Married man?

[RealEyes]

So the guy I mentioned in my last post “WhatsApp” turns out he’s married. He’s tried to deny it, says it’s “complicated” and they are “separated but living together for their kid” she has all her profile pictures as them both.

Why are guys such dicks, why can’t they be honest.

@QueenOfTheCroneAge I certainly will.

😘😘😘😘

Any chance he has a key to yours? Any chance at all - change the locks. Keep a key in the door, bolt if you have one. Not trying to scare you, just so you feel safer.

No he doesn't have keys @QueenOfTheCroneAge I don't think he'll come. But the worry is more about how angry he is with me. If he's furious he'll come if he's being a coward he won't

I understand you're afraid of him turning up but I doubt that will happen. He has too much to lose and will already be trying to prove his faithfulness to his poor wife. Was he ever aggressive towards you? If he turns up or contacts you I wouldn't hesitate to contact the police. But he knows now you're not one to be be fucked about so I doubt he will dare show his face.

@misskiki69 good point

He has a terrible temper I have seen that, not with me.

He won't come as he knows I'll tell his wife

I'd be very surprised if he came to your house, his secret is out, he knows you will tell his wife.
The first week is the worst getting over the shock and processing what's happened. Make some plans to look forward to, a day trip or evening out. By next weekend you will feel a little bit more on an even keel. Spring and new beginnings are just round the corner 💐Xx

Jesus OP well done for standing up and being counted, he has treated you both badly. You did the right thing lady

So sorry you're hurting RealEyes. FWIW, I think you're very brave and that you've acted honourably, and I think most (if not all) of the rest of us on this thread think the same.

It will get better

Thank you! Your lovely words mean so much.

I'm struggling tonight but In time I'll be back on here laughing about what an idiot I was to fall for him.

Sending you huge hugs , we are right behind you , keep strong 💐💐

What a wanker.

I’m sorry he’s done this to you.

You’ve done the right thing telling his wife. Try to keep answering any questions she has, hopefully it will get her ‘enough’ to gather the strength to kick his arse out of their family home. This bastard needs teaching a lesson.

Thank god you trusted your gut. It’s hard and it hurts (and be prepared for the long term damage it does to your ability to trust), but thankfully you acted so quickly. 4 months is a blink of an eye in our lifetime.

You will be ok. But jet yourself cry for a bit for now 💐

You did the right thing. You should be really proud of yourself.

Just take care of yourself now. Spoil yourself and allow yourself to grieve. You'll be ok xx

Can't believe how amazing you all are.

From the bottom of my heart thank you.

Sending Monday morning strength hugs

@summersoonplease thank you.

I'm so angry today! So angry at him.

You will be , you'll be angry sad angry sad but you will get through this , not easy to hear now but I'm glad you found out now rather than a year down the line. What an absolute bastard!! And his wife poor cow married this bloke and he is a vile pig to do this to you both x

Another person here who thinks you are amazing. I would want to know if my husband had done this.

I hope the pain goes away quickly.

@StealthNinjaMum thank you 😘

I don't feel amazing, I feel betrayed and hurt. But I just keep thinking that's nothing compared to how she will feel and I should be grateful I found out

On my lord. Update!!

She has text again saying she's gone through his phone and he's been texting other women and did I know?

I can't respond to this

What a wanker!

Sadly, the fact he's texting other women doesn't surprise me. What a bastard.

Poor you and poor her. If you don't feel like you can talk to her anymore, I don't blame you. Finding out more disgusting things about him won't help you. You know enough.

Tell her that you've told her everything you know and don't want to be involved any further. Or, if she still keeps messaging, I would block her. You owe her nothing and have already done her a huge favour.

Chin up sweetie.

We you need a STI check

Personally I would respond "I believed that he was single and we were in a monogamous relationship. I have been lied to and misled completely. I really don't want to be involved, please don't contact me again"

Oh OP I thought that might be the case. You’re dealing with it wonderfully, both of you.

Please get an STI checkup as it sounds like he’s been messing around with a lot of different women.

and for you.

X-post with @RandomMess

I disagree with cutting her off. It will help, not hurt, you to find out just how much of a complete bastard he was. Anger is a good thing in these situations. Being ‘in this together’ will help both of you to see it’s TOTALLY not ‘you’, it’s ALL him.

Just reply as you would to a friend. You never know, she may well become one, stranger things have happened.

I’m completely unsurprised he’s been texting others.