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Who has worked in escorting?

427 replies

Ely7891 · 16/01/2019 12:52

I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

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chestylarue52 · 16/01/2019 12:56

Have you met any of the other women working there to verify their claims about it being a good place to work?

No matter what precaution you take it won't be 100% safe, are you prepared for that?

The customers might be paying £££ but do you know (have you seen proof of how much of that you'd receive?)

bethy15 · 16/01/2019 13:00

I would think the risk is too great if you have a child you want to be there for.

Have you been to CAB to see you're getting all you're entitled to in benefits?

I'm really sorry you feel so desperate. The risk of rape, assault or worse would be too great for me.

Ely7891 · 16/01/2019 13:02

No which is why I’m asking here, the agency keep the girls on their books unidentifiable so I wouldn’t be able to find them until after I’ve met with the agency. The agency take 30% which would leave me with more than I earn in one month made in 4hrs. No I do appreciate nothing is 100% safe. But seeing as these men have their details noted, the location to be met in is noted, time start and time finish known... I think it’s a hell of a lot safer than going out, getting wrecked and meeting up with a total stranger 🤷🏻‍♀️

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NotTheFordType · 16/01/2019 13:04

You would be much safer screening your own clients and keeping 100% of the money.

Visit saafe.info for advice and support for independent escorts. Use the forum as well as the main site. There are lots of posts about the pros and cons of working for an agency, and of the job in general.

I've been escorting full time for 3 years and I usually clear £1000-£1500 per week after expenses.

Ely7891 · 16/01/2019 13:04

I’ve spoken to everyone. I’m stuck in a house I cabt afford because it has too many bedrooms, so the help I get is not enough to help cover. I can’t Hand my notice in or i won’t get any help for making myself intentionally homeless and I’m considered suitably housed so have no hope of getting houses on the register

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NotANotMan · 16/01/2019 13:06

Can't you get a lodger or two? That's how I make ends meet

bethy15 · 16/01/2019 13:08

Are you in council housing?

If you have too many bedrooms you can swap or put in to bid on smaller places.

What work are you doing right now?

NewStyleFor2019 · 16/01/2019 13:10

OP - go for the meeting, nothing is stopping you. Take a list of questions with you and go from there.

Find out about security, pay, hours, if it's viable to do in the evening as a single mother, would you be able to get childcare? I'm sure there are lots of pros with the money side, but most probably a few cons too.

lemonface · 16/01/2019 13:12

Are you happy to be utterly appalled by men and change your view of them forever? If so, go for it.

beckysbobbles · 16/01/2019 13:20

Could you not consider video cam work? That way you won't put your safety at risk and you could do it from home.

I don't really have any advice for you I'm afraid but I hope things improve for you.

Ely7891 · 16/01/2019 13:23

I’m not no, it’s private and with 2 small kids and 2 box rooms, 1 decent Suze room, I don’t think it would be feasable but I have spoken to the landlady about that possibility.
As for being repulsed by men... like I said, I’ve seen what people take home at the end of the night... let’s not pretend that all guys non escorts bag are lookers. Also I worked for £7.50ph so I could have feaces wiped on me, spat on, pinched, punched and slapped... I’m finding it hard to think that suffering through the odd one who does turn you off for hundreds won’t be the hardest thing to do 😂

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NotANotMan · 16/01/2019 13:27

let’s not pretend that all guys non escorts bag are lookers

It's not about how they look Confused it's about their vile behaviour.

If you really want to do this then go for it but I'd be very wary.

PlumpSyrianHamster · 16/01/2019 13:28

She didn't ask about benefits, lodgers and house swaps.

Glad to see you've got some advice, OP, and hope you get more.

I've got a family member who makes her living this way and does pretty well.

Itrynottobutsonetimesifail · 16/01/2019 13:29

find out about additional cuts in the money you'll have to either pay their driver if they are supplying one for "saftey" or pay the cab yourself.

If your doing in calls, how much "rent" will they charge you? If the in call flat has a "helper", does she take a cut too. Will you have to pay for cleaning?

Just because the Johns are "vetted" and their details taken, doesn't mean they will be decent and play ball. They will expect more than your sheet says. Most will expect no protection

You'll need to find the nearest GUM clinic and go regularly, just because they've had a shower doesn't mean their clean. You'll have to watch out for infections in your throat and back passage as well.

The worst part, expect loads of complaints and no payments or payments withheld. The other worst part expect to be forced at some point or violated if it's evening calls and they've been drinking.

Out calls to hotels, check if you need to give kickbacks to the staff, also they are fully entitled to call the police at any point and the likelyhood is you'll get your collar felt not the Johns.

out calls to homes, be super careful with this one, every bit of saftey you can do do it

Watch out that as your new, your rates will be lower but you'll be expected by the Johns to do everything and pretend they are brilliant and fake it.

Above all the "agency" is there to make money off your body, they will only be supportive if your a good earner.

Finally find out how many "calls" before they start paying you. One trick is to take a new girl, say they are giving you a trial run and won't pay you, you've have a bad experience and don't go back you don't get any money. Also it may be more than 1 trial call.

Over all go into it eyes wide open it's an exploitative industry, by both the clients and the agencies.

I completely get the economic factors that are making you go down this route. Watch out for yourself, stay safe and be careful. Contact a sex worker charity for extra advice and safeguards please.

SuziQ10 · 16/01/2019 13:29

It's sad that you're having to go down this route. But no judgement here. There's nothing I wouldn't do to provide for my dc.

I've met girls who escorted. Some horror stories, but mostly they seem ok.
Make sure you're happy with what the agency rules are. What are the type of locations you have to meet the men, make sure you're comfortable with that too.

Wonkydonkey44 · 16/01/2019 13:30

You’ve nothing to loose by going to meet up with the agency. Make a list of questions and ask to speak to a few of the women they have on their books.
Good luck and stay safe.

NewStyleFor2019 · 16/01/2019 13:31

Do some people realise that escorting doesn't mean prostitution?

The OP doesn't have to sleep with the men.

Quite a few escorting dates are just to a restaurant or bar...

Itrynottobutsonetimesifail · 16/01/2019 13:38

NewStyleFor2019

I did some work for an outreach charity in Lobdon,that's a but if a urban myth especially at nearly a ton for 30 mins.

bethy15 · 16/01/2019 13:39

Also I worked for £7.50ph so I could have feaces wiped on me, spat on, pinched, punched and slapped... I’m finding it hard to think that suffering through the odd one who does turn you off for hundreds won’t be the hardest thing to do 😂

If you're fine with all of this then perhaps it is the job for you.

What work are you currently doing now?

Longsight2019 · 16/01/2019 13:39

Seeking Arrangenent? If you don’t know, google.

Ely7891 · 16/01/2019 13:41

Lots of great advice thank you so much! If I go with this agency, I am paid the same for hours worked, it’s all outcall and mostly will be to a hotel bar, restaurant First, not to their house and not straight to a room. And as pointed out, you aren’t obligated to have sex... they pay for your company and whatever happens in that time, that’s up to you both. Obviously it is heavily implied, but you do not HAVE to be intimate with them. I don’t understand why a man who uses an escort is said to have “vile behaviour”. Most escort users are after the company side just as much as the sexual. Or they could spend 4x less on a girl who offers straight sex. And again, so many people go out and sleep around on the regular with no such admonishments, and who doesn’t watch porn? They are all prostitutes after all? X

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OneForTheRoadThen · 16/01/2019 13:42

I think you're very naive to think you won't be having sex every time.

LuluMelons · 16/01/2019 13:43

Would you consider recruitment? It pays really well.

FissionChips · 16/01/2019 13:44

Your last post sounds like a sales pitch.