My mother-in-law gives my DH a Valentines card every year (he is 47!)

[Rachelsmum10]

I dont know why but this annoys me intensely. She has done this continually throughout our marriage. Uuuuurgh!!

The only possible reason for finding a parent sending their child a card on Valentine’s Day “inappropriate, disturbing and creepy” is thinking it has, at the very least, incestuous overtones. Otherwise it’s just a silly, sweet family tradition.

Or do you think that those dances are absolutely fine too?

Well, no. They have undertones of ownership...father's owning daughters until marriage, of control, of weird abstinence from sex etc etc. It's a bit different to a loving parent sending a card on Valentine's Day. Again...it's just a bloody card!!!

Just the fact that you think there must be something sexual going on between the OP’s husband and his mum or me and my dad because of a once a year card! *something sexual does not mean actually having sex, by the way. But “inapropriate, disturbing and creepy” can’t mean anything else, can it?

A quick google came up with a lot of Primary School Valentine discos this for example Who is wanting to fuck whom in this scenario?

I feel we've jumped the shark with this.

“I feel we've jumped the shark with this”
Yep.

Valentines is about declaring your love interest to someone you fancy. I’d think my mum/dad has lost the plot if they sent me one.

I also don’t agree with parents who called their children sexy. Shoot me now

Quickly composing sharp letter of complaint to DD's expensive private school.

Dear God, the world's gone mad!

What has a 'purity disco' or whatever the hell it was got to do with a valentines card?

Yes, a parent sending a child a Valentine's card has unpleasant, incestuous, sexual implications.

No it doesn't. It really, really doesn't. You have the sort of mind that sees such things in something that is a bit odd as family traditions go, but otherwise innocent of implications of actual incest.

Valentine's cards are sent to people that you want to fuck.

Ok then, out of bounds for asexual people then, or just anyone in a happy sexless marriage?

It's amazing what's out there if you take a look ...

Outwiththeoutcrowd - yeah, Frank looks like a total deviant with a one track mind. Bad boy!

Idiotic but harmless, though I might be tempted to intercept the post and accidentally drop it in the recycling bin. As inlaw irritations go it's a minor one.

“ I might be tempted to intercept the post and accidentally drop it in the recycling bin”

You would have the right to do this exactly why?

"Valentines cards are sent to people you want to fuck."

Well they're not are they, as attested to on here. Plenty of pps sending them to their children, friends or other family members without having any desire to fuck them whatsoever.

That might have been the original, last century, original intention for Valentine's Day but it isn't now.

Incidentally op, you sound really mean. She's a woman who loves her son, and it's a single annual card. Are you really going to use your kids to embarrass her about it? I think, in all things, being kind is usually the best course of action.

How is it any of your business?

Well, seeing as people only tend to post on Mumsnet about their marriages when they have a problem then maybe it's not the best indicator. Anyway, you clearly struggle to understand that people live in different ways to you and value different things to you. It's very closed minded.

“You do know that it's possible to discuss and even disagree on things without stooping to personal attacks, don't you?”

Says the person who has characterized many posters’ family relationships as inappropriate, disturbing and creepy!