Married man?

[RealEyes]

So the guy I mentioned in my last post “WhatsApp” turns out he’s married. He’s tried to deny it, says it’s “complicated” and they are “separated but living together for their kid” she has all her profile pictures as them both.

Why are guys such dicks, why can’t they be honest.

Of course you give her your number. How else will either of you get the truth here??

I've gave her my number. She said he's out later so will call me.

She's not said anything else

Well you'll find out one way or another.
I hope for both your sakes he was telling the truth.

So she doesn't want to talk whilst he's there. Sounds like they are a couple I'm afraid

Did he really think he would get away with it... I hope whatever the outcome of the phone call you get closure and can move on. He deserves to be single.

They are together she wouldn't entertain me if they weren't or still have all her pictures on social as them together.

I'm nervous she might get really angry at me 😐

If she's angry it's at him not you ... remember that you are innocent in everything you believed him. She may be in shock but you know how it feels you only just found out too x

She'll probably want to compare your story to his.
To figure out his guilt.
Did you chase him or do the dates match with him being away etc.
She probably had her suspicions all along.

I never chased him, he came after me.

I've got texts from him telling me how much I mean to him, ones that confirm we slept together (if you get it)

I just don't want to hurt her anymore by showing her. But I will have to

I think you're doing the right thing.?I'd want to know. Good luck

Play it by ear.
'You're really sorry you honestly didn't know. Had debated wether to tell but would have wanted to know if the situation was reversed. Be kind.

Good luck OP, you are doing the right thing, is she starts getting angry with you just say "you understand how she must be feeling and that you would feel the same way too if you were in her situation" tell her you have more evidence in the form of texts if she wants to see them. Might be worth writing down a list of dates and times you have been with him, you will know things about him that would prove to her you arnt lying.
i was once in a similar situation and told her I had introduced her husband and bought him certain items and body lotions. He even recommended the actual body lotion to his wife 😏.

She won’t get angry with you now. She will be grateful you told her and you’ll probably bond over what am arsehole he is. Then he will get in her ear and it will be turned all round to being your fault and you being mental. Just to wait and see.

I wouldn't get my hopes up about her not being angry with you, even though you didn't know he was married. You are still the OW and she's probably dealing with a shock and most definitely she is hurt and angry.... she might direct some of this your way as it's easier for her to blame you rather than someone she cares for.

She might already know.

Your first conversation needs to be to establish whether what he's told you is true and that he's not still married.

After that, once you know either way, tell her what you feel comfortable telling her. She will probably have a million and one questions, I would, so out of sister solidarity I'd answer what gives her the information she needs without being too intimate with details.

No way would I have got involved this far with her. Send her a message summarising what's happened then block them both and run away

Good luck OP 💐

You've done the right thing. She may well be angry but how would you feel. Try not to take it personally, it's not your fault her husband is a lying cheating scum bag.

Tell her all the truth, send screen shots if she wants them. Be kind to her please, she's probably going to shaking with shock but I bet she'll be grateful you've been honest. As for him... block him and move on.

When is DH going out. D Single Man as he probably will be as of today.

You've done the right thing by contacting her. You've been together 4 months she must have noticed something ?!

You did the right thing op x

Thank you everyone for your lovely messages of support.

I'm going to be nice to her, I don't want to get in an argument or become her best friend.

I'm still hurting from his lies, but I don't want her or him to know how much I'm hurting.