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H is an animal

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Wheredoistartwiththis · 14/02/2019 22:09

I have obviously name changed for this post and still shaking with disbelief and rage.

I have just gone downstairs from having my shower to find h with his cock over the sink and presumably about to wash it. He jumped when he realised I was there and the first thing out his mouth was oh I was going to wash the sink after!

I stood there in disbelief for a while and then became very angry. In the sink was my mug and a few bits of cutlery. I was so angry with his that I slapped him, I am ashamed with myself for doing this but I slapped him hard. I wash dishes that I prepare our children's food on in there. He also insists on brushing his teeth in the kitchen sink and we've argued over that before, he think I am completely unreasonable in this upsetting me.

He is now denying it completely saying I am seeing things. I am upstairs shaking with anger. I plan to show him this thread so he can see that I am not unreasonable for getting angry with his hygiene habits. There was no need for him to do this, we have a lovely bathroom for him to wash his cock in.

OP posts:
purplelass · 15/02/2019 11:31

She's got enough on her plate(s)

Grin Grin Grin

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 15/02/2019 11:36

Presuming oral sex never happens in your relationship op?

BillMasen · 15/02/2019 11:46

And equally really disappointed at MN HQ for joining in the joking.

Do you all seriously think it's ok to laugh about this. Someone's partner has hit them because they didn't like what they were doing. I don't give a fuck about the sexes of the parties, or their relative sizes, or the "reason" why one of them was hit.

If a woman was hit by a smaller man and no harm was done would that be ok?

If a woman was hit by a man would there be jokes about what she was doing to cause it, to deserve it? Would mumsnet join in those jokes?

FFS guys, you should be better than this...

pregnantforever · 15/02/2019 12:03

Just waiting for the drip feed where this is a reverse

Sethis · 15/02/2019 12:05

To whoever came up with the idea that he was deliberately despoiling her crockery... you're either maliciously shit stirring by inventing absurd motivations to terrify the OP, or you're actually paranoid about men to the point that you should seek professional help. FML.

The bathroom was occupied. He was either washing it or urinating because of that reason. Whether you think it was a good enough reason or not is down to you, but don't ascribe to maliciousness what can be explained by a difference in personal hygiene attitudes.

Areyouserious9 · 15/02/2019 12:05

#BillMasen couldn't agree more. If it was the other way round everyone on here would be shouting LTB but because she's a woman she's fine doing it. Explains a lot about the horrendous attitude on this site towards men.
Every man that did that would be accused of DV. Just like every man on here who wants to see his children more is accused of only doing it to cut down their maintenance payments.
This site seems to think all women are celestial angels and all men are the Devil incarnate. I thought it was meant to be a site for PARENTS by PARENTS.

girraffeduck · 15/02/2019 12:15

@BillMasen the joining in with the jokes is what makes me particularly suspect that they're not in on the creative writing themselves tbh

ToEarlyForDecorations · 15/02/2019 12:16

Had he lost his penis beaker ?

Aenn · 15/02/2019 12:34

Op it’s subjective whether this behaviour is ok.

Personally I wouldn’t care if dh either washed his dick or pissed in the kitchen sink. I would think it was a strange choice and ask him why, but really there are no hygiene problems with what you describe. People have dicks in their mouths. Honestly I’d be far more pissed off if dh didn’t remove his skanky work shoes before walking on the carpet.

That said, if he knows this sort of thing would upset you then he was being very unreasonable to do it. You live together and you need to agree how things work at home.

HeckyPeck · 15/02/2019 13:21

Come on! She hit him on the arm! Look at ANY TV programme, book etc and you will see that couples interact like that. Slapping someone's arm is not DV.

If my DH hit my arm in anger he’d be out the door. Or maybe it would be ok because I’m tall?

misskiki69 · 15/02/2019 13:25

I'm shocked that there are some people who seem to minimise "cock washing in the kitchen sink." 🙈 If the cock is so filthy, get in the goddamn shower/bath!

TheGoddessFrigg · 15/02/2019 13:30

A reverse?? How the eff would a woman be able to balance?

I think it's more a stealth boast myself. Grin

Squigglesworth · 15/02/2019 13:36

Definitely install a hidden spy-cam to monitor all illicit sink-based behaviors. Bonus: You'll have incontrovertible proof of future transgressions. Wink

HeckyPeck · 15/02/2019 13:37

A reverse?? How the eff would a woman be able to balance?

Maybe a woman cleaning her mooncup in the sink then her husband called her disgusting and hit her arm?

I can imagine the responses that would get! I’d bet none would be saying it’s only a slap or she shouldn’t have been doing something unhygienic in the sink..

bobstersmum · 15/02/2019 13:48

I haven't rtft as I can't be bothered but have we established why he was washing his cock at all? Was he using it to plunge the sink?

AutumnCrow · 15/02/2019 13:54

The OP was clear that he was doing it with cups and plates still in the sink that she and their DC would be (inadvertently) using. He then denied he ever had his cock out. He lied.

I always take the bowl of washing up out of the sink before using it for washing anything else. It takes two seconds. Leaving it in would be a bit skanky and deliberately done.

And I don't see how it can be a reverse either.

OnTheFrow · 15/02/2019 13:58

I haven't read all of this but my god it's had me laughing. Sorry and I would be annoyed if that's what he was doing but sooooo many questions 😂

MiraculousMarinette · 15/02/2019 13:59

Is it just me wondering why the random cock-washing? What could possibly have been the urgency? Confused

4free · 15/02/2019 14:08

Probably had a wank. I have an ex who used to wank in the sink 😒

OnTheFrow · 15/02/2019 14:14

Wanking in the sink???? Hahha I'm going to have to read the full thread!

OnTheFrow · 15/02/2019 14:21

Actually the best thread ever. Does he have a monster cock? Is it massive?

BillMasen · 15/02/2019 15:03

@ToEarlyForDecorations
@TheGoddessFrigg
@Squigglesworth
@bobstersmum
@OnTheFrow

Can any of you please explain why you feel it's appropriate to be laughing at this situation? Would you say it's funny for someone to hit their partner because they did something they didn't like? Do you find amusement when a man hits a woman?

No apologies for calling you out by name. However, you are just the posters after my comments. There were too many before to list...

TomorrowsPrincess · 15/02/2019 15:11

@BillMasen
This !!!!

I find it shocking that the OP jokes saying he's not going to be emotionally scarred by her hitting him.
Why?? Just why minimise this! You can't hit your partner!! Full stop.....
So what he had his cock in the sink..... you thought that was an appropriate excuse to hit this man you love?
I find you scarily strange! Do you often hit your husband if he does something you don't like?
I worry for him..... what would happen if he turned and gave you a crack back? Would you be sobbing on MN for sympathy?
Pots and cutlery can wash..... leave the man alone!

Bluntness100 · 15/02/2019 15:23

So many questions. Why was he just washing his cock? Why not his balls and bum? Surely they all need doing?what about his pits? Was he going to use fairy liquid? And the pot scrubber? And what would he dry it on? The dishcloth?

Enquiring minds need to know!

bobstersmum · 15/02/2019 15:55

If I thought the story was real Bill, I'd maybe not be joking.

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