My mother-in-law gives my DH a Valentines card every year (he is 47!)

[Rachelsmum10]

I dont know why but this annoys me intensely. She has done this continually throughout our marriage. Uuuuurgh!!

I would die laughing if this was my dp and mil
I would think it was bloody weird though!

Changing your sheets! God no. I'd accidentally leave a load of sex toys and rope in the bed tomorrow morning.

Valentines aren’t for romantic relationships. They are for big businesses who want to make big money from cards, flowers and gifts.

No, just a question mark (LOL)

Holy crap - what a great idea!!

My dad for years got me flowers, as he did for my mam. I moved away from home so last year he bought me a potted orchid so I could collect it when I was at home, other years it was chocolates.

I think it was because I was single for so long, but to be honest if he didn't do it now I would be offended and would slag him off for it!! haha

Ugh god she puts a question mark?! Not even a "love, mum" it's actually a "who is this mysterious crush"

Does your husband like it?

Wouldn't mind the valentine's day card situation but the criticism of housekeeping skills would be a step too far!

I even get cross when DH hangs DD's swimming towel somewhere it won't dry. I move it to a radiator, he fucking moves it back! Hang up your own washing, fucking leave ours alone! 😠

I find it odd, but then I think giving valentines cards to anybody bar romantic interests is weird really.
I get sent mothers day cards from both my mil and my husbands grandfather since becoming a mother. I find that really odd.

I wouldn't do it to my MIL (who is lovely) but if someone like your MIL started changing my sheets every Thursday I'd probably leave a couple of 'used' condoms on the sheets somewhere she couldn't miss them.

The contents could be made with flour and water or something (it would be a bit grim to leave genuinely used condoms). Maybe also a huge butt plug bought especially for the occasion?

Bet that would teach her. I might be a bit mean though.

But the card wouldn't bother me 🤷🏻‍♀️

No way would I let anyone into our bedroom. Can't imagine it's good for your sex life knowing mil has been in there snooping.

My Mum used to buy me (daughter) a valentines card when I was single (I assume because she felt sorry for me!). It was a silly joke.

I receive a card from my dad every year, and so do my children! He even goes out of his way to post them through the letterbox before anyone is up. He's been doing this for as long as I can remember. It's not weird. It's not creepy. It's just a sweet gesture! And all they're signed with is a question mark, before anyone asks!

I said I'd leave his ironing out because I wouldn't want her touching mine!

I think it is really inappropriate for parents to give Valentines cards to their children, personally, although I know a lot of parents do.

I know one mother who has a candlelit dinner with her son on Valentines day. I think this is gross and borders on emotional incest. Her son is not her romantic partner and does not exist to fulfil her need for intimacy.

In my native language Valentine's day translates into friend's day. A day to celebrate friendships. In general I find it sweet when parents send valentines cards.

It’s weird. Shows a lack of boundaries. She needs to stop treating him like a child and let go.

“I get sent mothers day cards from both my mil and my husbands grandfather since becoming a mother. I find that really odd.”

Blimey- how would you manage if you married into a family from a different culture with really different traditions! Your brain would probably explode!

ChippyPickledEggs

Bit of a leap from a card to a candlelit dinner. I can understand that seeming inappropriate, what could be inappropriate about sending a card?

The tradition is to give your mother a card. Not have your husbands grandad or MIL give you the card....

I would put my foot down about her sniffing your sheets every week! She’s way out of line.

“The tradition is to give your mother a card. Not have your husbands grandad or MIL give you the card....”

Yep. But acknowledging a mother on mother’s day doesn't strike me as a bad thing to do, surely?

Incidentally- we’ve had a bizarre jump from changing the beds on Thursday to sniffing the sheets. Fuck me, people hate mils!

It's not bad, no. It's odd though.
As I said, I love my MIL