If someone you'd been dating sent you this...

[upandupandup]

After a month and maybe 5 dates. What would you think?

This is in response to me asking if they wanted to carry on seeing me, as they had gone quite distant.

I DID really like you (I think you knew that!) if I’m being honest, we have a lot of banter, back and forth, but there’s no depth whatsoever in the relationship thus far and it makes me wonder if that’s just you, or if you’ve got more to say at a much deeper heartfelt level or if you’ve been holding back. To be honest I really can’t tell, but so far in our relationship I’ve been looking for a lot more from you from the mind and from the heart.

I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things and we’ve just not done that at all. In fact, as I said, you don’t really know me coz you’ve never taken the time to get to know me and if I’m being honest, I’ve been really quite hurt by that.

Too intense or is there an element of truth? I try to keep things light and not get overinvested so early on but this has really hurt me.

Lol

I hope the comments have cheered you up OP. He is an idiot and clearly searching for his "soul mate" that he connects with on a deep emotional level on first date . He actually probably feels inadequate in some way (my bet is he is shit in bed). I'd tell him thanks for being so honest and you were thinking that you probably weren't compatable because and block. Then keep your head held high that you dodged a bullet.

I met a guy from tinder, he was lovely, very deep but not in a forced way, he never said it himself initially but I understood him. We kept things quite light, met each other (from OLD) and there was no real spark but I like him a lot. We have stayed friends and over time we have become better friends and discuss deeper things (not in a romantic sense at all). Deep thinkers don't tell you they are. You discover them. People who tell you they are deep thinkers, like to think they are but actually are not, in my experience.

I would reply ‘you ok hun?’

Oh god my knees literally banged shut reading that

Bin him off. Arrogant narcissistic bore.

I think he's an absolute dickhead who's not as clever as he thinks he is

I had a guy dump me like this once. Basically said I was a great shag but had nothing interesting to say! I am a great shag but I'm also pretty intelligent and have a lot to say. It stung me for a few days but then I realised he wasn't that interesting himself

He sounds like an ex of mine who would send pages of this rubbish. Turned in to a massive stalker.

mr personality not nope run girl run

😂 What a knob!

Yes, he thinks you are culturally and emotionally shallow.

Just block him and move on.

Deep thinker my arse.

What an absolute twatbadger

Run for the hills OP and don't look back....

Apologise and ask him some deep and meaningful questions you've so far been holding back on ...

Who would win in a fight - a stegosaurus or a monster truck?

How much Lego can you get up your bum?

What's your favourite Disney Princess and why?

Congrats op, you've dodged a bullet 👏👏👏👏👏

What a tool.

OP you're well shot. That's absolutely ridiculous after five dates. It would always be hard work.

@Greensleeves Oh god my knees literally banged shut reading that this made be burst out laughing at work

He sounds like a dick

Sounds like his emotional intelligence needs work.

Did he ever try and start any deep and meaningful conversations?

Who would win in a fight - a stegosaurus or a monster truck? Hey now. I reckon I could craft a decently deep conversation from this question.

Ooh I could quite go for Marx if he whispered the theory of alienation or commodity fetishism (despite the beard, wife, mistress and boils).

Shize! What a jeb end! As PPs have said. Deep people tend to not tell people they are deep. I suspect I eat off plates deeper than this 'un is. Set him free to find some poor sap the love of his life.

I would send, 'Oh I was hoping that our next date would be you talking into a hot air balloon for an hour and we could both take off and look at the FUCKING SCENERY!'

Just thought, does he say 'per chance' a lot and always want to talk about ancient Egypt? If so, he's the pseudo-deep weirdo I dated time ago. Mega intense and angsty- a taxi driver once asked me if he was ok because 'he looks like he's going to burst into tears' 😂

Red flag central. He'd bore me to tears!

I imagine he's sent that text to a number of people...

Nope!

Jeez. You've only met him 5 times, it's supposed to be the lighthearted getting to know each other and having fun stage.

I'd reply saying "Oh well, never mind eh?"

God, what a narcissistic prick. Get the hell out of that one!

He's basically just auditioning you as an audience for his navel gazing bollox.

He's a pretentious twat.

This is the same guy that makes us listen to 90s trance anthems whilst eating dinner, likes to go on about the amazing 'experiences' he's had after taking ecstasy and has only wanted to get drunk and watch tv on most of our dates.

He’s a moron (in this case, pronounced ‘mow-ron’)