Husband on Tinder!!

[chunkymonkeysmama]

I was destroyed last night to find out by a fluke that my supposedly loyal and loving DH has set himself up a profile on Tinder!!

I was unplugging the baby monitor and thought i would unplug his phone and give it to him at the same time. As i unplugged it, the screen lit up and there was a notification on there: Tinder - you have a new match.

I was absolutely floored by this we have a yound DD and I thought he was my soul mate. We have been married 3 years. I confronted him immediately and he tried to say "it's not what you think!" Errr yes it is!!!

I demanded he showed me the profile and he had used a fake pic, fake name and fake city.

I went absolutely ballistic and demanded to know why?! Eventually he admitted it was for 'wank material' and said I haven't been paying him much attention! I said 'Don't you dare fucking blame me!" I work full time, sort all the household bills and chores whilst juggling our young DD and older children and still give him sex 2-3 times a week!

If it was just for a wank then he would be on the usual porn apps but this is real contact with real women! I suspect he has tried to steer conversations with thess women to become sexual and pic swapped etc.

He will have been sat opposite me in thd lounge whilst messaging them or swiping pics, all whilst i look after our child. He spends quite a bit of time in the toilet too, i guess i know why now!!

I have told him to get himself a solicitor as I can never forgive this! Even if he didn't physically meet anyone, just by going behind my back and setting the account up is cheating in my eyes. He broke our vows and has no respect for me or our family.

I am so hurt. I loved him so much and have alwsys been there for him, supported him through some tough times and this is how i get repaid?!

Our poor DD will now have a part time Dad, all because he has been selfish and thinks with his dick!

I don't know what I am expecting from this post, just needed to vent. I have told my close RL friends and they are absolutely gobsmacked as none of us thought he would ever do anything to hurt/cheat on me.

I just feel like i never really knew him

@justilou1 I wish i could go down the email route but as he looks after our DD 3 full days a week, I really need to be there contact wise. I have a new job though and they are very strict on mobile use unless there's a family emergency etc, so he knows if he texts then I won't reply.

@mammoon Thank u, i am going to make a start on not giving him the attention he is craving!

Oh dear.
What an asshole.
You handled it all really well.
Let's hope he gets out very soon.
Stay strong.

Omg that made my skin crawl! I really hope you are ok. If he tries it again, tell him that you will press charges for sexual assault.

Hopefully the sleazy bastard will be out of the house for good very soon!

OH..MY...GOD.. you poor thing! What an absolute creepy, icky man! Have you told him it is not your job to make him feel better for the situation HE has placed you BOTH in? Has he expressed any interest in YOUR feelings? Arse. Meanwhile, if you ever questioned whether you were doing the right thing or not, he’s answering it well enough...

That's men for you, sleazy even though they completely know they're in the wrong.

When we split up my then DH tried the 'one last time' crap but held my wrists together with one hand so I couldn't move and tried to grope me with the other.

What on earth makes them think they have the right?

Thank fuck he'll be out of your house soon op, he is disgusting.

Wow...that was horrible...put him outnow
Even if he hasn’t got all his stuff and tell him he’s very lucky you haven’t involved th
Olive for gross sexual misconduct

That is vile and creepy as fuck.

So, what... he waited until you're in bed, tired, vulnerable and decided that would be a good time for a grope!?!?!

Absolutely disgusting.

Police doh

He has behaved disgustingly. You are right to show him the door and take legal advice. You are worth better than this. You have a baby and he has done this it just makes me shudder at how little he must care about you and the children. You are better off without him. Keep strong. I kicked my first husband out for cheating and he was stunned as it had not even occurred to him I might find out or would not forgive him. He has been loser. Got less money in financial divorce. I found new partner and remarried he found new partner who won't marry him as she does not trust him. I wonder why?

oh darling, this absolutely devastating! you just need to find the silver lining and be happy you've discovered this now, not later when he could have done something worse. at least now you know you deserve better! go and see some friends to lift up your spirits, even if it seems tough right now. wishing you all the best hun x

This is awful for you and not what you deserve. Stay strong as others have said

So a quick shag for the road will fix it all eh ?
Well he can do that with one of his Tinder conquests ....
He seems mentally impaired. Fortunately he didn't force you.
Can you lock your bedroom door or wedge something under it ?

Make sure you get the key back

So sorry Op - he really is a sleaze. Stay strong

Op I think you are amazing.
One of the hardest things a person can do is end a relationship when they are in love with the other person.
You are being so strong, you deserve so much better, you can do this

Did he move our Chunky ?
I hope you aren't hurting too badly. Keep busy. if you are busy it will be easier...

out

Just read the entire thread. My 'd'p accidentally sent me a sleazy message yesterday that he'd intended for some bimbo on IG. "Hot as always" this was at 7.05am as he was lay next to me on his phone.

I'm absolutely devastated. Luckily we don't live together. It's over as I don't trust him. How the fuck do you get over this pain? Bastards!!!!

Just checking in. Are you okay?