Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

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Right guys I am 20 mins early for my date with Mr Hot. Sat in car park of pub watching the door wish me luck!!!

fingers crossed and good luck marloro, hope it goes fab

Good luck Marlboro hope it goes well!

Phew thought I’d lost you! Please can I ask you lot some advice?

I’ve invited the bloke I’ve been going on dates with round to my house tonight but I have 4 DC from 2yrs to 10yrs. I told him to come round at 9 because then all will be in bed- Is this normal? I’ve never someone over like this since having children.

Any tips/advice?

Good luck Marlboro! I'm sure it will be a brilliant date.

NKFell sounds ok to me. I've done that a few times

Good luck @Marlboroandmalbec34

Hope it's going well Marlb.
NKFell - Yeah I do it. Got a 10yr old and at that age you can't guarantee they wont come down so best to tell him a friend is popping round.

I reinstalled WhatsApp and nothing. So, I've msg him to say 'Good luck, I'm going back on the Apps'. I've wasted a Sunday and child free days are infrequent. Hey ho. Back to the drawing board.

Ok quick update he responded to say he's not looking to date others just hadn't taken down profile or deleted app. He's not talking to anyone else. He's happy with things as they are but.....he also worried I'm looking for more than he can give me. So I've gone back and said I'm happy with things as they are so we will see how he responds to that. So good in one respect.

TooOld that's a shame about Mr BE. He sounded great to start with. But I think he should've made more effort to keep in contact with you.

NKFell I've done that and just told the kids that a friend was visiting in case they heard me talking.

I had a nice coffee date today. We got on well. Had lots to talk about. Felt very relaxed.
But he is shorter than me. He claimed he was the same height. No way. I was almost looking over the top of his head.
Plus there are quite a few issues around one of his children. I can't say too much but it would restrict the time we could meet to possibly one evening a week only. And maybe an afternoon on a weekend.

It's the first time in months I've met someone I like so I don't know whether to give it a try and see what happens. Or say no now because I can see problems with finding time to meet in the future.

Well Mr Hot was very hot and we had a nice convo. I don’t think he fancied me though and there wasn’t a spark ☹️ At the end he kissed me on the cheek and said “nice meeting you” short dates are definitely the way forward for me...I just want a shag.
Mr Big and his threesome is looking more appealing 😂

NKFell if your both happy with that time I don’t see an issue? How many dates have you been on? I have 2 toddlers and I wouldn’t have someone in the house with them unless I had got to know them quite well

Ah sorry tooold he did sound promising at the start but I could not be doing with someone not contacting - if it’s a relationship you are after

focus that sounds good to me!

TooOld I’m laughing my head off about the unimpressive soft penis that is like a magic trick, I have to say Mr SA has one of those

Hi everyone, thank you for making me welcome. Im getting nervous about my date with the Dr tonight! We are meeting at a pub half way between us, i'm torn between wearing jeans, top & heels or vintage style dress (sweatheart neck, below knee), denim jacket & kitten heels - help!!

I think go for it myoldbrain. You clicked and found him attractive. It doesn't really matter about the height unless it's a big no for you.
At the start maybe an eve a week and afternoon at the weekend will be enough? And if it went well i'm sure you both could work things out. I say go for it

justme perhaps go very slightly sexy. legs or boobs but not both! I think show him your best and leave him wanting more!

Quick question an old iron who I liked from last year has just friend requested me on FB. I messaged him end of last year we messaged a few times but nothing came of it as he was seeing someone. I'm now wishing I didn't accept the request. If I unfriend he'll know. Do I message and say did you mean to request me??? What do I do??

Which do you feel best in justme? I tend to go with what I'm feeling on the day.

MyOld can you manage to see him on the days he's available? It wouldn't work for me, being that restricted, but I have grown up children am much more free.

TooOld I'm so sad that MrBE didn't get in touch 😕

@Justme1981 if it's first date go for whatever you are comfy in. I'd always do jeans or a casual dress I wouldn't be too dressy on a first date. But you do what you are comfortable with. Tip I do is wear flats in case he lied about his height 🤣🤣🤣

Focus and Lily

Thanks everyone, think im going with the dress i love it & rarely get chance to put on a dress (its cotton so not too dressy i think)
Focus2019 thanks for the tip i hadn't thought about that!
myoldbrain height is a dealbreaker for me I really don't like short men but if there's a spark & you are happy - go for it!
Focus2019 im not on FB so totally clueless perhaps leave it a bit & see if he gets in touch?

Hi all,
Well had a pretty boring childless day also although did go for lunch out.
Starting to get dejected with the whole thing. I just can’t belive that there can be anyone decent out there who would be a match for me!
Back to work tomorrow so hoping to see the guy who comes in sporadically who knows I like him and I know is single and who tried saying a few words to me last week but I only managed a short reply and a blush...
I know sometimes we’re advised not to chance them but to let them chase us but if a when our paths do cross again I feel like I need to try and move things forward somehow-any tips?

I'm not really keen on short men but I liked him, which is unusual for me, until he stood up. Then I realised how short he was.
If that was the only issue then I could probably overlook it because of his personality.

However, I've been thinking through how we could meet. And he couldn't come here during the week because of my kids. He lives 30mins away so going to his would be ok but time would be limited because I don't like leaving the kids alone too late. And I can't do that every week.
The weekend afternoon is actually only about 3hrs, less if you take off travel time. That only works alternative weekends for me.
He isn't free any Friday or Saturday, daytime or evening.

He's asked to see me again. I've said yes but pointed out that time is very restricted because of our children. The situation with his is never likely to change. I can't see this going anywhere but I like him, so it would be nice to meet him again.