To be annoyed that someone sent my hubby a valentine card.

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Just that really, I'm home all day on maternity leave, post comes through the letterbox yesterday about lunchtime with a red envelope looking suspiciously like a valentine card I turn it over and see my 7 year old dd's name looking closer I see it says to dd's dad followed by our exact address the label has been printed so no handwriting. So I open it (like you do) and it is a valentine card with big love hearts saying be mine, inside is just a big question mark in pink lipstick.
Am I right to be annoyed that someone would sent a happily married man with three kids a valentine card?
I'm thinking that they don't even know him as they didn’t put his name on the envelope but they obviously know the name of one of our children, also our dd's name is spelt unusually so unless they knew her they would probably spell it the usual way but they got the spelling right so they clearly know her name but not his. So then I'm thinking is it a mom from school or a teacher? It can't be someone we know or close to us as they would have put his name on the card surely even if it was only his first name. I really don't think he is having an affair and again even if he was why make the card out to dd's dad?
It can't be one of dd's friends as they are only 7 and surely not clever enough to print a label, find a first class stamp and post it without anyone knowing. It could be someone playing a joke but again why put to dd's dad on the envelope? Plus it's not very funny when your hormonal and suffering sleepless nights with a baby.
Sorry for ranting but I have been up all night thinking about it.
Does anyone have any suggestions please?

Clearly a child from her class or older sibling.

So much paranoia.

This sounds like someone jealous of your family trying to cause trouble, people can be bitter when others have what they want and it probably isn’t even personal you just have everything in their eyes.

I think that someone wants to disturb your family. The Innocent exterior + the Sexy interior. If your daughter had seen the card first, surely it would have confused her. It certainly caused you some distress.

I also found it strange that your husband’s initial reaction was to get an ego-boost.

Has one of your dc had a birthday party at your house where one of the mums could have kept your address from the invitation? That would explain only knowing your dds name but knowing your address.

I think the sender knows his name, but put _’s Dad as part of the game.

/@Bluntness100

Can you share exactly what your DCs school did?

I'd be very surprised to find my taxes were going to fund fucking valentines bullshit.

Your taxes had sod all to do with it, it was a private school.

Maybe next time try not to jump to conclusions.

My friends and most of the girls in class & I all had crushes on one of our teachers when we were twelve. We would have done something like that. My bf & I went to his house with a cake when we learned he was getting married. We left notes in his books too.

My money is on an adolescent girl who knows him slightly.

Really wish everyone with the ‘its illegal’ posts would bugger off, I open DH’s mail every day because otherwise he forgets and it gets left for ages.

OP try not to worry too much. Easier said than done I know but even people in the most loving secure marriages can feel uneasy at times.

I too think it’s an older child (hopefully)

I really doubt a child would have the wherewithal to buy a card, write it, find the address and post it, all the while risking being caught. It’s not something any child I know would do.

I personally don’t think it’s anything to do with someone fancying your DH, i instantly thought that it’s probably someone who dislikes you for some reason trying to get your back up and make you worried or stressed out a bit. Do you know anyone who has a grudge against you or you might have pissed off?

I think any reasonable 12 or 13 year old is perfectly capable of doing all of that. And unless they have SN, I would be concerned about any 12 or 13 year old that was not capable of doing this. Its really not hard to do.

My first thought would be that the school (however inappropriately this may now seem) had them do this, not that DH was up to something.

At our kid’s school they used to do stuff like this all the time, admittedly usually aimed at showing them how to compose/ address a postcard or letter, stamp and post it.

Maybe your DD is waiting for it to arrive?

I think any reasonable 12 or 13 year old is perfectly capable of doing all of that. And unless they have SN, I would be concerned about any 12 or 13 year old that was not capable of doing this. Its really not hard to do.

Indeed. Who are these children that aren’t capable of buying stamps/posting a letter? I get under a certain age they wouldn’t be able to go out unsupervised to buy cards/stamps, but by secondary school age most kids would have ample opportunity to do this.

Isn’t it much more likely that is a teen crush than a crazy stalker?

And this has teen crush written all over it.

Haha fair point Claire, totally agree at 12 it’s absolutely feasible. I didn’t read closely enough and as everyone was talking about ‘child’ I assumed she was much younger. But yeah it’s possible a kid would have done this, I think it’s far more likely to be an adult though.

Really wish everyone with the ‘its illegal’ posts would bugger off, I open DH’s mail every day because otherwise he forgets and it gets left for ages.

He obviously knows you do, personally I'd question my partner opening my mail when I am perfectly capable of doing it myself.

I’d be a little flattered that someone finds my DH of nearly 19yrs (together 23) as sexy as I do. Then I’d chuck the card in the bin and forget about it. Then it’d come up in teasing situations “...do you remember when you got a valentines card from a stranger dh hahahahaha?”

Seriously, your DH married you! Forget it!

The OP’s daughter is 7.

Has no one else considered that addressing it to X's dad might be someone's way of indicating to him exactly who it is?
I know I've had conversations which involved, "sorry, what is your actual name? You're X's dad in my phone"
Something like that could have become a standing joke between him and one of the mums.
In all honesty I think it's probably a teenage crush, but I don't blame the OP for wondering.

Bloody hell. What a bizarre thread. So much angst over a card from one of DD's friends / friend's older sibling.

U OK hun?