Who has worked in escorting?

[Ely7891]

I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

"you have to pay them £100 an hour just to be in the same room as them"
How much do you think you would have to pay to get a masseur to come to your flat or hotel room? In Manchester the going rate in brothels is £40 per half hour, but at a couple of places it's £35 per half hour. The going rate for a half hour massage is £20 per half hour. I'm talking about straight massage here, nothing sexual. At one place in Liverpool it's £30 per half hour for a straight massage. So the prices are comparable.

Some women have sex with strangers for free. Some women never have. If the idea makes your skin crawl, then don't do it. Massage might be better for you, either straight massage or massage with a "happy ending".

How would you feel if you got raped?

Thank you theworldistoosmall.

I bet it can be challenging. And from the outside, considering there are reviews available about customers and all, working autonomously, without agency, does sound like one has better control over all.

People have talked about giving out their address. I daresay some girls do work from home but I wouldn't consider that safe. The best clients I had were men who booked into a hotel, they were usually businessmen but some were professional men who took a hotel room a little away from home. There was no coming to my place, they didn't know where I lived and I used a different name. I saw a few businessmen who travelled over the country. The hotel were good places with decent restaurants, nothing seedy.

Someone above asked how would anyone feel if they were raped.
Terrible. People are raped who are not escorts, it happens. I was sexually assaulted as a young person, had nothing to do with being paid for sex. I know plenty others who have experienced the same.The men who paid me were generally respectful and in some cases, rather adoring.

Had I been raped while I was working as an escort, I'd have stopped immediately. I'm not a brave person and would have been terrified.

How would you feel if you got raped?

Let's be honest here. This can happen to anyone at any time. I could have been raped by any of the random guys I was meeting from Tinder before I started doing this. A partner. Someone from a club. Work colleague. Walking down a quiet road etc.

If we in general start living our lives with the possibility of rape in the back of our minds, are we empowered by this? No. We give into the fears of the unknown. We play into the fear and control that rapists want when we curtail our lives.

Of course, it's challenging. What job isn't though? However, the good times far outweigh the challenging parts. It meets my needs of a high sex drive. If I was still as active as I was on Tinder no-one would care that I am giving it away and taking more risks, there's no way to review people. Although going out for food and drinks is very rare, unless of course, we meet in a bar first (which I refuse as I won't work with drunk guys), it's not show up, strip and fuck. We have a chat before, during and after. Not all guys want the full service and want oral including on you at times. Or they want their fetishes taken care of - feet, smoking, exhibition, s&m etc. It also meets the needs of my own fetishes. Plus of course, the bonus is I work a few hours and get a lot of money.

Will I be doing this in 10 years time? No. I am retiring from work by the time I am 50. I pay into a pension. I have savings. Debt free and this year I will be looking at investments. How many people can work for 7 years and then retire? Yet I'm the one being forced, exploited and whatever crap gets spouted lol.

Also when men are paying they expect you to do the things their wife won't do normally I'm talking anal being pissed on etc.
It's normally the most normal looking men who ask for the worst stuff and then get nasty when you won't do it.
Also be aware a lot of the eastern European girls do stuff without condoms as they have pimps so you will be asked for that as well.

I am a sex worker, and I would echo everything @notthefordtype said.

Definitely have a look at saafe, and read through the site and the forum. There is some excellent safety and business advice there, and the forum is very supportive. You could perhaps do a search there of the agency name to check it's not a scam.

I work independently and I would recommend it, but everyone is different. There is a section on saafe about agencies, and questions to ask them when you meet up.

If you need any specific advice please feel free to PM.

I have never done watersports or scat. I don't do anal either. The things I do are on my profile and during communications, we talk about what they would like. If they ask for things I don't offer I say no. If they insist during that conversation then there is no booking. If it gets brought up again at the visit, I walk and alert others. I am not the only one who does this either.

It's not just the EE girls who go bareback, a lot of girls born here also offer this. It's not something everyone wants. If you read ukp for example, lots of John's are put off when they see BB and will not book. We also check guys profiles to see if they have booked with people who offer BB.
EE girls also charge less, yet those of us who ask for more still get bookings. Even without doing bb, anal, water/scat etc.

OP are you deluding yourself by using the word 'escorting' instead of 'prostitution'? Surely the percentage - if any - of men who will pay to take a woman out to dinner or the theatre or whatever fanciful notion you might have - is infinitesmally low? So it's sex for money, AKA prostitution, with all that entails. You need to be sure you can handle what that really is, if you are really considering it.

I do think each to their own, so no judgement on those who actually do this and enjoy it genuinely, however I do think it takes a certain mindset , a good amount of skin of a rhinoceros and is not to entered into lightly just for the cash.

The pros for me when I did it were only have to work 10 hours a week to earn £1200 a week (or £4800 per month before tax).
I had loads of free time to spend doing things I love and I also had the time to study, go on nice holidays, have hobbies etc, all whilst having no debt, savings and a mortgage.

There were lots of cons such as having to lie to the people in my life about what I did for a living and worrying they would find out, having to deal with timewasters and disrespectful clients on the phone multiple times a day, and having to have physical intimate contact with some men that often made my stomach turn whilst acting like I was enjoying it.

Ely good luck! As a married woman lucky enough to be able to stop working to care for my little ones who were born premature, I wish you the best of luck from the bottom of my heart. Maybe I might have done the same as you if that was the only way available to me to give a better life (especially a better FUTURE) to my kids. Allow me to add one thing: please if you work at it and get money please invest in your kids education more than in their toys etc. Put some money for their future higher studies or support to start a better life. Maybe get some tutor to help them make the best of their schooling. Good luck ...

No amount of money in the world will get rid of herpes, HIV.

There are so many other ways to earn money.

I was on my own with 3 small children, mortgage alone was 1800 and my part time wages were 1100. I'm in a different job now, mortgage is still 1800 and I'm earning my money on my feet.

If you were friend in real life and told me you were considering this I would do everything within my power to help you.

So nice to have a John here lecturing other people on morals . No one here believes your self justifying BS you know.

@compostcornerIt probably works out cheaper when you factor in travel to somewhere to pick someone up. Possible entry fees. Drinks for yourself and the females you are trying to chat up etc. It all mounts up. Then, of course, how much have each had to drink and the ramifications this can cause.

Or Tinder and the lengthy process this can be, plus meal etc thrown in.

As least with escorts, you know what you are paying for and generally get your happy ending. I say generally because of course there are ones that don't enjoy it. And it's usually the pimped ones or the ones with the habits. Or you guys have performance problems. And from experience, you guys know who is and isn't enjoying it. You just have to read reviews about us!! A lot of escorts I agree aren't addicts and I think some are getting confused with the street hookers.

You want to believe that they enjoy it because you don't like the alternative and what it says about you.

Also the Eastern European girls are likely to be forced into it rather than being 'lazy'.

i joined this debate because the OP wanted some advice, i think that out of the 143 posts so far only a couple of us have actually give any from experience advice, the rest of you for whatever reasons are just slagging us off, thats ok, its a free country, and actually i know exactly what it says about me, i"m a sad man who is not confident chatting to women so i am happy to pay for sex, i am what i am. but gummygoddess what do base your opinions on, have you actually had any experience in this field, or are you just basing your opinions on newspaper reports and trashy television programmes.

stay away from the eastern europeans because i think that most of them are just to lazy to get a proper job

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I am not judging the women involved. Zero judgement on them.

I am basing it on the women I know who do it. They all say they love sex so why not get paid. They don't, they just want the money and are really good actresses as repeat customers are extremely important to their income. I am worried about them and their futures to be perfectly honest, one in particular I am very concerned about as she is fragile, but you wouldn't know it by the act she puts on.

EE girls can't be bothered to get a job?

Also to the person saying to invest in education not toys for her kids. Well meaning, but the OP is an adult. I'm sure she knows how to spend her money sensibly I know you didn't mean to but that's quite condescending...

Also I don't watch television, it's full of crap, you're right about that!

i stay away from the eastern europeans because i think that most of them are just to lazy to get a proper job and learn decent english

Sex work is a proper job. It's obviously not brain surgery but I can guarantee you that it is not the easiest job in the world either.

I've done it for years I don't anymore, but men treated me with respect, I charged £180 an hour but 1500 overnight, I made many great friends doing it, went to lovely places etc. And now things are changing like we have dedicated websites with a full database of weird men who are abusive and rude etc. And that is one of the downsides also also you get to see a lot of married men so your views on marriage etc do go out the window a little, although it's sense to know not all men are like that. Overall I enjoyed it and was lucky enough with who I saw and what I did, I never had anyone take money off me etc I worked from home or hotels using adultwork.com, men on there gave feedback so you can see if they are a good or bad client. Many could argue that how could a man respect if they are paying for your body? But it's no different in my eyes from meeting a stranger in a club allowing a man to wine and dine you then shagging and never seeing again .

If I was you I'd work by myself from Adultwork.com, you will get some weirdos messaging you to offer to see you for free to take good photos of you, offering you places to escort from rent free in exchange for sex, you say no to them obviously.
Say you arrange to meet someone at a hotel you ask for proof they are they first before you go, most hotels do not have a clue about it and you don't have to speak to anyone there, I used to make the guy meet me downstairs of it so one I can see clearly what he looks like although that never bothered me and two I knew hotel staff wouldn't ask me if I'm ok .
You take cash upfront before anything even happens and then you go from there. Honestly I miss doing it because it was so much fun and it paid so good. Also get a cheapish phone that you can block numbers from if you do get a bloke who thinks he can ring you at 2am Charlie'd up you can just block ignore and move on, also never use your real name, say where you live unless you know for a fact you can stop people from just rocking up at yours on the off chance you'll see them without an appointment. Also it's not good to text a client incase he is married so you usually wait for them to call you.