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Would you enter into a relationship with a man who had no contact with his child?

160 replies

Japanesejazz · 31/01/2019 23:39

Obviously in his words his ex has poisoned the child against him The child is in their late teens.

OP posts:
JeezOhGeeWhizz · 31/01/2019 23:40

no, I wouldn't.

Aaarrrggghh · 31/01/2019 23:40

Nope

pallisers · 31/01/2019 23:40

No.

Rachelle3211 · 31/01/2019 23:43

No.

Bumblebee39 · 31/01/2019 23:43

Well I tried that

Now he doesn't have contact with 2 sets of kids Shock

Impicciona · 31/01/2019 23:43

No

Scandaloso · 31/01/2019 23:44

Hell no.

overnightangel · 31/01/2019 23:44

Surely it depends on the circumstances

IrregularCommentary · 31/01/2019 23:45

No.

BakerBear · 31/01/2019 23:45

Depends on the circumstances

HeronLanyon · 31/01/2019 23:47

No - trouble one way or another

babycow38 · 31/01/2019 23:48

Absolutely nope, why are you asking

Contraceptionismyfriend · 31/01/2019 23:50

Nope

But I wouldn't have dated anyone with kids anyway.

Arnoldillo · 31/01/2019 23:53

No. Even if she really did "turn the kids against him for no reason" (and incidentally I don't know a single man who this has actually happened to, despite hearing a fair few of them saying it), that in itself would be a fucked up situation that I'd want to stay well clear of.

HeronLanyon · 31/01/2019 23:55

arnoldillo exactly !

Surfingtheweb · 31/01/2019 23:56

No

NineInchSnail · 31/01/2019 23:56

No.

ScreamingValenta · 01/02/2019 00:01

in his words his ex has poisoned the child against him

That kind of drama-filled baggage would have me running for the hills.

devilsavocado234 · 01/02/2019 00:04

yes, 100%.
I've had minimal contact with my dad throughout my life, and the contact I had wasn't great.

But he's now remarried and happily devoted to 2 new children.

Just because he wasn't ready to be a dad at one time doesnt mean he won't be ready another time. My mum wasn't the easiest during their divorce and I'm sure she contributed to a few negative opinions I have of him, but I would never want a woman to hesitate to date him because of that.

Just some input from someone on the other side of the situation!

dangerrabbit · 01/02/2019 00:04

No

HeronLanyon · 01/02/2019 00:06

devils as I listed emphatic no I did think hmmm actually there must be exceptions of course. Trouble is it’s a high risk I think. Good you have that acceptance.

ashtrayheart · 01/02/2019 00:07

No.
And I had no contact with my biological father for 26 years from age 3, he raised 3 children after me and was apparently a shit dad.
I see it as red flag.

Pieceofpurplesky · 01/02/2019 00:09

No. I've seen the pain a semi-absent dad has caused my son. And exh blames me for not seeing him (which is not true as I have never stopped contact)

itswinetime · 01/02/2019 00:13

Court mandated no contact or child choice no contact?

Both are major red flags to me but court mandated no way! Child's choice maybe if i didn't have children depending on how well I knew him but with major reservations and I would be moving at the pace of a glacier!

Wannabeyorkshirelass · 01/02/2019 00:22

NO.

And he's lying about the ex so he's a liar and probably something else bad too, depending on why the kid doesn't see him.

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