Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Good luck life it’s not easy putting yourself out there but the more dates we have the easier it should get hopefully!

It’s a cocktail bar but they seem to serve food too. I’m more of a country pub with nice food woman so totally clueless on what to wear. It’s in his town so don’t even know what the place is like.

mia and bats good luck for your dates

Wow, this thread is moving fast!

lifegoes - One thought came to mind about your iron. He's deleting your messages and is messaging others. This would explain the repeat questions and lack of memory. But, I'd still go, for the experience.

Good luck to all those on dates tonight. Updates eagerly awaited!

Tooold I agree, I don't mind him messaging others but he could at least keep track of who he's meeting and when. He does remember everything else about me and texts quite a lot. I'll get my own back on the date. I might even deliberately forget his name 😂(I won't)

LIfegoes I'm with TooOld that this guy is deleting your messages, so he can remember lots of impressions about you but not the actual detail of place and time. In my experience, deleting messages indicates (1) that he is messaging other people (not a problem, he owes you nothing at this stage) and (2) that he is attached/married and doesn't want his OH to see. So if you do meet him tonight - and I don't see why you shouldn't get that experience in - I would quiz him closely on this point.

Amazing sleepover with Mr Chemist last night/this morning. Thank you Fab!!!

Ohhh cassettes I really hope he's not married as this is what happened with my ex. I was the OW and I didn't know. Horrific time.

I'll def be keeping my guard up. But deleting the messages sounds strange. Does everyone delete messages. I don't, especially in the early days.

I certainly don't delete messages unless I'm cross with someone and/or have dumped them. But I'm a completely free agent. Everyone is different.

Been away for what feels like ages....gonna try and catch up as much as possible

life that would pee me off, too. I'm very organised, naturally, and have to be for my job, so someone who couldn't bung the info about a date that had been fixed in their calendar would enrage me, I'm afraid!! And of course he could be deleting messages because he's attached. I would definitely -take the piss- tease about it, I'm not willing to be someone's human diary!

-take the piss- strike through fail!

This really worries me about him being possibly attached. I really can't go through what I did with my ex again. He broke me with lies and hurt.

I really hope he's not, but not sure how to even ask or if I can right now.

life I only delete messages if I don’t want anyone to see them, so if I’m going on a date with someone and there’s a chance they might see my phone I will delete messages from other irons, otherwise I don’t bother.

I’m having a bit of a downer after yesterday’s lovely date with Mr SA and I’m over anylising everything, worried I may have shared stuff that I should have kept to myself about past relationships and worrying because he seems to have had a lot of short relationships (months long and a short marriage) and wondering why? Maybe there’s a side to him I haven’t seen yet? Even with work he doesn’t stay anywhere very long. Do you think these are red flags?

Just checking in to say Mr Tatts decided he doesn't know what he wants so doesn't want to mess me around and thinks we should call it a day. Sigh.

off to read about everybody else's (hopefully more successful) news.

Love that's the only reason why I would delete them. That or I didn't want to speak to them. We are just assuming he's deleted them, he might just be texting that many he doesn't remember 🙄

Try not to overthink (says me) it's always difficult for both parties when you start sharing your past as people may judge but not know the full details.

life he maybe talking to others and deletes messages so he doesn’t get muddled up?
I’m awful at over thinking 🤣, some of the stuff Mr SA told me yesterday about his past was a bit shocking but I guess it shows he’s honest and upfront for telling me, I think because he was telling me stuff I ended up over sharing about my past. He has messaged me this morning and did thank me for yesterday but most of the conversation is about sex so again I am wondering if that’s all it really is (FWB).

I'm really sorry if I've unsettled you life, you're right it's just a possibility that he's deleting and an even more remote possibility that he is doing so because he has an OH - he may just have a really, really crap memory! I just wanted to highlight this as it was literally the first thing that popped into my head when I read your post. Please don't overthink and allow yourself to miss out tonight, just do some digging when you see him!

Love I don't know the answers to your questions but I would remind you of rules 3 and 8. It's early days still isn't it, and this should be fun?

Your right Cassettes and we are having fun, it’s just me sat here thinking too much, I need to make myself busy (and read the rules).

Oh no cassettes you haven't unsettled me. It's never entered my head hes with someone. But you could be right, I guess I won't know until I see him and do some digging.

Re-signed up to Bumble last night by just setting up my profile.

Haven't done any swiping but can see in the top left of the match screen that I've got 50+ who have swiped right on me and awaiting to match.

That's excellent rich just have to hope you like them back 😉

I do like bumble

Can that be real rich? No reflection on you of course, but I have had my doubts about Bumble and Tinder on that front - trying to get you to upgrade I reckon. Hope I'm wrong, and you just have to swipe right on everyone to get a fantastic pick!

@Cassettes No idea, I assume so and could pay to reveal them all but 90% of them will probably be 50+ miles away.

Ok. am I wrong

This guy who I'm meeting on Sunday remember he couldn't rem time etc

Just had a chat with him on phone.

His phone wouldn't couldn't connect when I tried to call him normally, said number not in service, he rang me on WhatsApp 👀

Said he's so nervous he's not dated for ages and that's why keeps forgetting things. 👀
Told me earlier he was going to a gig miles away tonight
On the phone he was getting ready to go for family meal (I almost said you said you were playing a gig tonight) 👀

He did sound nervous and kept saying it's his first date in ages.

But why the lie. 🤦🏻‍♀️