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H is an animal

264 replies

Wheredoistartwiththis · 14/02/2019 22:09

I have obviously name changed for this post and still shaking with disbelief and rage.

I have just gone downstairs from having my shower to find h with his cock over the sink and presumably about to wash it. He jumped when he realised I was there and the first thing out his mouth was oh I was going to wash the sink after!

I stood there in disbelief for a while and then became very angry. In the sink was my mug and a few bits of cutlery. I was so angry with his that I slapped him, I am ashamed with myself for doing this but I slapped him hard. I wash dishes that I prepare our children's food on in there. He also insists on brushing his teeth in the kitchen sink and we've argued over that before, he think I am completely unreasonable in this upsetting me.

He is now denying it completely saying I am seeing things. I am upstairs shaking with anger. I plan to show him this thread so he can see that I am not unreasonable for getting angry with his hygiene habits. There was no need for him to do this, we have a lovely bathroom for him to wash his cock in.

OP posts:
mammoon · 14/02/2019 23:15

How disrespectful - I hate when men think it's okay/a good laugh to get their dicks out wherever and whenever. There's no need.

As for the slap - yeah of course you shouldn't have hit him but people telling you you're abusing him are full on gaslighting you. And he's gaslighting you, telling you it didn't happen. That's honestly the most worrying part of this whole thing, imo.

ALargeGinPlease · 14/02/2019 23:15

All the time I've been reading this, I've been wondering what my reaction would be on finding my DH with his cock flopped over the sink, claiming to be washing it. Do you know, my mind is so boggled that I can't even imagine the scenario, yet alone come up with my reaction- other than to know that any physical violence is just wrong... Even for pissing in the sink.

Sethis · 14/02/2019 23:16

@Wheredoistartwiththis

Any time. Hey, if you want to make it even better then feel free to wash yourself all over them as well. Bond as a couple by doing so.

Because, as previously stated, the penis (or vagina) contains no germs. None. Nothing that is in any way harmful, unless you're carrying a transmissible disease.

It is more logical for you to be upset about him washing his HANDS in the sink compared to washing his penis. I guarantee that his hands will have more germs/bacteria/nasties on them than his dick. Your hands too. Because you touch everything with your hands. You touch very little with your genitals apart from the inside of your underpants.

StrangeLookingParasite · 14/02/2019 23:17

You're absolutely pants on head insane

This is the thread that keeps on giving.

Original poster
Wheredoistartwiththis · 14/02/2019 23:18

Yes mammoon this is why I am so upset. Denying it like I am insane. Getting angry with me and making like I did something wrong, it's very upsetting.

People insinuating I am an abuser are just weird. I guess the world has a lot of this weirdy type.

OP posts:
peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:22

Gosh, the effort involved in either cocking about in the sink or creating this thread!

SaturdayNext · 14/02/2019 23:23

I was so angry with his that I slapped him
He denied what he was doing then came into my physical space and started shouting and making me feel very intimidated so I hit him on the arm.

Which is it, OP? You slapped him because you were angry, or you slapped him because you were feeling intimidated? You can't really have it both ways.

ChakiraChakra · 14/02/2019 23:25

what about brushing your teeth in the sink after giving him a blowjob

Fluffyears · 14/02/2019 23:26

It’s not right but if anyone slapped me i’d hit them right back in retaliation so you were lucky your 6’4” husband didn’t decide to protect himself.

peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:26

@ChakiraChakra That'll be the upstairs sink for upstairs behaviour.

ChakiraChakra · 14/02/2019 23:27

Maybe it was a Valentines gift. "Surprise! Honey, I've washed the dishes with my cock!"

ChakiraChakra · 14/02/2019 23:29

@peekyboo Grin

Why couldn't they have just used the penis beaker

PregnantSea · 14/02/2019 23:31

You hit your husband? That's absolutely awful. Have you done this before? Have you ever hit your children? You need to sort this out OP, I grew up with a violently abusive parent and it was hell. It starts with just a slap, and escalates into full blown attacks. Don't do this to your family.

peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:32

@ChakiraChakra
Maybe he was reaching for it with his cock?

ALargeGinPlease · 14/02/2019 23:32

My DH washed up tonight, which is unusual for him. I just assumed it was because it was valentine's Day... Now I'm starting you get suspicious... thanks Chakira

ALargeGinPlease · 14/02/2019 23:33

*to, not you.

flummoxedlummox · 14/02/2019 23:33

All a bit of a kitchen sink drama if you ask me, Grin

ReanimatedSGB · 14/02/2019 23:36

You know, genitals are actually 'cleaner' than mouths, if regularly washed...

peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:37

@ReanimatedSGB
I think we can assume this one is.

Seaweed42 · 14/02/2019 23:37

If you have only one bathroom in your house and you were in the shower, then yes he was about to take a pee in the sink? Because he couldn't use the loo, you were in it.

DavetheCat2001 · 14/02/2019 23:38

what a load of old cock

peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:39

I don't think the expected level of disgust has transpired. OP has either vanished or is at it with the dettol.

ChakiraChakra · 14/02/2019 23:40

Maybe he was reaching for it with his cock?

This solving the dilemma of what happened next in PenisBeakerLand! Shock

"Darling, I'm feeling fruity, pass me the penis beaker will you?"

"Sure thing!" uses go go gadget cock with the very dexterous foreskin to reach and pick up the Penis Beaker from the kitchen sink

peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:41

Thank you for re-installing the Inspector Gadget theme tune in my head.

peekyboo · 14/02/2019 23:42

Mind you, I did always wonder about the Inspector's other attachments.

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