My mother-in-law gives my DH a Valentines card every year (he is 47!)

[Rachelsmum10]

I dont know why but this annoys me intensely. She has done this continually throughout our marriage. Uuuuurgh!!

My dad sent me one every year until he died. Perfectly normal tradition in some families.

I think the sun shines out of my ds’s bottom too. Isn’t that how it’s supposed to be?

Weird. Just weird.

Norman? Is that you?

Answer any snide housekeeping remarks with wide eyed innocence ‘don’t complain to me, that’s your son’s housekeeping job’ or ‘yes, I know, your son really need to pull his finger out and do more housework’

The wired/creepy people- do you think the same about my dad sending me a Valentine card every year?

Yes. Sorry.

Valentines is about romantic, courtly love. Not parent to child.

My mum has always got me one every year. I'd hope to do the same with DS! Just a tradition, I can see why people think it's weird but I think they're thinking too far into it!

Yes it is weird that his mother is sending a valentines card to her son still. Its really not acceptable to do this to them.

In the case of the OP this is a further example of her mother in law's passive aggressive behaviour towards her and in turn her son.

People calling it tradition (only on MN have I ever seen this); when did all this start in some families?. They can and should express their love for you in other ways and not by a valentines card, this is not the purpose at all of a valentines card!.

Atilla- was it wierd that my dad sent me one?

It’s all a massive commercial con anyway. Like Mother’s Day and all the other marketing bollocks.

Valentine’s Day is for lovers.

I would not be happy with this at all. I also don’t agree with children doing it. Dds school has a valentines disco and I don’t take her. Valentine’s Day is not for children, it’s for lovers

Yeh, i think it's weird. Crosses a weird line doesn't it?

Thing is, BakerBear, as is obvious from this thread, and from real life, other people think of it differently.............

Card is creepy, but I'm dying with laughtet over the bedding bit. Please, please, please prank her! Large blobs of white gooey fluid (conditioner?) on bedsheets at the minimum. Fake spiders, snakes, blood

It is a bit cringe but I have no idea why it bothers you

There's no real need for valentines cards anymore anyway.
We no longer live in a time where you can't just talk to the opposite sex or ask out on a date.
We don't have to write a note, hoping our love interest will guess who we are because we aren't allowed to say.
Once you are together you are no longer fancying someone from afar.

My DF sent me a Valentine's card every year since before I can remember.
Most years it was, just a slightly weird thing he does, on a couple of occasions it was amazing emotional support when life was bad. And they he died, no more cards, I really missed them.

BertrandRussell

Thing is, BakerBear, as is obvious from this thread, and from real life, other people think of it differently.............
Of course they do. But some of us think it's creepy!

“But some of us think it's creepy!”

That doesn’t mean it is- it could just mean some of you have rather unpleasant minds.

I don't know why valentines cards have to be just for 'romantic love' or where that rule is.

I am single, have been for a year since my twat of an ex husband had an affair and if a friend or my mum wanted to get me a card on valentines day to tell me they love me then I would think that is lovely, not creepy. There are different kinds of love and why should people be excluded from Valentine's Day because they don't have a partner?
I personally think Valentine's Day is a load of crap but that's not the point...I like feeling loved, even if it's not 'romantic love'.

Or it means it is! A Valentine's card is all about sendind a secret "I fancy you" "will you go out with me? Love ?" It's about the mystery of having a potential fancy man/woman. So i dont think we have "unpleasant minds" when we know the basis about why a Valentine's card is given. Why would a parent give that to a 47 year old man?! I wonder what the reactions would be if it was a father writing a Valentine's to a son. Much different I bet!

Yuck. If you must send children a Valentine's card you should really stop when they find a partner.
DH and I always send eachother a card, which gets put on the mantelpiece. Imagine putting up a third card from your mum, next to the mutual cards of your relationship.

Bizarre

“I wonder what the reactions would be if it was a father writing a Valentine's to a son. Much different I bet!”

As I said, my father always sent me one.

It’s extraordinary how judgemental and rude people are prepared to be about other family’s traditions.