Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@shitwithsugaron Please be careful with this fab site if you're inviting men that you don't know over. Someone I went to school with was on that website and recently got 7 years in prison for something pretty awful.

Ah cool, sorry for being a mum :) Just don't want to see anyone get hurt.

I was going to ask those that do FWB or less.
What happens if you don't like what you see before dtd?...

Then you don't do it ...

Sorry that was a bit brief! I always had a social meeting first and they usually ended with the guy saying he was interested, and to have a think and message him later if I was. The men are well aware that there has to be attraction and I've never had any negative stuff happen if I've said no. Unlike normal OLD 😅

unique I usually arrange to meet someone for coffee before I decide if they are FWB material, can’t think of anything worse than arranging to meet a stranger for sex and realising there’s no attraction at all or that he has bad breath 🤣

Well, Mr South African eventually messaged me and wants to see me tomorrow as he’s busy at the end of the week (which is a bit of a pain as it’s my birthday at the end of the week). Anyway he has asked to come to my house so I’m guessing we may possibly DTD, this is the point when things usually go wrong so I’m a bit nervous. A part of me is thinking that he’s going to do a runner after tomorrow which is why he said he’s busy at the end of the week?

Lovemusic33
OK and what if he is ok, but has a small *

unique 🤣🤣 then you wait until he’s gone home and then send the “I don’t think we are comparable” text.

Or this is one occasion where a pic before you meet comes in handy ...!

Or you politely date for a couple of weeks while seeking a more suitable replacement...

We need a new thread!

So I had a couple of messages from MrBoat last night, although I know he was busy with his kids. He said he'd like to see me again at some point.

MrTeacher and I had quite a lovely (and long) WA conversation on and off all evening. He told me that he'd had a lovely time, and that he would have liked to have kissed me, but wasn't sure I'd appreciate it so didn't. I have assured him that if he feels like it next time, it will be fine I am certain that we'll see each other again.

Aw that's quite sweet, TheSheep
My new one (Sat date x2) Mr Substitute also messaged me this morning.

Not heard from the crappy iron today who will be dumped for general rubbishness.

Aww that's really sweet TheSheep

All sounds positive thesheep

Sounds right to dump the rubbish iron warispeace

Feeling equally disappointed Mr S is busy with work tonight. I really do need an early night. But it is nice to see him.

I need a bit of advice. I'm used to dates where we dtd, if not on the 1st date, on the 2nd (as I like to know if we are compatible). . Sorry if that makes me sound like a hoe!
However, date 5 is looming with MrBE and we've only had 1 passionate kiss so far! We've discussed our lack of progress and it's not because we don't want to. He doesn't want to rush me as he really likes me and I feel nervous but don't understand why!
Has anyone ever been in this situation? What's it all about?
I sense from him and from what he's said that he's not dating purely for sex, he really does want a relationship and maybe he's the first genuine guy I've met that means what he says. Could that be it?
I have never felt like this before and it's frustrating.
Any words of wisdom?

Do you feel nervous because you've invested 4 dates worth of time in him, and (not to put too fine a point on it) a crap shag would ruin all that? You like him, he likes you, I think you're just going to have tp go for it!

batshit - maybe. I do really like him. I fancy him, he's funny, he's solvent, he's interesting, he's honest and genuine. We just had a phone call and I was going on about my son who is having problems at school and he was just spot on with advice, not swayed at all despite him not having kids. Just writing all that has made me feel emotional, wtaf! I think, for the first time ever, it feels like good old fashioned dating, and it's thrown me!!

Think I'm going to have to give my head a wobble!

Ha tooold I’ve not had this. Usually dtd on or by the 3rd date. Was the chemistry good when you kissed?

I think it’s nice BUT I’d also be worrying about ED or a micro penis 😂🙈

notcool - Omg, no! Pmsl. Yes the chemistry was good. It was me that pulled away.