Given tablet, has he cheated?

[Monday2018]

My Hb started having a really bad burning sensation, wanting to urinate but just couldn't. He went to GP Out of hours, but when he got home he placed a tablet on the table and said that's for you to take. I didn't understand and ask why's is it for me? He said doctor thinks you need to take it. Again why, what's it for? I asked. An infection, doctor thinks you may have given me an infection. I felt numb, I had no symptoms! Had my Hb cheated on me? I asked what infection? He said just take it. There was no leaflet. I have no idea what it was. Could it have been a bacterial infection. He's plumber, could he have picked something up from someone's toilet, blocked sink. Or do you thinks he's cheated and that tablet was for an Std? It was one single quite large tablet.

In which case I'd tell him you'll be writing to the General medical council to report his GP for passing on medication to you in that manner. Then watch out for his response.

Hi,
If you're 100% sure you don't have chlamidya e.g. from previous partners etc (not just not showing symptoms but actually sure you didn't have it), the only person it has come from is him (to you) not you to him like he suggests. Also, agree with the others that doctors wouldn't give pills to give to others so casually, especially NOT without a packet/instructional leaflet warning side effects etc. Even paracetamol comes with an instructional leaflet so every (legal) medication will.

If he had nothing to hide and he's the innocent one as he seems to claim, he'd have no issues being specific about what drug he''s giving to you and would happily share the leaflet etc. with you. The fact he's hiding it makes it seem like he's been playing away etc. and knows that it's him at fault. A lot of wrongdoers will deflect the blame onto the other person so they can clear their guilt

He forgot what the doctor said!!??!!

Is he really THAT stupid? He left the doctors not remembering what he went in there for and then got you to take a pill that he can’t remember what the doctor said about it and one that came without packaging or instructions. Jeez!

There’s a name reserved just for people like this.

Plus, he the DH had been concerned that the op passed the mystery infection to him, wouldn’t he have been keen to question his wife a bit more?!

I’m sorry op. Your husband sounds like a truely horrible person and I sincerely hope you are ok.

In which case I'd tell him you'll be writing to the General medical council to report his GP for passing on medication to you in that manner. Then watch out for his response.

Great idea!

Sorry to hear about your MC op and I hope you get to the bottom of this

No pharmacy will give you one loose tablet without a box or instructions, so demand from him the box that tablet came in. If he's thrown it away, go through the bins.

You have a right to know what you've taken, I still can't believe you took it though.

But there's nothing that isn't malicious behind what he's done, and it's not truthful, as no doctor would give one tablet for you without seeing you.

See a doctor, but also look at your relationship that one you believed him and took it, and two, he felt he could do this to you.

I have had chlamydia. I had no symptoms. I was given 4 capsules to take at the time and 2 weeks of anti b's.
After week one I had to go back and get re-tested. It had cleared up. I was also told to either contact sexual partners myself or they would do it for me.

You need to get yourself off to the GUM clinic and a full screen - throat, blood, vagina and if you do anal, anus. Many offer same day results. A lot of dr's no longer test and send you to the gum clinic. The quickest way to find out, look at the practice website.

Do you remember any numbers or marking from the tablet? If you do, google them and the tablet will show up.

A medical professional wouldn't prescribe something for you. They would want to see you first to talk about side effects and allergies for starters. Plus they would want you to get tested.

He's basically given you his meds. So he isn't treating himself correctly unless he's done the lost prescription thing.

His dr won't talk to you, patient confidentiality. However, you can call his bluff and tell him that you are reporting him to the practice manager and the GMC because meds shouldn't be issued to you. That you are going to the gum clinic for a full screening, and see what changes have occurred since you were screened during pregnancy when you were clear.

Can you ask him for any more information on what the tablet was, tell him you're going to ring 111 and you need as many clues as possible so they can advise you properly

Just reading your posts about your daughters issues, and sadly, I agree with PP. She needs to go to the doctor with you tomorrow.

I know you believe 100% he'd never do anything like that, however I don't know one person who it has happened to who didn't say the exact same thing, nobody ever has a relationship with a man who they feel could have done that.

It may well be a huge coincidence that they are both experiencing problems down there at the same time, however, it's better safe then sorry.

Is there any way you can find that packaging? It would help to know how many he had in there too.

ACtually thinking about it.
I would start faking side effects. Run to the toilet, make vomiting sounds and pour a glass of water down the toilet. Say you're feeling dizzy. What was the name of the tablet as you might be allergic and will need to let 111 know what you've taken.

Yes I know it's dickhead behaviour but sometimes you have to be.

You post thread after thread about this bloke. I can't really work out what's going on but this is clearly a snapshot of a much bigger picture

Oh come on OP you surely aren’t this naive?!

OF COURSE he remembers what the doctor said. He remembers every single world he just isnt going to admit it to you, is he?

He’s very clever telling you to ask his doctor - however your husband has full capacity so therefore the doctor will tell you absolutely nothing about his medical records or visits.

First of all you need to get yourself checked out ASAP! Not tomorrow, not later... now! I can’t believe you swallowed an unlabelled tablet? Never in a million years would his dr give him a tablet to give to you - he’d be sacked!

Your husband is playing you for an absolute fool and I don’t understand how you aren’t doing anything about it? Then again you took a complete random tablet that he chucked at you... no wonder he thinks he can treat you like shite. He feeds you lies and you swallow them, why aren’t you standing up for yourself and demanding answers?

He cant remember why the doctor told him to take the tablet???

For real you believe this shit?

He knows full well due to confidentiality the doctor will not be able to tell you anything.
What a bluff.

Most likely thing is that he had an appointment at the GUM clinic, not the GP if they gave treatment for you to take. He can request that they do not transfer his notes to his own GP, so again you will not be able to find any more info.

If he has been symptomatic, it's unlikely he picked up the infection more than a few weeks ago. I know we tell people you might have been carrying an STI for ages but usually it's not the case.

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Monday, I am very sorry about your miscarriages.

It is appalling that your husband conned, stonewalled and gaslighted you, all within the space of a few minutes, and then went to bed and slept like a baby, leaving you a nervous wreck.

He bullied you into taking a random pill, lied by denying knowledge about the pill and ailment, continued lying that the doctor blamed you and sent you the pill. Liar, liar, pants on fire.

It is troubling that you allowed him to con you in what is likely his attempt to coverup his cheating.

I dare say that if he had suddenly appeared with a random pill and ordered your daughter to take it, you would have been apoplectic. You deserve just as much care.

Your threads indicate that your husband has a history of manipulating you by lying, telling you to shut up, and by taking advantage of you financially.

In my opinion, you should seek individual counseling to help with your grief and shame over your miscarriages, to boost your self-esteem, and to learn why you tolerate your husband’s manipulative behavior.

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Monday, have you got any answers from him? At least what on earth it was he gave you and why?

Is this the same bloke you wondered a few months back if you'd seen dating apps on his phone, but convinced yourself they were random?

I'm sorry, OP, but I think you're being very naive here, clearly wanting to believe the best in him. But it is beyond all bounds of likelihood that any doctor would have told him that you had given him an infection and to give you an unwrapped random tablet to take to fix it. Come on!!

You and your DD need to be tested for STDs.

Please take your head out of the clouds.

Monday clearly either isn't available, or doesn't want to engage with her thread. I imagine trying to accept all that he's doing must feel pretty intolerable. Its not her fault he treats her this way. He does treat you badly though OP, and you do deserve a life of your own, which you don't seem to have at the moment, bearing in mind your previous threads about him too.

It's a lot to take on board. She's probably shell-shocked and desperate to believe anything but what posters are suggesting.

His cheating could eell have risked the health of your unborn child.

He's a snake.

Even if, EVEN IF, this doctor had prescribed this tablet for you, a stranger to him, whose medical history (or any potential symptoms) he has no clue about, do you not think the tablet would have been in some sort of labelled blister pack/box, with a sticky label with your name and the dosage on? You know, like a prescription?

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