he also makes me laugh.

Mr Swedish has not been back in touch, but he did start to talk about sex when we had our long phone conversation and I tried to change the subject as he was sounding a bit weird. He said 'I need to warn you that I am very highly sexed and like to have sex every day. Will that be too much for you?'. I laughed and said 'Goodness it has been a while so you will have to take it slowly with me'. I think he was looking for a more enthusiastic response as he has not been back in touch and I can see that he has been on POF quite a bit since we spoke.

@Lovemusic33 if you feel that Mr SA is a keeper then maybe give him a bit more time to see how things develop.

Good luck to everyone going on dates tonight!

@Lompopo sorry to hear about your timewaster. I also tend to fall foul of rules 3 and 4 - it is difficult not to sometimes. I got my fingers burned (and my heart bruised) last year with a guy who love bombed me, then dumped me after 3 months. I am trying to set more boundaries this time but I still tend to wear my heart on my sleeve.

There are plenty of nice guys out there, so good luck on the apps.

Thanks lily. It’s just so demoralising. I thought I was a reasonable judge of character but now I’m not so sure. I like to really jump in when it feels right (message a lot etc) but in future I will hold back even if I’m convinced I’m onto a winner.

Good luck lily defo watching for the loo update

Why do I seem to attract men who get jealous and controlling.

This guy who is friends with my ex. Is exactly like my ex. Doesn't like me being friends with other men. "Not because they don't trust me but because they know what men are like"

They go in a huff when they know I'm out with them.

It causes an issue every time!

But I'm unsure what I can do about it?

batshit good luck with Mr Sailor!

I'm having a convo with Mr Arrogant..... while he's drinking gin & smoking in the bath

@lifegoes if a guy doesn't like you being friends with other men, dump him asap! Please don't think it is you that has the problem, it is them.

Thanks Comedy - nerves in overdrive waiting for the bus (bus there taxi back) - I must like him!!

lily good luck with tonight-you’re braver than me
lifegoes bin them as soon as they start to show that side of their personality

Good luck Lily!

Lily Coco just feels like I've walked from one to another. So I'm questioning if I need to not see these friends, if I'm to get any form of relationship.

He's gone in a huff as he asked who I was with and so I said.

Are you ok life?

@ComedyBoobs yeah I'm fine. Just didn't expect to meet another jealous nutball 😂😂😂

I seriously questioned if this was my fault for a bit there. But I should be allowed to have Male friends I'm a grown woman.

Dating profile bugbears #72: When they say "got all my own teeth/hair" like they are the only ones who have thought of that highly comical comment.

Life you're entitled to have friends of both sexes. He's an idiot. I bet he has female friends!

@BatshitCrazyWoman I bet he does. I really doubted myself for a moment. After my ex and now him.

But he can do one, ain't got time for jealous men so early on

OK so my date has said he doesn't think we'd work well in a relationship. I'm actually really disappointed as he's the first guy I've met who I felt an instant connection with.

I just don't know what I'm doing wrong... Am I being too honest? I think I'm a bit anxious about repeating past relationship fails and subconsciously overstate stuff to not attract the same types.

Would someone perhaps look at my profiles and see where I'm going wrong?

Evening all. Had a lovely meal last night with my older iron and also spent the day with him today (went home last night on own as I have a dog). Lots of kissing,holding hands,cuddling on sofa but said no to sex. This was third date but really want to get to know him first. And it wasn't a wig as I gave a tug!
This man has been around. I don't want to be another notch

falaff I doubt you're doing anything wrong. Remember: you are the prize. I can't see how being honest about what you want in a person can be a bad thing. Happy to look at your profile although I am no expert very few people swipe right on me

Hi everyone! I have been reading through this thread, and the previous one and thought why not join in? . I think it was the self sabotaging that made me join in! I'm the Queen of self sabotaging.

I'm 32 and was with my ex for 11 years and my entire 20's. He was an alcoholic narcissist. I've healed, for the most part, and I'm very sure on what I expect from another man. I've been OLD for just over 2 months and had 6 dates with one guy. He is lovely, and the sex is amazing (although maybe a little vanilla) but he is so keen and so agreeable! I'm quite sarcastic and dry and sometimes I say things and I can see the hurt in his eyes and I then immediately apologise. I spoke to him about it and he said he's just getting used to it, and that he really likes me. He also said he's just nervous he's going to say or do something wrong and I'll just end it... But it's driving me a bit mad. But he's sweet, honest, intelligent and great in bed. Urgh. This is so new to me!

@falaff you won't be doing anything wrong. You know what you want and are being clear.

Oh I hear you itsamiracle I find it hard to connect with someone if they don't get my sarcastic sense of humour.

If he's feeling this way now, will it get any better. It basically needing you to change how you are?