My mother-in-law gives my DH a Valentines card every year (he is 47!)

[Rachelsmum10]

I dont know why but this annoys me intensely. She has done this continually throughout our marriage. Uuuuurgh!!

“I just wanted to point out the patent untruth of Bertrand saying that no one had said to her that it was weird and creepy.”
What I meant was nobody has said yes, your dad was an incestuous pervert for sending you a vakentine’s card every year for 30 years.

Have had a thought - perhaps i make a big joke in front of MIL and tease him that he has a secret admirer or a girlfriend!! The kids will jump on that straight away and think its hilarious. Maybe then she might get the idea that V day is about romantic love and that she has crossed the line???
With regards the bedding being changed - I am decided to 'Prank' our bed :)))) Watch this space!!

Saying that though, just because I wouldn't do it, doesn't mean others shouldn't.
It's a bit weird but most families have their own little things that seem bizarre to outsiders. It's not interfering with your relationship so leave it alone.

The sheets on the other hand, that's intrusive if you've not asked her to do it, definitely leave loads of sex toys in your bed next time!

I think it's sweet what's the problem

Just be kind. It’s doing you no harm.

And strip your bed on Thursday morning.

In what way has she 'crossed a line?' She sends her son a card every year? I mean, do what you want about the sheets, I agree that's too much and I wouldn't be happy about that but why try to embarrass and upset her over a card! It's just a bloody card! I agree with BertrandRussell it's not hurting you, just leave it be!

But the incest! Oh, the horror- the incest!

Also, how can she have 'crossed a line' if, presumably, it's something she's been doing since before you were around. I'm usually pretty neutral on most of the MIL threads but really...?!

Really? Using your DC to try to embarrass your DH over a card is, well embarrassing. The bedsheets/her going in your bedroom thing I get and I'd tell her no, but you gonna do your cortesol levels no good getting wound up over something so not worth it.

Never thought I'd agree with Bertrandrussell on a MIL thread, yet here we are

“Never thought I'd agree with Bertrandrussell on a MIL thread, yet here we are”

You probably agree with me quite a lot- I generally only go on the threads that are being, or are potentially being unfair to older women. Like this one!

It's kind of sweet, but also a bit suggestive of lack of boundaries...

It's good to know that card companies are prepared to be open-minded - anything for a quick buck.

“Boundaries” in this case aka “”He’s mine now, old woman. Get in the cupboard until I need you”

Are you saying that my relationship with my father was incestuous?

Its very weird. And why your housekeeping, what about her son, he lives there too I'm assuming? I would also invest in a lock for your bedroom door, or leave a giant dildo in the bed. Why do they think they are helping?
My MIL likes to compliment me when we tidy the playroom, like every other time she comes over she obviously thinks it looks like shit! I don't go to her house and say 'oh well done, you haven't left shit stains in your toilet today!'

But you must think it was because he sent me a Valentine’s card every year.

I'm in two minds about this but I couldn't get het up about it, I do find the fact you are the most odd.

The reason I'm in two minds, is because I also read it and went eugh, that's a bit odd. But then I remembered as much as I don't physically send my 21 year old daughter a Valentine's Day card, I do what's app her an appropriate daughter love image thing and write happy Valentine's Day!

I've never thought it to be weird and I don't get the impression she does either, we do message all the time though and I often send her little memes from happy Friday to I love my daughter, I'd be bemused if her partner had an issue with it to be honest, and think they were a bit controlling and clingy,

At DD's school, they are encouraged to make each other Valentines cards, as well as the teacher and parents.

She got 8 last year, from boys and girls.

Really can't see the big deal.

She's 10 now, but I will always send her one!

To say it's incestuous is insulting and ignorant.

Really, Kennehora your mind!!