Dating Thread 148 - Having a Fab Time!

[TooOldForThis67]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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life I did exactly the same with my ex. Made excuses for his shitty behaviour. Allowed things I would never allow now. Live and learn 😊.

@user1466783975 I agree with miracle wait and see. I mean you were really happy to know he didn't have a wig on. And now he's done the first part well.

Let's wait and see. But please rem your facial expressions when you do see it, In case it's small haha ha

@ItsAMiracle2015 being over 40 I thought I'd learnt it all. Seems not, but this site has taught me so much lately.

Acorn cock for one 😂😂😂

ok,thanks :) I will wait and see. I really like him

lifegoes just did the usual 'still on for tonight?' check and got a nah I'm feeling off (was out on the shots with a mate yesterday, isn't ill) and I'm miffed because I don't get many child free nights and that's another wasted ffs. Ah well. Glad I checked before I got myself tarted up.

@WarIsPeace what a prick, he could have text to tell you, Common courtesy. Says a lot about him that does.

Lifegoes it does sound super dodgy, whether he is in cahoots with your ex or not, who the hell is he to be asking you these questions? If it was me I would message and say something along the lines of that I didn't appreciate the jealousy and interrogation particularly from someone I haven't even met, and that I was out, and then block on everything.

I had never heard of acorns before! 😂😂 perhaps he is a grower though?? 🤷🏻‍♀️☺️

I'm fully installed on OkCupid now and have been browsing away tonight, there's a few men I quite like the look of but only one who has liked me back (plenty of others but I'm on the free version so can't see them). I guess the people I have liked can't see that either so I'll have to bite the bullet and message, aargh!

Still feeling sad about Mr NM though, I know it's ridiculous and I should just be able to see him as a twat but it's hard... need new dates to distract myself but I do feel quite deflated and half-hearted about it all atm.

WarIs that's so annoying, flakiness is the worst. Have just had a guy try and get back in touch after flaking on me twice and then disappearing for weeks, no damn way...

TooOld that is really shit, but I guess if he has a bad injury.. have you heard anything else from him?

Ugh WarIs that's even worse, just so inconsiderate of your time. Agree that says a lot.

Anyone got any thoughts on whether it's worth paying to see your likes on OkC?

leonasa I wouldn't. The whole paid aspect to dating sites isn't what I would call reliable, I've also heard with OKCupid among others there's a lot of bot profiles and fake profiles on there - just to get people intrigued enough to pay to see likes and realise it's a waste of time.

Thanks, that's helpful!

I paid on Ok Cupid and don't think it's worth it.

Just back from date with Mr Sailor. We're planning date number 3 ....

Out of little acorns, trees grow. But, he could have a micro penis!

falaf happy to look at your profile but doubt you’re doing anything wrong
miracle he sounds like a keeper -wish I could find me one of those-
user forgot about the acorns!how many threads ago was that?!😂
and I’ve heard of an acorn, but not being able to find it?!😂😂 but in all seriousness maybe he’s a grower not a shower and knows how to use it well so worth persevering?
Dying for lily s update!

Strikethrough fail!

So tonight I realised I've got the feels for Mr Grey No 2 big time I felt it last weekend but it was more tonight. The thing is I saw his profile on the apps. So I have sent him a very honest message telling him I saw him and obviously meant I was on the apps. I said I'd like to be off the apps which I would if were going to give it a go otherwise I can't keep seeing him. I'm just not sure he's in the right place to be able to offer me more than he is just now but it's not enough anymore. Damm feelings!! Why couldn't he have agreed we were FWB when I gave him the chance last month. I couldn't do that now I've got feeling for him xx

focus - Aww, feel for you. x

user - re: acorns, it's not an age thing - a 61 year olds cock would not have shrivelled up into non existence! Maybe it's just small.

@Focus2019 has he replied yet?

Oh Focus that's hard 😕 any reply yet?

User I agree with Comedy maybe it's just small !

@BatshitCrazyWoman @ItsAMiracle2015 @TooOldForThis67 no reply yet. I'm not freaking out just yet I was very honest in my post and I want him to think about it - just a bit of background with him. We met beginning of December it was the most intense first date ever - if I'd believed in love at first sight this was it - we had the most amazing day we DTD which I had never done on first date the sex was amazing. I told him shortly after I had fallen for him and he said that scared him and he backed off I didn't see him for 2 weeks by which time I'd met McDreamy who I liked so for a while I saw them both in my head thinking McDreamy was the one and he was my distraction to stop me over investing fast forward to now McDreamy is gone and I'm now falling for my other guy I have been trying to fight it but the last couple of weeks I've realised I have it bad so if I'm going to move forward with him it needs to be exclusive we've met like 14 times so it's been a lot of time. It's a complicated situation as he is still in house with ex part time their house is sold and he moves next month into his own flat he bought. so it's hard for us to move forward just now but I'm just scared he moves out and dumps me once he's free to do what he wants 🙁

@LilyRose88 we need your update!!!

@lifegoes whether he know your ex or not he’s acting like a jealous, controlling, possessive dick. Who the hell does he think he is questioning you on your friendships, and why you’ve changed your profile pic? Toodleoo motherfucker!

@Focus2019 I’m sorry you’re feeling crap, hope you get a decent reply from him.

Re acorns - I don’t think it’s age related, I think if they’re small they’re always small but sometimes what size they are soft doesn’t reflect what happens when erect. I’d always give a littleun a chance lol.

I do think older men are more likely to have erection issues though - not getting hard when kissing and cuddling is more common I think, but once in bed/in the moment they can achieve an erection.

One of my flings had erection issues but had developed methods to compensate and oh my god! By the time he got hard I was already about five up 😁

Cross posted @Focus2019. I think all you can do is keep communicating and wait and see how he feels once moved.

Trying to catch up with the thread, it moves so fast.

life I think if I was in your situation I would block and run, something dodgy is going on here and I’m guessing your ex is involved, even if he isn’t then this guy is still a controlling jealous type and you don’t deserve this shit in your life. There’s no way I could date anyone linked to my ex as he was an abusive controlling twat, I refuse to even talk to anyone he knows incase he uses them to get to me.

TooOld I would think your iron is telling the truth about his injury, I always give people a 2nd chance after they cancel a date, sometimes these thing happen and some people are just not great about thinking to call us ASAP when something else is going on (in this case a injury), hopefully he will be in contact and arrange another date.