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Given tablet, has he cheated?

202 replies

Monday2018 · 27/01/2019 01:49

My Hb started having a really bad burning sensation, wanting to urinate but just couldn't. He went to GP Out of hours, but when he got home he placed a tablet on the table and said that's for you to take. I didn't understand and ask why's is it for me? He said doctor thinks you need to take it. Again why, what's it for? I asked. An infection, doctor thinks you may have given me an infection. I felt numb, I had no symptoms! Had my Hb cheated on me? I asked what infection? He said just take it. There was no leaflet. I have no idea what it was. Could it have been a bacterial infection. He's plumber, could he have picked something up from someone's toilet, blocked sink. Or do you thinks he's cheated and that tablet was for an Std? It was one single quite large tablet.

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grenadezombie · 27/01/2019 10:11

You took a random tablet upon the instruction of someone else?

I would say your biggest issue is that. Whether he has cheated or not is an absolute red herring at this point. How has he got you so low that he can control you that much? I would be glad he has cheated, this is obviously a situation you need to be free from.

toffeeapple123 · 27/01/2019 10:14

Go get yourself tested. Preferably where he was tested. Tell the GP you were given a tablet etc. Explain them everything. Let them help you Flowers

anotherwearytraveller · 27/01/2019 10:14

Carol you are wrong
They will test if reason to eg someone admitted or seen with bleeding or discharge or threatened early labour and they would have been the patients you were in contact with perhaps

But women with no symptoms and low risk pregnancy do not have any routine vaginal swabs

I’ve been a gynaecologist for over 25 years

CarolDanvers · 27/01/2019 10:17

I’m not arguing with you Confused. It’s why I said then...in case it wasn’t happening now.

anotherwearytraveller · 27/01/2019 10:19

Your post implied it happened routinely then

Women are tested now as they were then- as I posted

DBML · 27/01/2019 10:20

OP, if your oh cheated on you that is disgusting...but if he then halved his dose of antibiotics and asked you to take a tablet without explaining what it was, then he’s a real piece of work. How could you ever trust him again.

You deserve answers and a trip to the doctors is necessary.

You poor thing, I hope this works out for you and if it’s what we think it is, I hope he has itchy balls for years to come.

CarolDanvers · 27/01/2019 10:20

I’m sure you know best Smile

Thewheelsarefallingoff · 27/01/2019 10:23

FFS ops, give the woman a break. How do you think a patriarchal society works? The medical profession, husbands, fathers, church... have groomed women for centuries to do whatever creates the least fuss for the institution.
Op, I am so sorry for your loss. I can completely understand how you would just have taken something that your husband told you the Dr said you must take (and immediately questioned it after). Your husband cannot be trusted to do what is best for you and your dd. Look after the both of you. Hope you both get some help from your gp, as a starting point.

Thewheelsarefallingoff · 27/01/2019 10:24

pps not ops

Gummybear14 · 27/01/2019 10:29

If you go and get tested for chlamydia now it would likely still show on a test as positive if you took the tablet very recently. Go and get a chlamydia test now. I would guess it was 1mg azithromycin. Guessing he has bought it in Lloyds, Superdrug or online. A doctor would have not given any for you and instead told him to tell you to go in and get some.

Just wanted to add I work in a sexual health clinic and see lots of overly worried plumbers and we never know why, it's a bit of a mystery at the moment but most are worried about the water and close contact they have with other people's belongings.

You need to find out what it is and don't stop until you know.

EggysMom · 27/01/2019 10:31

I'm wondering if the reason he freshened up and 'had to dash out' is because he had a second tablet/dose that he needed his bit-on-the-side to take as well.

SandyY2K · 27/01/2019 10:38

How on earth would a doctor be able to tell him you passed an infection to him without seeing you? Then giving you a single tablet via him.

I'm sorry but I can't understand why you would believe such a story. This is nothing to do with being a patriarchal society.

There are serious problems with you for him to even spin such a story and know you'd believe it. You know it could have been a cyanide pill or any other form of poison.

I've heard of cheaters crushing the medication into the food of their OH...I don't know what's worse.

Please see your GP. Book an emergency appointment tomorrow morning...or go to A and E today.

CrazyCrunk · 27/01/2019 10:58

@Gummybear14 what do you mean about the plumbers?

theworstwife · 27/01/2019 11:27

@Monday2018 I am a consultant in sexual health - there is a lot of misinformation here - if you want some advice please feel free to message me

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Monday2018 · 27/01/2019 12:06

Thank you theworstwife. PM sent.

OP posts:
cinemalover · 27/01/2019 12:18

Are some of you seriously suggesting the father has been abusing his 8 year old? How fucked up is that?

Deffo get yourself and your daughter to the doctors tomorrow morning OP and ask about the tablet, say he told you the doctor told him to make you take it and enquire more about the pains your daughter is having.

Meanwhile question the fuck out of him, e.g where does he keep disappearing off too, what was the medicine for, why is he a bullying bastard etc.

Also check his phone tonight whilst he's asleep if you can.

Tomorrow morning mention you and Dd are off to the doctors to find out more about this medicine 'just to make sure you're okay' Confused see what his reaction is... it'll probably be telling.

IndieTara · 27/01/2019 12:23

Don't let this lie OP you need to find out what's happened

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Monday2018 · 27/01/2019 13:08

I know 100% hand on heart he would never ever abuse our daughter. I followed her issue up with the doctor and it is due to her chronic constipation.

I did talk to my Hb this morning about the tablet. He told me I was off my F###### head and that it was nothing to do with an STD. He can't remember what the doctor said and told me to go speak his doctor and ask him what it was for. He came out with that himself, I said I would be going to the doctors first thing tomorrow.

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RLABC · 27/01/2019 13:11

Ive just read through your other threads OP, whilst none give any hint to you being suspicious of cheating before it does seem quite clear that your husband has the final say on things. That you're not really his No. 1 priority. This doesn't mean he's cheated either but, to me, he doesn't come across as a very nice person in your posts. You shouldn't have taken the tablet without first finding out what it was and who gave it to him. His story is bollocks. Still does not automatically mean he's cheated.
You need answers. For you and your daughter's sake.
Has the pawn definitely stopped now?

Giesabreak · 27/01/2019 13:13

His doctor isn't going to tell you anything without your husband being present. Just as he wouldn't dish out medication for you without you being present.

RLABC · 27/01/2019 13:13

*porn

RLABC · 27/01/2019 13:15

His GP wouldn't be giving your husband medication meant for you (that doesn't have a box/package or medication guide) without seeing you and making a diagnosis. It's all bollocks OP

Kittykat93 · 27/01/2019 13:21

Sorry op but another who just can't imaging taking an unknown tablet for an unknown infection just because my husband told me to. Go to your gp tomorrow. Very sorry for your recent miscarriage and hope whatever this is isn't the cause of it Thanks

meow1989 · 27/01/2019 13:30

@Monday that's a fairly empty offer as the go will not tell you anything without his consent.

ittakes2 · 27/01/2019 13:34

Ring 111 and ask the out of hours doctor to call you - explain what your husband has asked you. Its the best way to speak to the doctor who has seen your husband.