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Given tablet, has he cheated?

202 replies

Monday2018 · 27/01/2019 01:49

My Hb started having a really bad burning sensation, wanting to urinate but just couldn't. He went to GP Out of hours, but when he got home he placed a tablet on the table and said that's for you to take. I didn't understand and ask why's is it for me? He said doctor thinks you need to take it. Again why, what's it for? I asked. An infection, doctor thinks you may have given me an infection. I felt numb, I had no symptoms! Had my Hb cheated on me? I asked what infection? He said just take it. There was no leaflet. I have no idea what it was. Could it have been a bacterial infection. He's plumber, could he have picked something up from someone's toilet, blocked sink. Or do you thinks he's cheated and that tablet was for an Std? It was one single quite large tablet.

OP posts:
CherryPavlova · 27/01/2019 08:55

Yes, you and your child need to see your GP as a matter of urgency.
You have taken a tablet with no idea what it is.
You may have an infection that has not been properly treated.
Your daughter may be at risk or suffering significant harm
You are fragile from miscarriage and will need support.

Don’t wake him and be beguiled into accepting unlikely answers.
Can you stay with someone for a few days until you have clear answers from an objective professional - your GP?

NotTheFordType · 27/01/2019 08:57

Has he been to the doctor before OP? I didn’t think you could get STI tests and results within the same day?

You certainly can if you pay - the results can be with you in under an hour.

A standard NHS clinic will tend to send results in a week or less.

OP I haven't seen your previous posts but I'm sorry for your loss.

Your H sounds like a total tosser and you deserve better.

katy78 · 27/01/2019 08:57

@Beaverhausen on the NHS? I’ve never known this, particularly didn’t think a GP would have those resources - I thought they had to send it off to the lab. NHS advice state 7-10 days for results.

Lollyice · 27/01/2019 09:00

I would make an appointment for the whole family on Monday and discuss everything with your doctor. If your H doesn't attend, I would be packing his bags.

Namsterchange · 27/01/2019 09:07

As awful as it is, with the symptoms your daughter has and they can’t find a cause. I’d be booking an emergency appointment for you both. He obviously has an std and is prepared to lie about it, the health issues your daughter has been having down there, I’d be worried to be honest. I think you need to ask him to leave at least until he can be honest and you are both checked out.

YourFly · 27/01/2019 09:08

I agree, I wouldnt be asking him to attend the Drs with you, at all.

Just you & your DD, Shes had pain in that area for 12-18 months, Take care of yourselves OP.

ReturnofSaturn · 27/01/2019 09:11

It really is unbelievable that you took a random tablet. I agree with carol that surely this suggests there's other things seriously wrong here...are you frightened of him OP?? X Thanks

BingisaweeArse · 27/01/2019 09:14

I'm sorry for your loss but Christ never take anything ever.

I don't think there is any point asking him he will just lie. Get tested ASAP and leave this is manipulative and controlling behaviour.

Fluffycloudland77 · 27/01/2019 09:14

Police? Where’s he got prescription only meds from?. Not legitimately that’s for sure.

No dr would risk his job by doing this.

roundaboutthetown · 27/01/2019 09:16

Go asap to an sti clinic to get a full sexual health screening done. And never be so stupid again as to take an unlabelled tablet, whoever gives it to you. It's an almost 100% certainty your dh has been unfaithful to have pulled that stunt on you.

dinkydolphin · 27/01/2019 09:22

Hang on a second!! It could be good old thrush and that is obviously completely innocent. Your partner has to take a tablet for thrush or else it won't go away.

Take a breather for a moment. Take the tablet to the pharmacy near you that's open today and ask what it is and get some proper advice.

Hollypink · 27/01/2019 09:23

Maybe ask him so how did you get chalymdia?? Bluff that you know that's what it's for, they probably tested him sent it off and gave the antibiotics just incase I think it is 2 tablets and he's gave you the other you also need to have a conversation with your daughter and get her to the doctor again, with the misscarriage you will never know what caused it so try not to torture yourself anymore. I hope you're ok but don't let this go it's definitely not something innocent like thrush or he would of told you

anotherwearytraveller · 27/01/2019 09:27

Tell him you know the truth and see what he says

So sorry OP

UnicornSlaughters · 27/01/2019 09:29

@dinkydolphin read the full thread!

She's already taken the tablet. She googled tablet images and it looked like a chlamydia antibiotic. It did not look like a thrush tablet.

Alfiemoon1 · 27/01/2019 09:31

Sorry for your loss op I would be demanding some answers from him Was there no packaging for the tablet. It seems very odd that the gp would percribe you a tablet with out seeing you

TheLostTargaryen · 27/01/2019 09:51

Don't we all get tested for STDs when we are pregnant? HIV, Hep B, Chlamydia and Syphilis are all in the first blood tests with the midwives right? So 8 years ago OP presumably tested negative for chlamydia. Therefore, as long as she hasn't cheated she was definitely not carrying it symptomless for years.
OP, go get tested ASAP. If you are infected then it's safe to say your hubby is a cheat. It doesn't surprise me that he's making out you gave him an infection. What a piece of shit.

katy78 · 27/01/2019 09:56

She may have also been tested when she was pregnant before she had her miscarriage?

Hollypink · 27/01/2019 10:01

I don't think they routinely test for Chlamydia in pregnancy

anotherwearytraveller · 27/01/2019 10:02

No automatic testing for chlamydia during pregnancy

Just HIV/hep B via blood test

CarolDanvers · 27/01/2019 10:02

I don't think they routinely test for Chlamydia in pregnancy

They do. Also HIV.

anotherwearytraveller · 27/01/2019 10:03

And sorry yes syphillis but chlamydia isn’t via a blood test

CarolDanvers · 27/01/2019 10:03

I used to work as a medical secretary on a obs/gynae ward. They definitely did test for it then.

Yulebealrite · 27/01/2019 10:04

The first step is the doctors on Monday morning.

QueenieInFrance · 27/01/2019 10:10

Can you ask your GO to check which tablet your H gave you and what it was for?

Appreciate that they can’t tell you anything about his health due to confidentiality BUT as the medicationwas also given to YOU, I’m wondering if you couod have access to it.
I would want to know what on Earth I am supposed to be treated for.

FWIW I had chlamydia in the past. It can lie dormant for years. BUT I and H had to take some antibiotics for a week to get rid of it. So one table on its own sounds strange.

Dunin · 27/01/2019 10:11

Oh my god. You took the tablet!! I think you need to go see a therapist and get some urgent help. If you can’t see how bad/wrong all of this! Please get help. Go see your GP first thing Monday and tell your husband to leave until you’ve got answers