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H is an animal

264 replies

Wheredoistartwiththis · 14/02/2019 22:09

I have obviously name changed for this post and still shaking with disbelief and rage.

I have just gone downstairs from having my shower to find h with his cock over the sink and presumably about to wash it. He jumped when he realised I was there and the first thing out his mouth was oh I was going to wash the sink after!

I stood there in disbelief for a while and then became very angry. In the sink was my mug and a few bits of cutlery. I was so angry with his that I slapped him, I am ashamed with myself for doing this but I slapped him hard. I wash dishes that I prepare our children's food on in there. He also insists on brushing his teeth in the kitchen sink and we've argued over that before, he think I am completely unreasonable in this upsetting me.

He is now denying it completely saying I am seeing things. I am upstairs shaking with anger. I plan to show him this thread so he can see that I am not unreasonable for getting angry with his hygiene habits. There was no need for him to do this, we have a lovely bathroom for him to wash his cock in.

OP posts:
carrotflinger · 15/02/2019 16:05

Why did you presume he was about to wash his cock?
Surely a more logical explanation is that you had been in the shower for a while, he needed the toilet so he pissed/was about to piss in the sink when you suddenly reappeared from the shower and caught him with his cock over the sink. He starts splashing water towards it so you will think he is washing it rather than pissing with it.

But yeah... disgusting.

TheFormerMrsPugwash · 15/02/2019 16:07

@PowerPantsRule Look at ANY TV programme, book etc and you will see that couples interact like that

What kind of TV do you watch, @PowerPantsRule? Reality TV on one of those niche channels? Admittedly I last watched telly in about 2003, but I didn't see many people hitting one another. I do read lots of books, but they don't seem to be about slapping one another around, either.

OP said ages ago upthread that people are treating her as if she did something wrong. She did do something wrong.

ScrumpyCrack · 15/02/2019 16:19

I’m always on at my DH not to leave the dirty cockery in the sink so I get where you’re coming from OP.

OnTheFrow · 15/02/2019 17:31

I'm sorry @BillMasen I will be more serious in future. I don't condone hitting. Even if it is for flopping a monster cock in a sink.

lboogy · 15/02/2019 17:43

How long is your husband's falsified cock that it can hang into the sink?

That aside, he's completely gross

Aridane · 15/02/2019 17:58

On the bright side though, at least he hasn’t been using a toilet brush to clean the toilet- that really would have been unforgivable

hellenbackagen · 15/02/2019 18:02

im not getting the drama? surely if he washes it in the bathroom sink you wash your face in there too?

its a bit of a body. not the ebola virus?

bubblegumbottles · 15/02/2019 18:06

100% was having a piss.

itsbritneybiatches · 15/02/2019 18:19

Presumably the penis beaker was in the dishwasher?

qazxc · 15/02/2019 18:57

Hitting your partner in any circumstance, on any part of the anatomy, is wrong, regardless of how tall he is or gender.

AFistfulofDolores1 · 15/02/2019 19:58

I'm really sad at all the needlessly cruel comments on here. It's like being in a fucking playground - and you've lost any moral high ground when that happens.

OP, it sounds like this isn't just about what happened. Not many people are appreciating that there is almost certainly a barrage of things that have led up to your post. Your behaviour is indicative of this, even while I don't excuse it.

I hope you get some clarity about what to do so that you don't have to deal with that again, and you don't hit someone again either.

CaptainCabinets · 15/02/2019 23:03

DP has washed his willy in the bathroom sink (he’s about 5’8, for reference), I’m not sure I’d be thrilled if he did it in the kitchen but I wouldn’t fucking assault him if I caught him. Confused

I’d mercilessly tease him about it, though. Are you usually very highly-strung?

GinandGingerBeer · 15/02/2019 23:12

My DH is also 6ft 4" with a 38" inside leg, no way could he flop his cock in the kitchen sink. Bathroom maybe.

Never thought I'd be typing that out 😅🤷🏻‍♀️

CaptainCabinets · 15/02/2019 23:12

Also, can you imagine the responses if a man had posted this?

“My wife was washing her mooncup in the sink so I hit her but she’s bigger than me so it’s alright” Hmm

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 15/02/2019 23:13

I feel more perturbed that some adults are referring to it as a willy tbh.

HelloItsMe · 15/02/2019 23:16

This kind of thing really wouldn't piss me off atall... Disinfectant the sink- problem solved . Bit random he would do that though and he maybe shouldn't too respect your wishes but otherwise not that big of a deal really ..

Monday55 · 16/02/2019 00:06

I suspect it's not the first time he's done it as well... Revolting !

DioneTheDiabolist · 16/02/2019 00:08

OP, I'd be disgusted if I saw that too.Envy

BartholinsSister · 16/02/2019 00:48

Aren't sinks supposed to be for washing stuff in?
Perhaps he had hurt it or needed to hold the end under a running tap or something.

Al2O3 · 16/02/2019 02:13

Take him to the vet and get it done humanely.

Smotheroffive · 16/02/2019 02:22

I hope he'll be scrapin the bits of ceilceiling out of his hair after he's cleaned the sink (as he would literally have to btoover 7ft fall for his penis to be sink height, either that or its about 18" long you lucky girl Wink

As for assaulting him, I hope he reports you.

Smotheroffive · 16/02/2019 02:24

All of you thinking he can simply flop it into the sink stopnfor a minute and think how close you could get you vulva to the sink for a piss? You'd have to stand on a chair (with a she wee of course)

TearingUpMyHeart · 16/02/2019 08:42

I just tried it Grin

My vulva is perfectly aligned with the edge of the sink. I am 5'10. If only I had a knob I could dangle over the edge Sad

oofadoofa · 16/02/2019 08:49

So, you are a husband beater and are justifying your domestic violence by blaming your victim for some bad habits he may have. He should LTB.

ChakiraChakra · 16/02/2019 11:28

I managed perfectly well to sit on the sink in my student halls to wee in the night when my drunk housemate had fallen asleep on the loo AGAIN and I was desperate