If someone you'd been dating sent you this...

[upandupandup]

After a month and maybe 5 dates. What would you think?

This is in response to me asking if they wanted to carry on seeing me, as they had gone quite distant.

I DID really like you (I think you knew that!) if I’m being honest, we have a lot of banter, back and forth, but there’s no depth whatsoever in the relationship thus far and it makes me wonder if that’s just you, or if you’ve got more to say at a much deeper heartfelt level or if you’ve been holding back. To be honest I really can’t tell, but so far in our relationship I’ve been looking for a lot more from you from the mind and from the heart.

I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things and we’ve just not done that at all. In fact, as I said, you don’t really know me coz you’ve never taken the time to get to know me and if I’m being honest, I’ve been really quite hurt by that.

Too intense or is there an element of truth? I try to keep things light and not get overinvested so early on but this has really hurt me.

Need an Anadin after reading that! What a ball ache he sounds! I dated someone like this and you will be so, so much happier without him and all his brooding (pretentious twattery). It sounds like he wanted his ego frequently massaged by you as well, run for that hill and don't look back!!

He sounds totally self absorbed to me and extremely boring.

Please don't even give him a reply, he sounds like an absoloute knob jockey.

Plenty more fish

Bye then

Ugh, he sounds awful - he certainly thinks a lot of himself. Doubt anyone would be able to match his deep thinking, intellectual vision of himself. Bore.

It's not you, it's definitely him, it's only been a bloody month, it should still be light at this stage!

Sounds like a complete nob

The arrogance of the man!! Ditch, but first send him a really obscure quote that he won't understand. For instance : "Truth is so obscure in these times, and falsehood so established, that, unless we love the truth, we cannot know it" . Blaise Pascal

Jaysis. Byeee! Try not to let the door hit you in the way out.

No need. A month in shouldn't be this serious and this much effort. Run for the hills OP and don't look back xx

Love it @MairzyDoats Love the name too btw

You've gotta laugh, feel pity then ghost!

I would reply:

*I can do deep and meaningful... Shag, marry, kill? Locke, Sartre, Marx.

You condescending twat*

And block

Why so many "to be honests" on their part? Count: four of them. Four. That got my hackles up immediately. They are conspicuous.

Far, far too intense to feel at all comfortable.

Who does he think he is? Jean-Paul Sartre?

What a bellend

Totally up his own backside

Bin him

Run awaaaaaaaaay!

Anyone who describes themselves as a philosopher and a deep thinker is no doubt a total wazzock who loves the sound of his own voice.

I agree with the previous poster- leave him pondering over Locke, Satre and Marx and get rid.

Woah! Too much.
I'd suspect noone ever 'gets him'

^^ this ... and ‘a bit of a philosopher’? I’d say ‘but a bit more of a tosser’.

Ick, ick, ick. Run for the hills and don't look back!

I read it again. I wish I hadn't. What a complete tadger.

He’s a total nut job. Text him back ‘Good to know’ and then block.

I’d run like the bloody wind.

He sounds like a self important knob. Philosopher and deep thinker
You’ve had 5 freaking dates!

"Bling bling and bugger off mate".... That would be my response then block him. How did you even manage 5 dates with this person? I applaud your patience OP.

Wow!

Sorry but I can't stop laughing at that 😂

What an absolute tool! Cheque please!

Ah bless ... sounds like he has watched too many movies where a couple meet and spend the next 48 hours holed up together, chatting non-stop and discovering that they're soul mates.

He could have said "I just don't think we're on the same wavelength".

Maybe the question is whether you do enjoy philosophising, discussing the meaning of life and having deep conversations? And particularly as the core of your relationship? If that is you, then tell him. If it isn't you're just not compatible. Which is fine.

Can you not reply a la Catherine Tate - suis-je bovvered?