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Given tablet, has he cheated?

202 replies

Monday2018 · 27/01/2019 01:49

My Hb started having a really bad burning sensation, wanting to urinate but just couldn't. He went to GP Out of hours, but when he got home he placed a tablet on the table and said that's for you to take. I didn't understand and ask why's is it for me? He said doctor thinks you need to take it. Again why, what's it for? I asked. An infection, doctor thinks you may have given me an infection. I felt numb, I had no symptoms! Had my Hb cheated on me? I asked what infection? He said just take it. There was no leaflet. I have no idea what it was. Could it have been a bacterial infection. He's plumber, could he have picked something up from someone's toilet, blocked sink. Or do you thinks he's cheated and that tablet was for an Std? It was one single quite large tablet.

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Gazelda · 27/01/2019 20:46

What he's done is surely the limit OP. At the very least you need to speak with your GP urgently, tell her/him everything. You must do so to protect your health. If he can do this, what's to stop him doing it again?
It must be hell of an upsetting shock. But you owe it to yourself to find out what you've taken and why he asked you to do so.

QueenieInFrance · 27/01/2019 20:51

His GP wouldn't be giving your husband medication meant for you (that doesn't have a box/package or medication guide) without seeing you and making a diagnosis. It's all bollocks OP

When I had chlamydia, the GP gave me a prescription for myself and one for H.
She never saw H and seemed quite happy to give me both prescriptions.

The difference though is that there was a prescription and a box of pill for him (and one for me)

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 27/01/2019 21:00

QueenieinFrance Were both you and your H registered with the same doctor? So she could perhaps check his notes and know that there were no underlying health issues precluding him taking those meds.

This bloke went to OOHs, so presumably that GP had no idea who his wife was.

artisanscotcheggs · 27/01/2019 21:23
Biscuit
QueenieInFrance · 27/01/2019 21:40

Yes you are right, we were at the same clinic.
But they had to ask me who H was (as well as his date of birth). They didn’t just ‘guess’.

bethy15 · 27/01/2019 21:47

So, that's for treatment for chlamydia?

So that would fit with what others have said about it being that STI. However, they wouldn't diagnose the OP as having had an infection that SHE has given him without even seeing her.

And at least it was a full prescription he could cash himself, and have a box and leaflet with his medication. This is just one free rolling tablet.

MrsJane · 27/01/2019 22:22

Please get yourself checked out at the doctor ASAP. Explain to the doctor what has happened. They will be able to help you.

No doctor would prescribe medicine for a patient they haven't seen and/or spoken to. That's total BS. He's definitely lying to you about this and probably a whole lot more, sorry.

Hope your ok OP Thanks

Kisskiss · 28/01/2019 00:02

When I read your first post OP, and about the tablet it struck me as really familiar as a few years ago a mate of mine was diagnosed with chlamydia. The doctor gave her one big tablet of antibiotics to take, but also one to give her husband.
I remember that it was single dose, and large, as she was describing to me how difficult it was for her to try and hide it in his beverage...
sounds a lot like a similar situation.. except your Dh just gave you Yours and expected you to take it without questions?

C0untDucku1a · 28/01/2019 00:16

I can hnderstand why you took it. He is your husband and you trust him.

Don’t.

Tinkerbell89 · 28/01/2019 00:23

I wouldn't have taken it, it wasn't packaged or anything. Surely a GP wouldn't prescribe for another patient they'd advise your partner to tell you to get checked yourself and go from tgere. I think you need to make an urgent doctors appointment and get checked. Also think you might need to have a serious chat with DH, that isn't normal behaviour towards a wife to just tell them to take a tablet with no explanation. If he'd picked up something from work (unlikely sorry) then surely he would talk to you about it and be concerned....I think there's more to this. I wouldn't have unprotected sex for a while.
Sorry for your loss and hope this all works out ok

DragginBallsEEEE · 28/01/2019 01:08

Could you get tested ASAP before the tablet has a chance to work properly? I've no idea how a GUM clinic works so that might not be possible but if it is I'd be off there as soon as I could.

pissedonatrain · 28/01/2019 03:02

Every time I see the title of this thread I'm thinking iPad or Android. Sorry.

Hopefully OP you've had a chance to go to the doctor and get this mess sorted.

From what you've said and all, it does sound like he has that STI and knows how he got it and therefore gaslighting you. The way he has treated you and messed with your health is appalling.

louise5754 · 28/01/2019 07:24

I must be mad. If my husband had gone to the doctors and said we both have to take tablets I would assume he had opened the packaging and I'd take it. I do have 3/4 mental health conditions though Smile

He is her husband so I cannot see how she wouldn't not think to take it.

louise5754 · 28/01/2019 07:25

He must be awake by now. Hopefully OP will be back.

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 28/01/2019 07:32

I must be mad
Well, not sure "mad" is the right term, but I'm staggered that anyone would take an unlabelled medication for a condition they were unaware they had, on the say-so of anyone else, husband or not.
Where is your common sense?

WhereAreAllTheUsernames · 28/01/2019 07:36

Sorry for your loss op Thanks

bethy15 · 28/01/2019 09:02

@louise5754

I don't know if you can blame mental health problems, I have a couple myself and also have Aspergers, but I would never take a random tablet without any packaging, without knowing it's name or what the hell it's for.

If you had an allergic reaction, you wouldn't even know what to tell the hospital you took. It's so dangerous.

I hope reading this you now wouldn't blindly take a tablet just handed to you and have made yourself aware of the dangers.

theworldistoosmall · 28/01/2019 09:18

I have mh conditions. Every medication offered to me I want to know what it is and what it’s for. I like to have autonomy over what I put in my body. I like to be aware of any possible side effects.
Even when in hospital and they start giving meds I have a quick search before I take then.
The op was denied this. She had no idea what she has taken and is unaware of side effects.
Then there’s the contraindications and allergies with meds. Something another persons gp wouldn’t be privy to.

Even nhs website says each person has to be tested.

hellsbellsmelons · 28/01/2019 09:19

It doesn't sound good OP.
I do hope you manage to get to the GP today and get some answers!
Look after yourself and your DD.

louise5754 · 28/01/2019 10:37

I am being assessed too for aspergers. There must be something wrong with me then as I know if my husband have it he I would take it. I'd assume he threw the packet away.

bethy15 · 28/01/2019 10:45

Louise, why on earth would you do that? You do know that a GP shouldn't give you any medication without you being there and should your husband do that with no explanation, his motives wouldn't be in your interests, but his own.
It could be anything. Say he became suicidal and wanted to take you with him?

Blind trust, to me, is wholly ignorant and not advocating at all for your own well-being.

Please, at least from now on, take control of your own body and don't let a man have ultimate control of you.

theworldistoosmall · 28/01/2019 10:47

It's not there is something wrong with you. But you are too trusting. Medications come with side effects and some can be very serious. I've passed out, had respiratory problems, vomiting, allergic reactions etc from side effects.

I'm still amazed that partners are given treatment without being seen. Luckily whoever I saw was more responsible and wanted to see partner to get tested medical review and treatment. If they had said here's some stuff for your partner I would have reported them. It goes against NHS advice.

HoppingPavlova · 28/01/2019 10:49

He is her husband so I cannot see how she wouldn't not think to take it.

Christ, I don’t even know where to start with that.

The main point would be that if anyone’s husband or wife came back with any tablet and said a healthcare professional has prescribed it for you and you must take it then they are lying . You can’t prescribe a medicine for a patient that you gave not had a consult with. How would you know if the spouse at home was taking some other medication that this may interact with or is contraindicated with, or whether they have a health condition where this is contraindicated or if there are precautions where you need to weigh up benefit versus risk and document it .

Also you can’t go to a healthcare professional by yourself and discuss someone else’s health without them being present and providing consent. So you can’t go to the GP by yourself and discuss your spouse.

I shudder to think what else you may blindly do because your husband said soConfused.

Passing4Human · 28/01/2019 10:50

Yes well I don't think the OP will ever take another tablet someone gives her again, so maybe other posters could stop going on AND ON about that now and beating her up with it. The most urgent thing now for the OP is to find out what the tablet was and get some professional advice I would think.

OliviaBenson · 28/01/2019 10:55

Hope you are ok op. Tell your GP everything, his GP won't be able to talk to you but would be able to discuss it with your GP.

You need to then have a serious think about why you are still in this relationship.

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