If someone you'd been dating sent you this...

[upandupandup]

After a month and maybe 5 dates. What would you think?

This is in response to me asking if they wanted to carry on seeing me, as they had gone quite distant.

I DID really like you (I think you knew that!) if I’m being honest, we have a lot of banter, back and forth, but there’s no depth whatsoever in the relationship thus far and it makes me wonder if that’s just you, or if you’ve got more to say at a much deeper heartfelt level or if you’ve been holding back. To be honest I really can’t tell, but so far in our relationship I’ve been looking for a lot more from you from the mind and from the heart.

I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner.

I don’t know if you’ve picked up on it, but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things and we’ve just not done that at all. In fact, as I said, you don’t really know me coz you’ve never taken the time to get to know me and if I’m being honest, I’ve been really quite hurt by that.

Too intense or is there an element of truth? I try to keep things light and not get overinvested so early on but this has really hurt me.

Hilarious! Lucky escape!

I once went on a date with someone who quizzed me on Marxist economics, and feminism. Never made that mistake again. He based his knowledge on podcasts. I have an economics based Ph.d. I'm always interested in people's views and a good discussion. But pomposity is a sign of idiocy.

I just re-read but the line that is genius is but I’m a bit of a philosopher and a deep thinker, and I’m in my happiest place when I’m talking about deep meaningful things

Its about as deep as saying "I like nice things".

Pahahahaha! He a dick.

Oh, God. I think I might have dumped him when I was about 20.

No amount of pseudo-intellectual conversation (ie, listening to him tell stories of his lecture that Jesus was a Spaceman to JWs - and, of course, they were completely turned into atheists/and everybody applauded) could mitigate the way he decided on his 21st birthday that what he wanted to do was sit in front of daytime TV in white Y fronts that came up to his belly button for the rest of his life.

Is he Mr Mybug from Cold Comfort Farm?

This is the same guy that makes us listen to 90s trance anthems whilst eating dinner, likes to go on about the amazing 'experiences' he's had after taking ecstasy and has only wanted to get drunk and watch tv on most of our dates

Sooooo..... do you really need to ask?

Dear fucking god.

What is it with these people? I once had coffee with a wanker like this who after explaining (at what seemed like great length) why football is really about gang-raping brides, asked if I was keeping up.

I said I had to leave to pick up my daughter from school. It certainly seemed like 3 o’clock, but it was only 1.30, as he pointed out. I said her school finished really early and left.

He needs you to be a particular way for him.

Never a good look for an adult.

I would reply ‘you ok hun?’

Please send this! 😂

Does he have floppy hair and even floppier shirt cuffs?

Lol - well at least he tried to convey his thoughts - a philosopher giggles - in the kindest possible way ‘ move over nutjob ‘ next

He sounds navel gazing and tiresome as f*ck.

Dump.

He sounds like he smokes a lot of weed.

Arse and lucky escape. He's basically accused you of being self centred and vacuous- but with a maybe chance to redeem yourself with the last sentence- Run!!!

You could text back ‘sounds like we’ve both had a lucky escape’ and depending on your mood choose to add or not ‘because you obviously haven’t found the passive, rapt audience you seem to require (FYI warbling on about your thoughts does not automatically make you a deep or profound thinker) and me because you’ve revealed yourself to be a bit of a knob. Have a nice life because I intend to (must go now to finish my post-dinner session with Sartre and Proust).’

This is the same guy that makes us listen to 90s trance anthems whilst eating dinner, likes to go on about the amazing 'experiences' he's had after taking ecstasy and has only wanted to get drunk and watch tv on most of our dates.

Do not only is he up himself, he a boring twat too. He also thinks he’s intellectually your superior. Can you really be arsed? I vote for dumping the twat.

To be fair by date five you should have had a drunken discussion about the meaning of life.

Doesn't everyone?

That should read... so not only is he up himself...

Are you the man, and this is a woman? I've never had a man say "I think the sex part would always take care of itself and, if I’m being brutally honest, that’s not my main driver with a would-be life partner."

What a complete ar&ehole! You have had a lucky escape by the sounds of things.

A former friend of mine has a partner of that ilk. He puts her down, criticises her pronunciation and all sorts. We are no longer friends because I just couldn't stand him.

He sounds like hard work. You're very lucky to have escaped that one!

Oh noooooo what a total bumhole. Please feel lucky he has told you who he is after just a few dates!

I am legitimately one of these "omg i am soooo deep and intellectual, can we talk about my sociology course" types and even I would never in a million years send or even think something as cringey as this. Awful, dreadful, more red flags than the Soviet Union.

This is the same guy that makes us listen to 90s trance anthems whilst eating dinner, likes to go on about the amazing 'experiences' he's had after taking ecstasy and has only wanted to get drunk and watch tv on most of our dates.

Is there any chance he'd taken something hallucinogenic before composing that text? I certainly felt the fumes reading it...

In any case, I wouldn't be able to resist reposting that on Facebook. 😈

He sounds an utter bellend

God he sounds tedious.

I'd reply and say "Fair enough, best of luck with your search for someone who you feel is more of an intellectual equal".

By the sounds of it he's so monstrously self-absorbed he won't recognise the veiled insult...

He sounds a navel gazer. Too earnest and self absorbed. You're well rid.