Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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@NKFell I'd have probably had a bottle of wine by now so no judgment here 🤷😂😂

I think I'm just going to say 'so you been shagging anyone else' 🙈😂😂😂

Have fun nkfell but not too much gin before food 😉

I am really depressed this evening. I think the no chemistry date with Mr Hot has made me think no one will ever fancy me. In fact it makes me miss my (crazy, aggressive) stbxh ☹️ Not because I want him back but because I miss sex and intimacy with a man

itsamiracle I think “Merge lives” was part of my drunken wittering from last night. I was drinking gin and dating the thread ....

@ItsAMiracle2015 🤣🤣🤣 I'm defo going to ask this question from the outset going forward. Hopefully things will work out with Mr Grey No2 and I won't need to mind you

miracle 😂😂😂** you could probably get away with that as it's your personality. I was once asked if they had any competition. I quite liked that approach

Right when/if he texts back I'm going to ask him

Oh @Marlboroandmalbec34 don't let those thoughts come into your head. Get back swiping on OLD. Get into some conversations

lifegoes when I first started OLD one guy asked if he had any competition and I actually listed his competition. One by one. Really bad and funnily enough he never replied 😂😂. Yay!! Please ask him!!

Marl I think merge lives will stay with me forever. Scariest words I've ever seen after an 11 year relationship and in fairness I'm glad you said them as I'd never even thought about it 🙈

Also I've had plenty of no chemistry dates. And I did think about my nutty ex after each one as at least it was something but you will find someone!!

Miracle thats hilarious as I said depends on how you treat me day by day. Today it could be two but by Thursday it could 8 who knows. He replied with I better get working you hard then. I liked that.

Typical he's been texting all day and now he stops. Fuck it I'm just going to ask if he's free next Sunday

@ItsAMiracle2015 @Marlboroandmalbec34 we are all the same. Thinking about our ex's after regardless of how vile they were. But it's good, as it means we have emotions and care. But also will make us stronger as people

Yes I like that too!! Perfect response!! Definitely message him but I'm really not the best person for this 😂😂

@ItsAMiracle2015 I asked if he was free, and he said do you mean where are we going. It's on!

lifegoes yay!!! That's excellent news!!

Miracle now it feels real. It's a real date though, not just a quick meet up. I think it should be a quick meet up first?

I don't think it matters but I'm quite blunt so if it isn't going well I just say I'm tired and call a taxi 🤷. I wouldn't do dinner though. I would just do a few drinks so you're not tied into a sit down meal if you're not feeling it.

We have so much in common and just get each other's humour. I hope he's ok when I meet him 👀

I would feel comfortable just saying I have to leave now. I think he would to me too

lifegoes exciting!!

Well I think it's over with Mr Grey No2. He responded to my earlier message with a good and not so good response. I then responded apologising for the rambling drunk message and that all I wanted to know was he dating others. He's not responded to that so I've sent him another message now explains my point and saying I won't message him again I'll give him space. I looked back through our messages he's made it clear to me on more than one occasion he's not seeing anyone and I guess I know that. It's actually me that's seeing / chatting to others. I have deleted the apps I need to stay off them for now until I can figure out the self sabotaging - think I need no men for a while I'm obviously not in the right place or it wouldn't be so hard 😭😭😭

I don’t know the back story focus as I’ve only recently joined but it might not all be lost. Wait and see but don’t text again.
I really identified with your post. I think I also tend to say “too much” by text and then regret it!! I’d never say it in person.
And sometimes when I look back at a text thread i think, why did I take that the wrong way? Why did I reply so stroppily?
It’s something I’m going to avoid in future (texting). Interpretation is jut too subjective and unpredictable ime.
Anything big to say, I’ll save it for face to face. If I can’t say it then, maybe I’m not ready to say it.
Ha! That’s the plan anyway.

@KhaleesiTargaryen thank you I won't bore you with back story lol I'm just realising I self sabotage. You make a very valid point if I can't say it to his face then I'm not ready to say it and I shouldn't be doing it via text!!

@Focus2019 do you find it's a reaction when you send something via text? So you just suddenly decide to ask or something gets in your head and you ask?

Just the reason I ask is... I go with the rule of 24 hours. When I'm angry or something is bothering me, I write the text out but don't send. I wait 24 hours and read it back, if I still feel it's the right thing to ask or say. Then I send it. If not, then I delete it.

Just a thought.

Oh focus and khaleesi I do this too. I look back and think why did I get in a strop!

Hi everyone

Just got back from date with Dr, he was lovely & we got on really well, im just not sure if hes too young for me? Hes dead keen though which is lovely & very flattering he called me driving back & has text to make sure im home ok - not sure if its too much??! 🤷‍♀️ we are seeing each other again thursday so shall see ....

Hope everyones nights are going well

@lifegoes that is a very good suggestion. It was something I had wanted to ask him when he was here but I chickened out and I won't see him now for a wee while. But I shouldn't have texted him as I ended up rambling I will encore the 24hr rule from now on!

@Justme1981 glad it went well I'd say don't worry about his age it's only a number if you like him and he likes you go with it