Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

So, went on both dates today, both lovely.

Met Mr Boat this morning for a walk around a loch (40 minute drive for me, he had to drive a bit over 1.5 hours from the west coast of Scotland to meet me). He was lovely. We actually walked round the loch 2.5 times, and walked about 10km, just chit chatting the whole way! We had bits in common, but enough differences to make it interesting, if that makes sense. I thought he was attractive, and I think he liked me too. As we said our goodbyes and walked away, we both did that turning around thing (if you know what I mean), and I pretty much smiled the whole way home. I sent a WA to let him know I had got home (which he asked me to), but the message hasn't been delivered yet and I haven't heard from him.

Met Mr Teacher this afternoon for coffee and cake. He is much more local to me (from a town 25 minutes drive away), and we have more in common in terms of education, background etc, but also things like musical taste. He was much more attractive than the profile photo he had, and taller than I thought he would be. He was obviously a bit shy/awkward, but he had warned me beforehand that he can be a bit like that when meeting new people. We had a lovely chat, and I really liked him, he is really interesting. He has already messaged me, and I'm pretty sure that we'd both like to see each other again

All in all, I'm a pretty happy girl

That is excellent TheSheep

Aww, thesheep they both sound promising. Would you carry on seeing both of them until you or fate decides? The distance may be a problem with MrBoat if you are looking for a relationship?

I'm taking a month or so off OLD after the last few experiences, can feel it affecting my self esteem a bit and my good friend could see that so have decided to just see friends, netflix and do the usual self care stuff. Might see if anything can happen organically too, I want to ask out a recruitment consultant we're using at work for our hiring but I don't want to make it awkward and wonder if there are even some rules in place whereby I can't.

Read this and wonder how true it is too: Online dating is not designed to have you delete your account within a few weeks of dating and sailing into the sunset with the love of your life. They wouldn’t be commercially viable if that was the case. They’re designed to keep you there, swiping through all of your options like you’re ordering a pizza and wondering who’s around the corner at all times. That’s why the ghosting and fading and the breadcrumbing exists.

I would carry on seeing both, but I do think the distance with Mr Boat could be an issue longer term, although I'm not necessarily looking for a full blown relationship anyway. I liked them both much more than I was expecting to. They are both quite different, MrTeacher is probably more my 'type' in terms of personality/background, but MrBoat I think squeaked it on looks. But yeah, both good

I guess I'll just see what happens over the next few weeks.

Ooh what a day thesheep did you kiss either of them?

A break from the apps sounds like a good idea rich. It’s a nice feeling not swiping through men every time I’m a bit bored.

tooold Mr Young’s reaction is really scary. Does he know where you live then? Mr BE sounds lovely.

My iron has asked to pop over for a bit later. I’m tired and hungover and will be wearing my PJs 😂🙈

No, just a hug and cheek kiss for both. MrBoat has a cold (it's why he cancelled yesterday), so I wouldn't have kissed him anyway, and with MrTeacher we were in a coffee place in the next village to where I live, so I was being cautious. People know I'm separated, but I want to be careful because of the kids.

Woo hoo TheSheep excellent day there I'm really pleased for you

richdeniro Please think carefully before asking out the recruitment consultant! Back when I was one a long time ago, it was always a running joke how clients only used you for recruitment based on how attractive you are - and this does nothing to quell that.

It's her job to be lovely and polite and usually flirt a little just to ensure the business stays with her and not a recruitment company. If you absolutely do believe there's something there that's beyond her just being polite, then get on her LinkedIn and Facebook and see if she's dating anyone first. Absolutely the right decision to have a break from the apps though, and I'd think we'd all strive to find someone organically these days!

I have a date fixed for Tuesday after work with a Scottish guy who sounds lovely (we chatted earlier tonight). I also have a date on Saturday night with a much younger guy, which will be interesting. Oh and I am meeting the twunt who dumped me after love bombing me for 3 months on Friday for coffee as he wants to 'explain himself'. I have no intention of taking him back (not that I think he will ask) but I am curious as to what excuse he can offer for being such a b***d!

tooold shudder. Date from hell. I say...dont worry too much about double dating so long as in future they don't know where you live until you get the measure of then!

So...mr doctor has invited me for a concert sat night and he's staying over (3rd date). Im meeting mr reseqrch scientist tomorrow night for a drink (1st date). I have zero feel for what he's like. Barely chatted on WA. Not expecting much....its more like I'm doing this date to tick off the 'not all my eggs in one basket' option

Thanks @Auba, I have no intention of being anything other than professional and truth be told I doubt I will ask her out or anything. I wouldn't want her to feel uncomfortable either. In terms of signs or signals from her, I have no idea if there is anything there and can't read them to save my life.

I was going to meet a right hottie on Saturday night but as is my luck, Thursday I came down with a sore throat and really bad chest type thing.
I told him on Thursday night id better let him know in advance, rather than last minute. He just replied no worries.
Saturday I thought about making the effort to go (I later realised I was too ill) and messaged him to see if he still would like to meet up. Zero response. Radio silence.
I've not been blocked.
Just so bizarre!! We'd been getting on great prior to this. Fucking hell - I didn't want to get ill!
I wondered if he thought I was backing out but honestly sometimes you gotta give someone the benefit of the doubt. Shite weekend lying in bed feeling horrible.

@sheep Two guys on the go sounds perfect to me. Good luck with it.

azzizam did you suggest a rearrange when you said you were ill? I think if not folk often assume that you're doing date juggling rather than legit illness

supercali might be on to something there azzizam It does seem that people get quite touchy, thinking you're trying to get out of meeting or date juggling. Even though often we are date juggling 😬

This Sunday's date, Mr Irish/Spanish has been quite laid back in his messaging but is checking in regularly and has messaged this morning saying how he's looking forward to Sunday. I'm looking forward to it too, after yesterday's disappointment! Have the date with Mr Italian on Wednesday after work too ...

Maybe he did think that but the fact I re messaged to say I was feeling a bit better and did he still want to meet, he didn't bother to reply? As it happens I was still too unwell to go out. I'm still off work today.
I'll maybe say hello midweek and apologize and leave it there if no response.

Ah yes I missed that 😕

Feeling a bit confused by Mr South African, still no message from him, I sent him a message this morning asking if he had a good weekend, he has received it but not read it, I’m now going to be phone watching all day. I think I need to find other irons to keep me busy but after flicking through tinder last night I couldn’t find anyone worth swiping right on. I need to keep busy and stop looking at the bloody phone.

Very quick update, have spent pretty much the entire week with ms storm who has offfically moved up from iron (or even fwb) status to girlfriend 😍

We actually managed to go out in that time too, and had a great night out together.

shit that was quick, guessing it didn’t go well? Or he was disappointing?