Dating Thread 146 - Swipe Left Swipe Right

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

So I had an afternoon first meeting / date.
I knew he was overweight but I wasn't expecting mahoosive man boobs.

It's a no from me because I refuse to date anyone with man boobs

He was also really scruffy.
I had to tell him his jeans were falling down at one stage.
Too baggy lol
I mean I'm casual but he must have but his worst clothes on..

*put

Question to the dating contingent. I spend 2-3 nights a week in London nearly every week. What's the concensus on putting myself out there while I'm away?

Hi all been licking my wounds 😭😭😭 I totally didn't follow the rules specifically don't over invest too soon and I ended up dumping McDreamy as he hadn't messaged me in 24hrs so thought he'd lost interest. This was the 2nd time I had dumped him so it's now done. I liked him a lot!! I think I was terrified of getting hurt. I'm still seeing Mr Grey No2 which is plodding along but I'm not sure how it will pan out with him as he's going through divorce not the most amicable etc. Glad to see some of you in a happy place and for the others I feel your pain

@shitwithsugaron

Yes

@shitwithsugaron ... I suppose because I'm from out of town and it feels a bit disingenuous. I might be over thinking.

Well.
I might have messaged today's first daytime date to see if he wanted to have tea, after my previous miffed post.

So he bought me dinner and we went back to his. It was technically not the first date by then, since I'd been home inbetween... childfree weekend not entirely wasted

warls 👍

SkinnyPete 2-3 nights a week is plenty to maintain a low key dating thing, go for it. And there will hopefully be lots of options as there's so many people in the city

So I have majorly fecked up! I was getting ready for a date with MrBirdsEye when Mr Young comes round, all dressed up. Oh shit. Told him cos I hadn't heard from him, I had arranged to go out with the girls. MrYoung then offers to take my dog to his house to keep him company. Oh shit. So I said ok, I'll come back to yours.
So, MrBE and I have a nice meal, we go back to his boat. He has so many stories to tell and is so funny, time passes. I'm aware I have to get back to MrYoung and my dog, so make an excuse to go. MrBE is very confused. He thought he was in. But he hadn't made a move, ffs.
I am aware this sounds like I am rambling. It gets worse. I am too tired to go into details now. It's 3am and it's still going on.

So, my cancelled date from yesterday is (so far) rescheduled to today. I'm looking forward to it, but I seem to have arranged another date for straight afterwards, and am going to have to cut the first date slightly short I chatted to first guy quite a bit yesterday, and am not sure we've an awful lot in common, plus I'm wondering if he still has a few issues around his ex, but he seems like a nice bloke generally, so I'm looking forward to meeting him.

This second guy is someone who messaged me last weekend to tell me about something he thought I'd like on the radio, having read my bio, which I did. He then messaged me again yesterday to remind me it was on, and we got chatting. I really want to meet him, and the only time he had free that I could also be free was this afternoon (he's a teacher, and has his own kids often). I'm not sure it would work with him because we have our kids on opposite weekends (if that makes sense), but we got on so well that I'd like to see if there is any physical attraction there. We seem to be looking for the same sort of thing - sort of a casual dating arrangement, someone to go out and do stuff with, but also the sex stuff, without him or I trying to replace the others ex partner, if that makes sense. He says the women he's met so far have been looking for a substitute husband/father for their children, which I don't want.

I also have two guys in the background who both want a sort of FWB arrangement, which I might be agreeable to. Couple of red flags with one (he deletes WhatsApp sometimes, I'm starting to wonder if he's married - I will ask him next time I speak to him and cut him off if he is), but the other is good.

Not a wasted day then WarIs!

TheSheep glad you've rearranged, and it's always good to have options. I agree that deleting WhatsApp altogether rings alarm bells - I think he may well be attached.

SkinnyPete I live in London and lots of mens on dating sites have in their profiles that they are in London for work during the week. I would say to be completely upfront about it, but go for it. Lots of women have friends, family and hobbies that take up a lot of their time so are happy with seeing someone less often.

I seem to be collecting irons - too much swiping and now they are coming home to roost, as it were! I have Mr Irish 2 now - no date set yet, and a date with Mr Italian on Wednesday. Mr Bluebird is asking when we can meet too - I want to meet these irons as it's the only way to know if there's any spark, but I'm wary of having too many in one week - too old for being out every night 😅 About a year and a half ago I had a week where I had 6 dates and a work thing set up. Seriously I was flagging by the Friday so quite grateful when one of my weekend dates cancelled 😅😅

I spoke to two irons on the phone last night after being out all day. Third was texting asking when I was free. Felt a bit overwhelmed!! Nice problem to have, but no more swiping for me til things settle.

Mr Cavalier today

Mr Cavalier?? Does he own a Vauxhall or a spaniel or is he a swashbuckling battle reenactor?
I hope it's not the last one

Lol he owns a spaniel

thesheep yaaas! Like buses the men are either nowhere to be seen or 3 come along at once. Haha. Lots of options is good

tooold can't wait for the update heh

I'm still texting the doctor. Thing is thoigh we've dtd and he wanted to see me last night but I couldn't....he hasn't enquired about avail this week so I'm wondering whether to accept a date for tomorrow night. What do you all reckon?

super I hate that issue - I would go with the person who's offering a date first. The doctor may need to learn the you snooze you lose rule 😅

TooOld what's happening??

Just ordered the 'You are enough' bangle

tooold another here who can’t wait for your update!

And just like that Mr Irish 2 bites the dust. We matched yesterday afternoon, spoke on the phone last night. He just texted and asked to see me this afternoon. I already have a date this afternoon. I told him I was seeing friends 😬. He got stroppy because he 'only wants someone who has time to date'. He now knows how unreasonable I think he's being. For the record, I said I could meet for a quick drink yesterday evening, but he had plans .....

shit if you want to then yes. Totally your call. The other guy may be busy, don't take it personally and get back on Fab!

Irish 2 is back pedalling like a madman at the moment - quite amusing!