DP just bought a ring... Am I crazy to think he's about to propose?

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We've been together for 18months . We have discussed marriage in the past and he knows I would say yes... The only thing id that I love jewellery in general so it could be just a random gift :/

If he proposed to you with. £50 ring from argos what would your answer be?

This is awful and weird for so many reasons.

18 mo is not too early for "all this marriage stuff" if you're trying to conceive a baby w someone.

But barbarian mum, he's still married to someone else!

If I were materialistic I wouldn't be with him as simple as that. And of course I would say yes, regardless of the value of the ring.

@PinkHeart5914 I disagree.
I met my husband in April 2014, be became official 9th May 2014. We started ttc in July 2014, we moved in together in October 2014, we conceived November 2014. We found out I was pregnant December 2014. We got engaged January 13th 2015, we set the date mid February 2015 and got married 9th April 2015. Our baby was due end of August 2015 but born early September.
So we were ttc after 2 months together. We had discussed marriage and both felt the same. Then when we found out we had a baby on the way we again both agreed it was important to us to be married before the baby was born. Hence the very short engagement and getting married the exact date we'd been together for 11 months. Married within less than a year.
Some would say it was all very quick but it's what we wanted.

Actively trying to conceive a baby with someone before you've even lived with them is beyond ridiculous.

If you're not materialistic why don't you just give him the money for the ring and point him in the right direction?

I've got a Tiffany soleste (colourless diamond though) and it's the best so I understand haha.

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kitten because I don't want to buy my own ring. I'd rather he buys me something that is £50 but he chose, than me giving him the money and expect to be "surprised". I think it has been entirely of my own doing. I'd rather have the grand gesture of dinner (which can be at home I don't mind) and not expecting than forking out for a ring and then just wait for it to happen.

@sleeping
We didn't get engaged as I was 20 when he bought me the ring in my 2nd year of Uni and I was sure I wanted to be with him, scared about it, but also BLOODY YOUNG. I'm 24 now and engaged, I'll be 26 when we're married (2021 wedding)

OP: your replies contradict each other. Even the title is wrong as later you state you know its a pre promise ring. So you know he wasn't going to propose, until he has the funds to buy you the overpriced ring..... you just wanted to brag about money, and how much shit costs and how many rolexes you have.

And all through the thread you show how materialistic you are. Poor husband to be, hasn't even divorced his last wife which no doubt will cost him a fortune and you already have your mitts on his cash, even though you state you are the higher earner. Im baffled.

Blimey, how exhausting!

Keeping up with the Jones's springs to mind.

I don't understand this.

I don't undestand this either. The ring is just a gesture whether it's worth £500 or £50,000. If he just can't afford a ring like you want, it means to me that you aren't as in love as you think you are. When my DH got me an engagement ring, at the time it was not expensive but it meant the world to me because I was marrying him. Not the ring.

P.S. You are paying for the name Tiffany with that ring. I'm not impressed with their jewellery at all, over priced totally. You could get far more ring for your money secondhand in the jewellery quarter Birmingham.

I thought he was buying an engagement ring (thanks to his DC). Then he clarified and said it wasn't as the actual engagement ring would be a lot more expensive. His words not mine. And that this could be a "promise" one.

Well then what on earth is your thread title all about??

Because there was about 30mins between the thread and the clarification.... Or thereabouts. I don't mind what he buys. O think because of my family and what I already own and shown him he thinks it has to be that or nothing. Which I have already clarified to him thanks to this ring. So we'll see I guess

But he did propose marriage.

Tiffany rings are outrageously overpriced. A jeweller in Hatton Garden would make you the same thing for probably half the price....but you wouldn't get a turquoise bag and the bragging rights that if came from tiffanys.....but I think the ring is just one of a whole lot of stuff going on!

And that this could be a "promise" one.

So was that his intention when he bought it, or what he came up with the when he realised you thought he was proposing?

Where does the 'promising' stop?
You get a 'promise ring' before the 'engagement ring', which is essentially a ring to 'promise to marry you'.
Do you then get another ring when you've booked the wedding to 'promise I'll turn up on the day'?

What about after you're married? Do you get another one promising to still be married next year? In 10 years?
All sounds pretty stupid to me.

All sounds pretty stupid to me.

Not just you. It sounds like a couple of teenagers wanting to do some empty romantic stuff to pit on instagram.

Yes, an engagement ring is a promise to marry. So a promise ring prior to this is to promise to promise to marry. Or something like that.

I thought promise rings were something you did in school?!

Why are you now saying you don't mind what he buys when you earlier on said you had your heart set on this Tiffany ring which he can't afford? I'm beyond confused

@popping I genuinely don't know. But he has proposed in the past and to him we're as good as engaged.