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Given tablet, has he cheated?

202 replies

Monday2018 · 27/01/2019 01:49

My Hb started having a really bad burning sensation, wanting to urinate but just couldn't. He went to GP Out of hours, but when he got home he placed a tablet on the table and said that's for you to take. I didn't understand and ask why's is it for me? He said doctor thinks you need to take it. Again why, what's it for? I asked. An infection, doctor thinks you may have given me an infection. I felt numb, I had no symptoms! Had my Hb cheated on me? I asked what infection? He said just take it. There was no leaflet. I have no idea what it was. Could it have been a bacterial infection. He's plumber, could he have picked something up from someone's toilet, blocked sink. Or do you thinks he's cheated and that tablet was for an Std? It was one single quite large tablet.

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Zoflorabore · 27/01/2019 07:30

He probably thinks he's clever now and has "got away with it" whatever "it" is.

Do not let this go op. He has behaved appallingly and did not know how you would react to this medication.

I would ring 111 for advice and then tell him that you will have this investigated. Hopefully this will frighten him enough to tell you the truth.
I'm sure I read that if you give someone medication and the worst happens you can get 15 years for manslaughter. He took that chance. Why?

willowtree28 · 27/01/2019 07:52

I would tell him not long after you took it that you vomited and it all came back pretty much whole/ Just mushed and that you're worried now so suggest the pair of you go back to your own GP for some more tablets! You need him to go as you have no idea what was given and that will be on his record! Also remind him you are deeply concerned that perhaps this 'infection' was actually the reason for your miscarriage and so it's essential to get it sorted ASAP. Thanks

debbie1990 · 27/01/2019 07:58

Another one shocked you took a tablet not knowing what it was?!

I would do as a PP suggested though and said you have vommited and need another, so need to know what it was called and what for so you can call your GP, or alternatively I'd pretend I was really itchy/other reaction and needed to call 111 as it may be a reaction can he confirm what the tablet was called?

EarthboundMisfit · 27/01/2019 08:02

I'd assume thrush, but the whole thing is bizarre and improbable...I wouldn't have taken it.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 27/01/2019 08:03

The doctor would suggest you make an app to see them, but they would never say your DH got something from you or give him pills to give to you.

silkpyjamasallday · 27/01/2019 08:04

Oh OP I'm so sorry, this doesn't sound good at all. You need to get to the doctors/gum clinic asap to get to the bottom of this. From everything you've said it sounds very much like he has cheated and contracted chlamydia, and has split his dose of meds between you and him hoping you will never know, as he is probably aware from googling that he has caused your miscarriage by infecting you. I'd be leaving him after this, you could never trust him again as he is unwilling to take responsibility and has lied to avoid it. Take care of yourself OP, you are not a failure in any way, but you have been failed by your partner Flowers

GB54 · 27/01/2019 08:07

Definitely try to find out what you’ve taken! I hope you get answers, it doesn’t sound good.

UnicornSlaughters · 27/01/2019 08:12

I agree with the others, tell him you've been sick and the tablet came back up.

I really, really hope that it's not what caused your miscarriage. I'm so sorry.

lyn31 · 27/01/2019 08:13

Could it be thrush? That is normally just one tablet?

katykins85 · 27/01/2019 08:14

Whilst he is asleep I'd be going through his phone/wallet/car/van/anything else I could like phone bills to see if there is evidence of the affair. If you speak to him before ypu do this he will cover it up and you'll never know for sure but always doubt and worry.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 27/01/2019 08:17

If definitely get an sti check.I had chlamydia a few years ago given to me by an ex and I took the tablet but it didn't work and I was still infected.If I hadn't had a "feeling" and insisted on bring retested I would never had known Flowers

debbie1990 · 27/01/2019 08:17

Would you take a tablet for thrush though without symptoms?

Surely he would just say Dr said I have thrush and has suggested yo get treatment if symptoms?

CarolDanvers · 27/01/2019 08:24

I want to be supportive I really do but I cannot begin to comprehend why someone would take medication from a person they didn't trust in the way you did. Surely there comes a point where you have to take responsibility for your own decisions? Are you afraid of him OP?

SimplySteve · 27/01/2019 08:27

Give it a rest Carol, it's clear the OPs in enough pain as is.

CarolDanvers · 27/01/2019 08:31

No. I won't thanks Steve.

I asked is OP afraid of her husband because I cannot fathom why someone would take a tablet like that just because they were told to. That's a dangerous place to be in and it needs to be asked about. He's untrustworthy and manipulative. That tablet could have been anything. For OP's own safety she needs to ask herself why she would ingest an unknown substance like that? It's actually terrifying.

planespotting · 27/01/2019 08:38

I would have booked an app with my GP and taken the tablet to show them

UnicornSlaughters · 27/01/2019 08:40

I'm usually the last one to jump on the MN hysterical train of thought, but I remember your previous post about your daughter too. In light of your husband's obvious infection and secret pills, I think your daughter's pains should be much more thoroughly investigated.

I'm really sorry to even have to suggest it.

Fairylea · 27/01/2019 08:43

I can’t believe you took a tablet just because your dh told you to without knowing what it is or what it’s for! That’s so dangerous. Shock

Rainatnight · 27/01/2019 08:44

I hope you're ok, OP. This must all be very shocking. Is there ma gone you can talk to IRL?

Rainatnight · 27/01/2019 08:45

ANYONE, not ma gone. Stupid phone, sorry

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 27/01/2019 08:47
Sad
katy78 · 27/01/2019 08:48

Has he been to the doctor before OP? I didn’t think you could get STI tests and results within the same day?

YourFly · 27/01/2019 08:49

I remember your previous post about your daughter too. In light of your husband's obvious infection and secret pills, I think your daughter's pains should be much more thoroughly investigated

This with bells on. Your DD needs investigations urgently Sad

Beaverhausen · 27/01/2019 08:52

Symptoms take 10 days to show. Sorry to say but he has an sti, if you read ukpunting one of the things they say is blame it on the wife.

He is a dick, do not feel sorry for yourself but take action, have yourself tested and demand he gets tested if he had passed something on to you and it was a factor in your miscarriage I would literally kill the bastard.

Good luck and so sorry this is happening to you.

Beaverhausen · 27/01/2019 08:53

@katy78 you can for chlamydia.