Haven’t heard from my boyfriend since Saturday

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We’ve been dating for 6 months we’re not the type that text each other all day long but we always message each other good morning and usually have some kind of text conversation in a day.

I left his house Saturday lunchtime and he was getting ready to meet his friends in town for food then they were going out out later on we talked a little but while he was out then around 9pm I text him saying have a good night and let me know when your home he said he would and text me saying good night. Woke up Sunday morning and he hadn’t text so I text him the usual good morning and asked about his night I didn’t hear anything all day but assumed he was just sleeping/hungover I text him again Sunday night asking if he was alright and the message didn’t deliver I tried to ring him and it went straight to voicemail and has done ever since. I assumed at first he’d just lost his phone in his flat and let it die (this happens a lot he’s not the type who’s always got his phone in his hand) but he was supposed to be going out again last night for New Years and the phone is still dead so I’m starting to get really worried because he wouldn’t have gone out without it.

Not really sure why I’m posting or what help people could be but I just needed to talk to someone, maybe have some reassurance?

That’s very strange. Could you contact his friends or check his social media to see if he’s been active?

Have you got the number for any of his friends? Why don't you just go round and see if he's ok?

I’d suggest as previous posters, social media and or popping round?

I’d just go to his house and see if he’s there

Oh dear how confusing. How far from him do you live?

As others have said. Ask around, go around to the house. Something is not right.

Do you WhatsApp? Or have him on Facebook, but he should have replied.

Could he have lost his phone whilst out on Saturday? If so, he could have just not replaced it yet or he’s replaced it, has a new number and didn’t have your number saved anywhere but on his lost phone so is unable to get in touch.

Please try bit to worry. I had this problem and there were so.many negative Nancy's on here !! It.turmed out my ex had vertigo and was quite unwell..just be patient..he will message you sooner or later x

He doesn’t have Facebook or any social media (really wish he did right now) I don’t know his friends or have any of their numbers, he doesn’t see them very often Saturday was the first time he’s been out with them in months. I know he has what’s app so I downloaded it and messaged him on there last night but that message hasn’t delivered either. He has an amazon kindle tablet but I don’t know if there’s anyway I can contact him on that? He lives about half an hour away but I’m at home with the kids and have no one to watch them and they don’t know about him yet so I can’t go now. I have his work email so I can email him tomorrow when we’re both supposed to be back in work and hopefully he’s just had a problem with his phone but I Will go to his and check on him tomorrow after work if I still haven’t heard anything.

Kim82 that’s what I’m hoping has happened that his phones just lost or broken, I know he wouldn’t have my number saved anywhere else

Hi op, did he read the Sunday morning text? Very strange behavior given you text each other all the time. And not even a happy new year. I hope he isn't lying low because he do something he shouldn't have or he is ghosting you.

If I had a partner I text every day, I'd find a way of letting them know I was ok even if I lost my phone. He must know you'd be worried.

As said, try and relax and hopefully you will hear something soon.

This is worrying if it's very out of character for him.
It's working out if he's ghosting you or if something is wrong.
If his phone is broken you'd think he would have let you know by some other means. Popping round etc. If it is broken and he's not bothered to contact you that is alarm bells.
If you think he may be ill would it be worth going round and telling kids your checking on a friend.

The thing about him not seeing his friends often is really odd.

LaughingCow99 no he didn’t read the text in the morning. He’s very caring but he’s a very very chilled guy so it probably wouldn’t occur to him that I would be worried at first but I would have thought by now he would have found some way to let me know he was ok.

cushioncuddle it’s so hard the thought that he might have just disappeared and ghosted me but when the what’s app message didn’t deliver either I was sure it must be his phone because we’ve never spoken on what’s app before so I wouldn’t have thought he would have thought to block me there if he had been ghosting me (unless your what’s app blocks people automatically if you block them on your phone? I’m not sure how it works because I don’t use it) I don’t think that he has though we’d just spent a lovely few days together where we exchanged Christmas presents and we’re making plans for next year I don’t see why he would spend money on me if he was going to ditch me the next day it’s all so confusing. He wouldn’t be able to turn up at my house because he doesn’t know my exact address, he knows roughly where I live but he’s never been here we always go to his

I assume he lives alone?
I'd be worried he was ill or injured or something.
Is there anyone else who is likely to have had contact with him such as his parents?
I think I'd be inclined to go round today to check.
If he's deliberately ignoring you he's horrible but at least you'd know he's ok and not alone needing help.

The not seeing friends that often isn't weird to me. As I have got older I see less of my friends because of families, going out and drinking less....

maybe he has lost the phone and doesnt know your number by heart to contact you - shame to say Ive been with DP for 16 years and because his number is stored under his name, I cannot remember it at all. In fact cannot remember most people - would need to rely on social media for that

How many times have you actually met up in person, OP? Seems odd that he has never been to your house, he could have just damaged his phone as this seems to be the main way you have contact.

Try ringing his phone while withholding your number, see if the call goes through maybe.

brizzledrizzle I just meant that he didn’t go out out a lot he works full time and is studying on the side so he doesn’t have a lot of free time or spare cash so he doesn’t go out much plus we had been spending more time together so he hadn’t seen them for a while he still talks to them a lot though

Does he live alone?

Does he have a landline?

If he's not too far away, I'd drive over (if you drive) and check up on him.

It's a bit odd though that after 6 months he doesn't know exactly where you live. That for me would be a red flag for a relationship as it implies a lack of trust on your part and a BIG lack of curiosity on his not to even know your address.

Why haven't you ever told him?

Is he quite old- ie doesn't do social media- or is there another reason?

Has he blocked your number, If I was regularly messaging someone and had a problem, I'd find a way of letting them know xxxx

You say you can email him once he's at work.

Doesn't he do email either ( not a work email??)

Agree with PP.

Withhold your number - 141 first- and see if any reply.

Blocked numbers on my phone mean they get voicemail automatically. My phone won't block texts though.