Married man?

[RealEyes]

So the guy I mentioned in my last post “WhatsApp” turns out he’s married. He’s tried to deny it, says it’s “complicated” and they are “separated but living together for their kid” she has all her profile pictures as them both.

Why are guys such dicks, why can’t they be honest.

OP please come back and tell us how the conversation goes. Big hugs 💐

@Donkdonkgoo I will let you all know what happens. I may need some support later 😩

Aawww OP good luck, just keep your cool, his wife/ dp must have been smelling a rat but without proof. This chat will bring everything to light. Keep us updated please .

There's nothing wrong with showing both how hurt you are... it shows you are human, your a victim too. In fact I think it would help your conversation with the wife if you tell her how hurt you are by what had happened, your hurt for you and also for her. Be honest to her... it will help her see the humanity in you and make her realise what a twat he is... if she doesn't already know x

Good luck, you are doing the right thing, I've been on the other side of this.

She called me!

She wanted to know everything, said they'd been having marriage problems for months. She had an idea he had someone as he's been accusing her of seeing someone.

At new year they agreed to try and make it work, he kept asking her to remove the pictures from social media of them both or delete her accounts as he was sure she was seeing someone else m

She was lovely! I feel so sorry for her. I told her a few dates and said when and where we met. I told her I didn't know and what he had said about it all when I found out.

She didn't want to see texts but asked if he denied it would I be ok sending her some.

I never felt so scared when my phone went. I thought she would shout at me. She sounded hurt, I could her their son in the background and she was at her parents (she said).

I didn't ask what she was going to do. I don't think it's my business. But I've blocked him on everything so he can't contact me.

I feel numb and lost.

You have done the brave and right thing.

Well done op this is not your fault

That poor, poor woman.

And well done, RealEyes, that was really brave of you.

to you both and hope you're both ok.

Feel so sorry for her DC

I do feel awful, I keep questioning if I've done the right thing. But I know I would want to know.

Don't beat yourself up, he's been fraudulent towards you... fed you a pack of lies.... and her. She was already suspicious, you have now given her the opportunity to make a decision and move forward with life.
I can tell you living with someone that you suspect isn't being faithful is hell on earth because you don't know 100%..... well now she knows, he knows you know, he knows she knows..... OP you have removed his power and exposed the scum bag for what he is. X

@Donkdonkgoo that's true.

I need to keep myself busy to stop over thinking things

Any ideas?

Not your fault, OP. He did the damage to his marriage. He hurt his wife and child. Don't hold yourself accountable, because you aren't, but well done for doing the hard thing and telling his wife. She deserved to know and can now make an informed choice about her relationship in possession of all the facts.

Thank you @ReaganSomerset

Thank you everyone for your kind words. This has been a very difficult day

What do you enjoy doing RealEyes? Good book? Anything on netflix? Can you catch up with some mates?

Might watch a new boxset or start paining the living room. Need a project to keep busy @FreshlyWashed

Oh well down you, I hope you are ok

Done even!

Well done, you should be proud of yourself. I have read so many threads in here, where women have refused point blank to tell the wife/fiancée/partner that her man is cheating. You have definitely done the right thing. She will be thankful you have told her the truth. What a bastard, accusing her of cheating!

Aw shit. I was hoping he had been telling the truth. Go for a run? Painting a wall sounds good! What hurt. Bastard.

@Wotev part of me was wanting him to be telling the truth.

My gut told me he wasn't she proved it.

Always trust your gut

Having a panic wondering if he knows yet and if he's going to come to my house screaming 🥺

Block the dickhead. You deserve better!

@Thatsalovelycuppatea I've blocked him but he still knows where I live.

If he comes round causing problems, film him call the police and let his wife know.