Who has worked in escorting?

[Ely7891]

I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

Do you get child maintenance?

Are you on good terms with children's father?

@Ely7891 its a good idea if you really are skint but not when you have kids.

There was a lady at my DN school (primary) who has a son, someone found out what she did for work and everyone started complaining to the headteacher, especially when she brought one of her clients to the summer fair at school, her son had to move school in the end because of the parents saying they would take there children out of the school if she continued to collect him/drop of.

Please don't do this. You're better than this kind of work.

Oh, you'll be expected to have sex. Sorry, but men don't pay escorts just for company.

It really is not like going home with some random. They are paying for you and the use of your body and they will want to get what they pay for. They will expect far more than some random and you may feel obliged or pressured because of the money. I think you may be being naive.

Many, many years ago when I was young, for less than a year. The money was, of course, very good and I met some interesting people.

The theory is that you meet, maybe for a drink or more often for a meal, usually in a hotel where they are staying, but don't have to sleep with a client. They pay a fixed fee for the introduction and a percentage of that goes to the agency.

In practice, the client always wants to sleep with the escort and the escort sets the price - she can of course decline if she doesn't feel comfortable with him.

Your kids will be judged if people find out, 90% will not let there children be around yours, I don't think it would bother me to much because u cant judge a child for there parents but I wouldn't let my child go to your house. as horrible as that sounds I just want to be honest so you can see how it may effect your kids

I have to add I did not have kids at that time but met some other girls who did have a child. I generally worked on my own but did one lunchtime gig in a hotel with businessmen and there were a few girls.

Some escorts work quite independently, set up their own websites and appointments so no agency is involved. I worked for an agency which gave me some protection, they did a bit of 'vetting', knew what questions to ask when a potential client rang up and had some reliable regulars.

HJWT, what a sad story. It's a great shame that anyone found out what the woman was doing to earn money and, even more, that they spread it around the school and made complaints. It was so cruel to do that.

I’ve done it, years ago. It was exactly like what you would imagine having sex with people you don’t want to have sex with often when you don’t really want to have sex would be like. I’m not going to pretend I ever enjoyed it and I’m not going to pretend it was the most dreadful thing ever. You accept that there will be risks to your safety, you accept that you will meet some assholes who want to get every penny out of the time they’ve paid you for.

They will be expecting to have sex, 99.9% of the time, regardless of it being called escorting. And bluntly, unless you are stunningly attractive and unblemished, I think the agency’s claims that you’ll earn hundreds an hour is a ruse to get you to sign up. It’s a competitive industry, you won’t get many bookings at that price, they’ll quickly pressure you to lower your rate.

You're naive if you think they won't want sex every time!!

If you would be happy to shag men that are cheating, shagging you because their wife is pregnant, not long had a baby, or doesn't want sex because she is just busy with life then go for it.

What about the stds!!

No fucking way would I let a randomer get up on me for a few quid.

There is always a way, always don't take the easy route. Where is your self respect.

Obviously it is heavily implied, but you do not HAVE to be intimate with them

Yes you do. That's what they are paying for. If you take their money and refuse to have sex you are highly likely to get assaulted or raped.

I don’t understand why a man who uses an escort is said to have “vile behaviour”

Because most prostituted women have been physically and sexually assaulted by johns.

Most escort users are after the company side just as much as the sexual

Hahahahahaha no they aren't

Or they could spend 4x less on a girl who offers straight sex

Just because a John wants a more pleasant experience for himself doesn't mean he doesn't expect sex. Especially if he's paying over the odds.

And again, so many people go out and sleep around on the regular with no such admonishments

Admonishment? Who is admonishing who? Not you, but you have a massively naive view of prostitution. Johns? I'll admonish them til the cows come home

A mother in my daughter's class is an escort who deals with her own clients from a website. She seems to do well financially and her daughter is a nice girl.

But there is a down side. Her daughter is invited to parties and play-dates but, not a single child is allowed to go their house. My daughter isn't friendly with her so I have never had to think about it. Everyone knows what she does for a living. I imagine the girl will be humiliated if/when she finds out.

It isn’t even requested every time, but obviously, especially repeat or full night customers will expect it all. I’m not exceptionally bothered about that; I’m doing it for very good money and making sure we all have a chance. I’ve tried every avenue and it’s just getting too much... I’ve been stressed about money every day for years 😔 recruitment with who? I was recommended the agency and then googled it myself x

I’m assuming you have intimate experience of the industry then notaman?

Recruitment consultancy? As in finding candidates to fill job roles for clients.

A lot of companies have trainee programmes and offer uncapped commission.

Would you do something like that instead?

I think you’re living in fairyland if your expectation is that sex won’t always be requested and that you’ll be able to turn it down. If a man wants to sit in a bar chatting to a woman and negotiating with her whether she’ll have sex with him whilst allowing her every opportunity to decline, he can do that any night of the week, in any bar, free of charge! You have the right to turn down clients you don’t like, yes - but the agency won’t keep you for very long if you do. They want to know that when somebody books you and they send you out, you’re going to earn them a fee and a satisfied customer.

If it’s an avenue you want to pursue, it’s your lookout. But get into it eyes open, not with fancy romantic ideas of glamorous escorts meeting wealthy men in fancy restaurants.

You should really think about how this would impact your children. You becoming an escort is really not in their best interests.

Why would she like some random job as a recruitment consultant? Why do you keep suggesting that? She didn't ask for career advice and who wants a commission only job when you have bills to pay? That kind of job has targets as in sales and isn't for everyone.

everyone started complaining to the headteacher, especially when she brought one of her clients to the summer fair at school

Come off it, he might have been a boyfriend, even a casual boyfriend, but why would someone want an escort to a summer fair? Are you suggesting he had his eye on the children?

Oh please don't bother trying to validate men who use women for sex, just don't, of course they are expecting sex, why do you think they are paying for your meal and drinks.

If you want to go down that route then do it, each to their own but don't start trying to make out it's a safe and good line of work.

There's a base salary and commission. I suggest recruitment because it pays well and training is offered so no experience needed.

Rrcruitment sales is 100x better than selling your body, especially when You have children.

I can't imagine a single dad of 2 children taking this route.

It's a silly suggestion to someone who a) isn't asking for it and b) may not want that type of job at all c) doesn't think it's 100% better than sex work just because she has children.

I did just such a job years ago. It was shit. Personally, I'd consider working on my back to going back to that if I had to.

What kind of contract are the agency asking you to sign? Would you be tied in to paying them money and for how long if it doesn't go well and you change your mind?

you aren’t obligated to have sex... they pay for your company

This doesn't give the impression you are being entirely realistic about it all. Of course you are. And remember the agency will obviously tell you it's great. No employer ever says 'we're shit to work for, let us tell you about all the downsides!'

I agree with @LuluMelons

The agency might know everything about the client, but once you meet up with them that's it, you and them. Imagine if you were hurt, maimed or killed by a "client" - imagine the long lasting impact that would have on your children.